I need a good way to talk to my nine year old about sex?

Question

He's almost ten and keep asking questions so i dont know i think nine is young, but is it really?

Answer 1

i think 9yrs is young ... i dunno if u should BUT mother knows best!

anywho, pop in a porno and say THIS IS SEX LIL ONE

Answer 2

Even though children is developing and maturing more rapidly these days it is best to keep things on his level. I'm sure there is a lot of things that he is curious about but maybe you can explain to him that you will go on levels with him and by the time he is a teenager he can go to the next level and that you will allow him to take a sex education class at his school where they introduce how the woman and man are made up and how children are conceived etc. Maybe you can use the old way.... the birds and the bees, the flowers and the trees! You know... explaining but very mild and simple with it! He's to young to go to deep. Talk to a Librarian about this situation and see if they have any mild information about sex that can be explained to a child because I'm sure there is other children that has already schooled him on some things. I was a kid myself a long time ago and things haven't changed to much as far as curiosity is concerned! You decide.

Answer 3

I had to talk to my girls at 8-9 because they were coming home with all kinds of weird "wrong" things from other kids. I was very brief about certain things. They do not need all the details just the basics of what sex is for and how basically it all comes together. I do stress the "love between 2 people". Hope that helps out! It's hard but you dont want them learning from others.

9 is not too young either because my daughter was told by a friend that it was all done inthe butt and some other weird stuff. WHen mine started telling me these things I knew it was time.

Answer 4

I got to disagree with 9 being too young. with all the sex in the media that he is assuredly being bombarded with daily. It's a good idea to be explaining this now. But understand that you cant go all in and say this is how people f---. With a little kid like that you'll need to interprete it in a way that a child would understand. And maybe even not explain all the way. Just say stuff like boys and girls are different and when they get OLDER, they get these urges if they really like each other that lead to this.... save the whole pregnancy thing till he's about 11 and so on.

Answer 5

I think it depends on the maturity level of your child. If he/she is asking questions about it, I believe he/she deserves an answer. But what you would say is totally up to you. When my son asked about it--I explained to him that it's kinda like gardening. The male has the fertilizer and the female has the flower that needs to be fertilized in order to have a baby. He was also about 5 or 6, I don't remember,'cause he's 13 now. Good luck.

Answer 6

Its fairly likely she already knows a lot more than you imagine she does. However, whatever age you feel is best then you do it. Clear up the doubts and confusion so she won't be sucked in by peer pressure. Let them know that they always have your ear on the issue. Besides, seeing as how kids get started so early these days they should be finding a way to teach sex education to a fetus in the womb.

Answer 7

Take the easy way out and buy her a book. Get one geared towards pre-teens, and make sure to read it before you give it to her so you can see how you like the message. Write her a note in the front cover telling her that if she has any questions she can ask you whenever she wants.

Answer 8

9 is a little too young, but these days they seem to know more than we did that young. i have a 10 year old and boy am i scared to even say anything about sex to him. put it in terms that he/she will understand and go from there.

Answer 9

Just be real. You don't have to go into details too much, but you may have to. Answer all the questions up front, and don't leave it to ppl in the streets or at school to teach them about sex.

Answer 10

The way I did it was to be completely honest without giving away anymore details than needed. She is good for now and later I will give more details as I feel she needs them.

Answer 11

i dont think i could tell you im still learning about it myself. im 20 lol. i like to feel that im good but those that dont learn more never improve. anyway back to the point answer what you can if she askes. if not the schools have classes for that. learn the way i did. from older friends.