Ok I was going out with this girl for 14 months and I made the stupid mistake of breaking up with her on Tuesday(I did because I was terribly desperate) now she is being a frigging weirdo saying maybe it happened for "some reason". She only want to be friends but I told her I'm not even going to talk to her unless she takes me back. What can I do to make her come back to me. (We both still love eachother like crazy)
2006-06-18 14:32:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because these girls were making fun of her so i threaned to kick they're asses(I won't let anybody hurt her) then her mom goes psycho saying that im a dumba$$ and that I will get her jumped and now I have just adopted her problem and her mom is mad at me and my family is not helping so I felt cornered and it was just too much ******** for me
2006-06-18 14:39:22 · update #1
..man, you sound desperate (understandably so..) How old? I am guessing late teens and everything seems worse then (heck, I'm old as hell.. 53/F, but I can remember.) We all go through all the same s**t, honey, and eventually we work stuff out and figure out what we want/look for and hopefully 'get' the right girl.. Let ms see here. She's as shook up as YOU are if that's some kind of comfort to ya. What happened to make you bust up w/the girl I am wondering? I bet it was something small.. You didn't say she did anything super awful, like cheatin' on ya. I doubt that's the problem w/either of you then. (Skip that 'it happend for some reason' crap.. lol Not buying it..) Yeah, it IS hard to 'just be friends.' I never could do it. I don't know why everyone insists on using that line. Somebody else is gonna write in here "you can't force her to take you back." I am thinking you ought to play ball, kiss her butt a bit to perHAPS get her back.. (but!.. prepare yourself for losing her too! You sound kinda desperate in here.. it's a worry.. like, don't flip, K?) You have to kiss her butt anyway and "be her friend" like she says. THAT IS THEONLY WAY she'll take you back, buddy.. o.k.? alright! (yeah, it's young love, thru and thru..) g'luck muchacho
2006-06-18 14:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the sane if it comes back it's yours and that's how you know for sure.If you don't like the hard waywhich does suck sometimes.Try to be her friend or even best friend.Sometimes this way you can learn even more about them and then you use it to your advantage.Findout things such as what she thinks is romantic,What she looks for in a guy,what are her interest,seem dedicated but not desperate and don't confuse her but don't let her get to know you to where she can smear it in your face later.Good Luck to you and her and you two together.
ps love will fix the parent problem and if she wants to be friends it might not be that bad,appologize and explain how u feel but at the same time appologize.
2006-06-18 14:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by devotion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good idea way to get her back forcing her. Let her process on her own. if she still loves you and wants to be with you then she will eventually come around and come back to you but you can't force her into a decision she doesn't want to make. That will only lead her into not wanting to be with you or even stop talking to you as friends. Just show her how much you want her back.
2006-06-18 14:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well #1 if you are not willing to talk to her then you certainly won't resolve anything.
#2 if she is on the "lets be friends" thing then one of 2 things are happening her. Either she is testing your loyalty to her and she feels she has the upper hand because YOU want her? OR, and this may be the one here, she doesn't want to be exclusive to you and has her eyes on someone else.
I suggest to allow her some time, see if she calls you. No call from a girl is not a good sign.
2006-06-18 14:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u shouldnt have said u wouldnt talk to her unless she takes u back,a duh!!!! *slow* anyway if u act to desperate she may not even want u. If she wants u give her time ok but dont act like a loser than u sound like a stupid luv song ..... Im only 13 but im an 8th grade matchmaker ask Mizz Pink *She's my Best Friend*
2006-06-22 01:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by basktball_qt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you so desperate to break up with in the first place? If she isn't willing to get back together then maybe she was glad that you broke up with her and not the other way around.
2006-06-18 14:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can suggest you do is to wait...you can't force her to come back to you because then she will only resent you in the long run for forcing her into something, she herself didn't choose!! If you are both crazy in Love then it will all work out!! Good Luck!!
2006-06-18 14:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by jaye21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you messed up. so all i can say is talk to her.you hurt her when you broke up with her so know you want her to take you back like nothing.i dont know just keep talking to her tell her you love her and cant be with out her and you made a stupid mistake.try hard i am pretty sure you guys will get back together.
2006-06-18 14:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Varsity =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably acting "weird" because she's hurt that you dumped her. if you want her back you should talk to her even as a friend especially if you still love her and she loves you. if you don't talk to her anymore there's a good chance that you could lose her for good because she'd possibly just move on.
2006-06-18 14:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Applebottom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you made a mistake, not good. Give her some time alone,
if she really loves you things can work out. Good Luck.
2006-06-18 14:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by cololauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋