I need your help Should I let a special girl know about all the following, some or none and how should I do it

Question

I am a Mormon, about three years ago I met these two sisters at church at the same time and when I met them I had this overwhelming feeling that instant that I was going to marry one of them. Then later I had a dream which a voice told me that one of them would not love me as much if my physical appearance were to change. Then when I saw the one "I think I should" marry, a year later, again at church, we both came around the corner in the hallway and right when we made eye contact the lights flickered, exactly at that moment. I have also had dreams of talking to her dad asking for permission to marry her and even the walk down the aisle and they have felt so real. We have never really gone out just hung out as friends but there is no denying there is a connection, I think we both have held off on dating because we wanted to better ourselves before we go out. She is on a mission and due back in 7 months but I plan on leaving for a 2 yr mission in 4 months, should I write her, what 2 say

Answer 1

At this point - I think you should be much more interested in figuring out which one them wouldn't love you as much if your physical appearance were to change. It could very well be the one that you're so hot over. And if it is, she isn't worth having!!!

Answer 2

You sound like a good man.. quite earnest.. Spiritual? When you say on a mission (I am not Mormon) do you mean a trip to eulogize oveseas? The two years you plan on being gone on the mission is quite a while! It is hard to make plans .. hold someone even IF you have a firm hold on a relationship. I think it is time to get the ball rolling here, sir. I dismiss the dream.. (dreams are odd.. they really are a reflection, which is then 'twisted' of our outer life.. they are not a portent of the future I feel. Mine never were anyway.) Can you make some sort of contact using the Mormon Church? I thought I heard they kept the men and women apart.. do they? There must be some way (I mean it's good for the church, having Mormon men and women intermingle, marry, produce children for the church) to get acquainted with this woman. Have you even been formally introduced? No time like the present. You are right I imagine about the 'eye contact' thing.. and she is probably waiting for yOU to make the first move (which IS the right thing for a woman to do.. Mormon or not) Oh, I just re-read this and you did say you've 'hung out as friends.' What did you do when you hung out.. where was it? You need to make eye contact and get her off (go for a walk, ask her to the little store at the corner 'for coffee..' heck, ice cream then) perhaps. You need to talk to her more.. and more.. and more! You need to build up this 'love.' (yes, I think it is love.. or a good start on it.) Too bad you couldn't (with some pals) say 'throw a barbecue' .. it's barbecue weather.. and say invite her whole family. You just need to hang out with (any of them, hopefully her the most.. but any of them are fine at first) and make it evident you like the whole clan I think. Then you can approach the girl (or the father.. I don't know how formal you are.. you might need to butter up the father before you make a move?) Well, this is all the advice I can offer. You sound headed the right way and I think your dreams of marriage will materialize for you..

Answer 3

It seems like you have been mulling this over for a long time now. If you feel that strongly about her then write her the letter. You should not reveal to her that you want to take things to the next level in your letter though. Better to say that in person. You should tell her in the letter that you've been thinking of her a lot and can't wait to see her again. Also mention that there is something very important that you would like to discuss with her face to face. Make it sound mysterious. Tell her it's about some dreams that have been troubling you and you want her opinion. One smooth line that you may want to come at her with is that she is the girl of your dreams. And you wouldn't be lying either.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Definately write to her. If you truly feel that way, you should contact her. A problem could be that you are relying on your dreams a little too much, and 'signs'. Those aren't always true (I've had dreams of my friends and I in a Holocaust-like setting, and my soon-to-be boyfriend and I dying in a college dormitory because of two freaky bullies).

Since you aren't going to be seeing her for such a long time, you shoudl write to her and let her decide whether to write back and continue/start a relationship or to not start one with you. Give it a try! Nothing worse than a missed chance =) Good luck!

Answer 5

By all means do it. Even barring all the "signs" that you have experienced, she is still your friend and there is nothing wrong in contemplating of furthering the connection. The worst case scenario is that she denies the prospect and still chooses to remain friends with you, which in retrospect, is not that bad of a situation at all. You will never know if you dont try, just write her a letter/email. Good luck.

Answer 6

I would suggest that you write to her and explain how you feel. She too may be feeling the same way you are and is very shy about expressing herself to you. As for the dreams, I would recommend that you hold off on that until you guys really get to know each other. God is good all the time and all the time God is good. He brings in our lives special people to help us and to grab our attention for certain things. Enjoy the time that you spend with her and as I said keep talking to her. God bless.

Answer 7

YES! Write her and tell her everything, tell her your afraid of sounding strange, but willing to take the chance just to get your feelings out. If you don't write her or tell her, you are always going to wonder what if.

Answer 8

i think you should let her know how u feel but dont tell her that story because it will only freak her out. i think you should tell her that you feel a strong connection between the two of you and something about her makes you feel that she is the one you want to be with. BUT DONT TELL HER THAT STORY!

Answer 9

No, don't tell her!!!! You'll sound crazy! When you write to her, just talk as friends! Four years is a long time....just wait to see what happens!

Answer 10

well....maybe you should let her know how you feel and also see what going in her mind maybe she'll also tell you something interesting you never know....