She comes to my house and we are alone and we are in my room and we cuddle alot but i was getting tired of cuddling and i made a move to go down her pants and then i bailed out because i thought i was forcing her into somthing but she didnt stop me is that my bad note we have been togather for 7months so should somthing happen?
2006-06-18 14:32:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said it yourself..."she did nothing to stop you."
When she feels uncomfortable she will let you know.
Remember that there is no magic calendar that says what is appropriate and at what time during the relationship. Because it is fluid and changes relationship to relationship.
It sounds like you wanted something to happen, and as I said before, she wasn't stopping you, so it's a safe bet that she wanted it too. If you were forcing her she would definitely have said something.
WARNING: If she at any point tells you to stop. Then STOP! Stop, take a step back and apologize. Don't make a big deal out of it then and there. Just stop. She will appreciate it. And you can talk about it later.
But, I think you're fine. The next time, let it happen and stop if she gives the word. But I don't think she will.
Happy Hunting ;-)
2006-06-18 14:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sith Puppy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with going slow. However, she has to "want" that also. What would happen if you're slow, but she wants you to go faster? She gets bored of you and moves on. What happens if you move faster but she wants you to move slower? Then, it becomes a very uncomfortable and embarassing moment. Talk to your partner. For example, the next time you are cuddling, make a "suttle" move. Not straight for the pants!! A step at a time. Try for feeling outside the clothes. Maybe caress her breasts (from the outside). Then, when you graduate from that, maybe rub her legs, her thighs, but don't go straight for the crotch just yet. As you graduate from that, then, you probably move to under the shirt. The final step should be inside her pants.
Through all of this, you move slow and carefully. Don't shoot straight for the homerun. As you see that she allows you for each step, then you may move to step 2 and so forth. Oh by the way, don't shoot from step 1 to step 10 in one night.
You lead it, but let her finish it. If she agrees on your actions, she may even go more.
It's a give and take. You try, she tries....move on.
2006-06-18 21:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE!! What the!! If that were me she would have thought I was a lesbian! Haven`t you wonder if the carpet matches the drapes. She wouldn`t be there in your room with you if she didn`t want too. And if you were doing that and she didn`t stop you what are you waiting on. She is not going to tell you to do it and if you start and she says stop then back off. But if shes enjoying go for it!
2006-06-18 21:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the time is right she will let you know. If you force the issue before she is ready she will split out of your life. Whats the big hurry you have your whole life ahead of you. If you truely love her that much you will wait, If you are only wanting down her pants and her not ready you will lose her forever
enjoy the precious moments you are spending together
2006-06-18 21:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by silvereagle1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should talk about it. When both of you are ready, then go for it. If she wasn't acting like she wanted it but then she didn't stop you from doing it then she probably did want it, she was just being really bad at playing "hard to get".
2006-06-18 21:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by rkroxmysox915 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well depending on your ages... if you are old enough it sounds like you have a good grasp on being polite enough to consider how she feels.. but I would slowly try moving to the next step. If she seems uncomfortable, try talking to her telling her you'd like to move things along.. but never pressure her where she feels unsafe or uncomfortable.
2006-06-18 21:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by MacktheKnife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she didn't stop u that means shes ready n waiting on u 2 make the first move!!
2006-06-18 21:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by Patrice H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
intimate things like that cant be planned.. if u care about her u wait til shes comfortable.. but if she didnt stop you then obviously you werent forceing her.. if ur comfortable enough make a move... and if she does stop you, hey then you know!
2006-06-18 21:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...some ppl dont want to do it until marriage so you should make sure u r both ready and both want something like that
2006-06-18 21:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by chocolatechip333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow kid just keep kissing her your not going anywhere with that yeah move into something else use tongue :-p and then do some four play and maybe screw
2006-06-18 21:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by lilangelbabe133 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋