I got this guy?

Question

I'm with this guy and i love him but im not inlove with him because im kind of inlove with my ex and i feel bad,really bad.What should i do?

Answer 1

Just involve with your man, and ignore your other thoughts, they will simply die out, let the time to do its job. . . .

Answer 2

Do you feel badly because you KINDA love your ex or do you feel badly because you're not IN love with your 'guy'? At any rate you should concentrate on trying to make the most of your relationship with your guy after all you're still harboring feelings for someone you once HAD a relationship with. Why IS he your ex? Will he ever not be? If you do get back together will it be better? Does he love you? Reasoning things out helps most thinking people make sane, rational, decisions. Besides I've always been of the opinion that true love grows. Never sprouting overnight. In order for there to be deep strong roots it will take time. God bless you and always be a lady of good character.

Answer 3

Cookie, whats the point of having someone that you can make your door mat and continue to hurt. Even if you haven't hurt him now, it will happen later and then what? You need to explain to him that you care about him and that your not in love with him. This will be easier for him to except and will be a better friendship for you both as long as the truth is out. If you keep string him along somewhere down the line hurt feelings will come into play and then you'll be called the b*tch for not telling him sooner. If your having feelings for your ex what is stopping you and him from being together? Truly think about what is good for Cookie and what she really wants and needs in her life. If that means just being friends or having just friends for now then keep it like that and don't give anyone any emotional scars. God bless girl.

Answer 4

Honesty truly is the best thing. I mean to have a great relationship have both with that person love and being in love and totally turned on whenever you see them or even hear them on the phone. If your still thinking about your ex, try to get him back or at least try being alone for a little while until he is totally out of your systema dn you can give the new guy you 200%

Answer 5

well i have been in this sic be for 1st, way the pros and con's 2nd if you love the other man more then your ex then follow your heart it will usley never lead you wrong some time it can be scary but you got to find out which one u want to be with. and if you can't figure out which one you love more, then wait a while and take it slow and thing should work out for you

Answer 6

I don't know.I have the same problem.What I do is try to get over my ex cuz I really wasn't happy with him that's why we aren't together,and concetrate on my new relationship cuz I am happy with the way he is,It's just me so I still am good friends with my ex and keep my options open for if he changes someday.

Answer 7

Get control over your emotions.

Stop acting like a ping pong ball.

You have an ex for a reason, and it isn't to hurt some other guy.

Answer 8

You should tell they guy the truth. You are wasting his time. How would you feel if you were with a guy that was in love with someone else, but stayed with you for selfish reasons.

Answer 9

talk to them both!don't play games you wouldn't like someone to do that to you.Do what you feel is right and good luck to you.I think you should take some time away from both to reflect your true feelings, I would say a month or so then make up your mind. Good luck!

Answer 10

Tell him how u feel. I think y'all need to take a break, and u need to get over ur ex B4 u love anyone else.

Answer 11

You sound confused. Maybe you should give it some more serious thought and try to decide which one you really like. Maybe you need a completely different person, and forget both of them....Start fresh.....