Crush advice, please (I promise that this one's different from all the others).?

Question

There's this girl who I've liked for about three years. She's one of my sister's good friends so I see her every now and then. All this time I haven't told anyone about my crush because I was shy and I was waiting for her to like me first. I was pretty sure that she liked me but she just started dating this guy who's really a bastard.
I know I kind of missed my chance and I should have asked her out years ago but what should I do now?

And I'm 19, I'm not one of those stupid kids whos not old enough to be dating.

Answer 1

You didn't "kind of miss your chance", you thoroughly and completely missed your chance.
You could try challenging the bastard to a duel, just hope you're better with a sword than he is.

Answer 2

Just go for it. Tell her how you feel and let the dice fall where they may because you'll regret it later if you don't do it now. So she has a crappy boyfriend - who cares? So she might reject you - who cares? You will feel a lot better knowing that she knows how much you like her even if she doesn't share your feelings.

I've been there and I have done that and I am sooooooo glad that I got everything out in the open.

Him and his girlfriend have been together for probably 3 years now, off and on during the time that I've known him, and they are gonna move into together according to the comments she's left him on his MySpace profile. Heart-breaking, huh? It sucks that I can't be with him because I do so very much want him because he is so very much exactly what I want in a guy (blue eyes, bass guitar and all), but he knows how I feel about him and I know he still thinks about me (he told me he thought about us after I told him how I felt about him).

So all you can do is tell her how you feel and hope for the best. You may not get what you want, but you will definitely get some peace of mind.

Good luck!

JUST TELL HER!!! :) Email her if you can't do it in person, but tell her. You'll thank me later.

Answer 3

Be up front with her about your true feelings. Tell her you've liked her for a while now but you know she's already dating someone and that you know you missed your chance this time. Then tell her when she realizes his a jerk maybe you two can get together and see a movie and have dinner .

Answer 4

in my circle of friends, as women, although we don't talk about it... we know it wouldn't be cool to get on that level with any of each other siblings. the reason for that: 1. it could mess up the friendship between siblings and between friends 2. they'll be in ur business when u don't want them to 3. and when u guys finally stop liking each other things tend to get really sour, not like breakups but worse. but if u really want her, work at her pace. she already knows you like her, become a better friend, really get to know her.... BUT DON"T WORK THROUGH YOUR SISTER. do it on your own. once she see's that yourreally interested she'll catch on to your likings. Go ahead flirt with her, woman like that especailly when she's down and since you know her boyfriend is a bastard flirt with her when you know he's done something wrong. b/c 9 times out of 10 he probably doesn't tell her thats she's beautiful everyday (he probably says it when he wants sum) but just get Yo GROWN MAN ON and do you. Don't play games or act childish b/c it will turn her off.

Answer 5

Start flirting with her, everytime u see here flirt, flirt, flirt, flirt and then when she breaks up with the bastard all the flirting payed off... after she breakes up continue to flirt with her for a few weeks to a month so she can get over that guy and you can ask her out after that "recovery time"

GOOD WAY TO FLIRT WITH HER AFTER SHE BREAKS UP is to go buy flowers and have them delivered to her with a "Secret Admirer" on the card and continue to send stuff...like what i do ... First i send chocolate with the card, second i send 11 red roses and on the card i put " do you know if you stood infront of a mirror with these 11 roses you will see 12 of the most beautifullest things in the worldl." lol and finally i send a teddy bear or sumthing...send each one at different time...and after a few days of the last item talk to her and ask her "so...how did u like the chocolate, roses, and teddy bear, and then ask her out right there bc she would love you for the roses and bear. trust me it works GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

since she is already taken you should not interrupt them.
i don't know about the bastard guy. are you sure he is really a bastard? maybe you are just jealous of him cuz if she was smart enough, she would not have dated such a bad guy.
maybe you have some problems about your shyness.
having crush for 3 years is something. if you are normal kid, you would have done something years earlier.

Answer 7

well u jus gotta wait for her to break up. but for her to realize wht kinda person u r.. be a friend. help her out in ne way.. n be there for her. she will knw the diff btween u n her "bastard" bf. girls alwaz fall for it, a sweet guy who wants to b wit her rather thn use nd dump.
once u get close.. wait for the rite moment nd let her knw how mux u love her, nd tht u wanna c her happy.
gudluck to u, dude i gotta say 3 yrs is a long time to wait.

Answer 8

be there when she needs someone to talk to, show her that your diffrent be her friend no matter what invite her to a show or just hang out listento all that she has to say. go out for a burger or ice cream do the little things that her current guy won't do or is too macho to do, and if other tease you about it just remember your being the better person.

Answer 9

it wasnt too different. you ****** up pal. i got my chnace cause i was scared to miss it. wait around try and date if you can and when she is free again get in fast explain that you have liked her for years but was too shy. when she got with this ***** you felt you ahd missed the chnace and regretted. now you have broken up i didnt want to live with any regrets. this way even if she doesnt feel the same she will respect you. go for it and shoot high never settle for less.

Answer 10

Tryjust being her friend.... not to much of a friend.... or she will only feel and see you as a friend....you..... and stop waiting for her to like you.... so if she's over visiting with your sister..... I'm getting something to eat.... want to come? or I'm hungry you guys want somethig to eat? take them both..... and then ease into action.