What is so wrong about homosexual adoptions?

Question

I am conducting a reasearch for my university about the contraversies that surrond gay and lesbian adoption. My best friend is an adoption lawyer and has told me many stories about the gay and lesbian couples that come to there organaztion to adopt and the response they get from telling them that it is not possible in this state (Oklahoma). I would like some real life stories to help support my claim that many gay couples have the abilities and love to nuture that child.

Answer 1

I am 100% against gay and lesbian discrimanation!
Can't people realize that we are all the same, humen beings.
The fact that gays or lesbians cant addopt, in oklahoma, surprises me. I think that's pathetically sad. It's mainly the gays and lesbians that need to adopt, if they want children, they are people and want to start a family, like many other "normal" people. I wish your state coudl see that. I wish everyone could understand it.

As for the loving and caring part. Why wouldnt they be able to love and care for a child as much as straight familys?! There really is no reason why. A lesbian or gay couple is fully capable of loving and caring, maybe even more then a straight couple. That is just discrimanation saying they cant.

As for the people who said they cant because homosexuality is wrong in the eyes of god. Alot or things have changed since gods time. And places have changed, god was taken out of most schools, does god really have power over the state for letting homosexuals not adopt? why should he have this power when he doesnt have the power over him being in schools. This may sound like im totally against god, but im not. Im just saying the sociaty has adjusted to this change, of not letting god into the schools and such. Why can't they adjust to homosexuals and them having a right to be treated like every other person!

Answer 2

Valid points have already been raised by others. First of all I do not see anything wrong with adults of the same gender acknowledging an attraction to each other. For as long as there is consent from both parties one can only wish them well in life. For as far as marriage is concerned I have a fragmented reply. From the standpoint of religion, most probably some shade of Christianity, I feel that while the homosexual couple have every right to seek marriage they cannot but abide the official stand of their religious establishment on the matter. If the Church of "This Denomination" forbids marriage between homosexuals then the same-sex partners have a choice, either not get married, get married anyway by what would effectively be a renegade cleric, or turn to the state for redress in the form of a civil union. From the civil standpoint, again I do not see why two persons of the same sex should not be allowed to decide that they would like to be treated as a single unit, therefore enjoying benefits very similar, if not identical, to a married couple. When we enter the field of adoption things become less clear. I have focused upon the rights of the homosexual couple up till now. It is at this point that I need to also consider the rights of the child who would be adopted. A child who is raised would need to receive a balanced up-bringing that is not completely uncatered for by homosexual parents, their perspective tending to be different from members of any gender who are 'straight'. Some homosexual persons either partially compensate for their gender-related attributes, or accentuate their gender-related attributes. A woman, for example, would either be more tough or become super-feminine, delicate and sweet (This is strictly an example, not a generalization). The dynamics of the couple are completely different. There is also the issue of the stability of same-sex marriages to consider, as well as the marginalization and bullying that a child would face from peers. It all boils down to my belief that society is not healthy enough for homosexual adoption to be 'quite' OK. Were the situation different, such as, for instance, a more friendly attitude towards homosexuals in general then I'd be more inclined to say that they should be allowed to adopt kids. Incidentally some kids don't know they had been adopted. This is infinitely harder to pull off as a homosexual couple, I would think. (Disclaimer - The above is as perceived by a non-homosexual (no, really.) male)

Answer 3

Absolutely nothing..you do not find children in care of homosexuals being abused, and you will find that Gays tend to be very good parents, get involved in the childs schooling, social life, and in fact, make relatively strict parents...Gays produce no more Gay offspring than the general population...and to my knowledge, Gays have no agenda other than to give the best to the child. I have never seen any kind of indoctrination (whick wouldn't work anyway) or anything else Gays are accuse of doing by ignorant, biased, bigoted jerks. If these same people who yell the loudest about Gay parents were half the parents Gays are, there would be considerably less problems with kids today.. I have raised two of my own, and they have both grown into fine men, married, I am now a grandfather. So much for Gays 'turning ' children into gays...ridiculous concept.

Answer 4

People use the excuse that it's against God's law. Interestingly, though, people will turn a blind eye when a child is abused within a family with a heterosexual couple. It seems odd that a heterosexual couple does not have to "prove" their ability to love and nuture a child, but a couple who can withstand public hatred and scrutiny the way many homosexuals do, are expected to do so.

Answer 5

I know many MANY lesbian couples in Ottawa County (Oklahoma) that are raising children. They seem to be doing GREAT at it. I also know 2 gay men in Grove Oklahoma thats raising their children (both boys and girls - 4 total) and have the best children around. They all have boy/girl friends of the opposite sex and seem very happy. Their dads have been together for almost 7 years.

For as adoption it self, I know its legal for gay people to adopt in Oklahoma. It's my understanding though that the social workers want MUCH MUCH MUCH more from gay people (like make twice as much money, have much nicer homes, and have LOTS of outside family support), unlike straight couples that are wanting to adopt.

Answer 6

I think a child benefits more with a parent from both sexes than with 2 fathers or 2 mothers. But then again a homosexual couple has just as much ability to love a child as a heterosexual couple.
I think a child needs contact with both male & female adults to reach their full potential in society when they grow up.

Answer 7

nothing is wrong with it. there are just people out there in lala land who dont agree with it. but i think people need to get over the whole homosexual thing and let people live their lives.

some people think that a homosexual couple wont raise a decent child because they will be lacking either the mother or father influence. but HEY how many of us grew up in single family homes. is that our parents fault then that maybe some people are homosexuals because they grew up in a single parent home?

make homosexual marriage and adoption legal.... no one should care as long as they 2 people are in love

Answer 8

I don't believe there is anything wrong with it. The only problem this country has is the high cost of adoptions and the bigotry that many people have towards gays.

Answer 9

It's teaching children to believe that being homosexual is right, when God condemns and hates immorality. Remember Sodom and Gormorrah?? People need to research and get the "accurate" knowledge of the Bible, form God's viewpoint and Not Mans's!

Answer 10

It's the same as children being adopted by a KKK member. It perverts them into thinking that something is right when it's not.