Why do mothers who see another mother parenting differently than she would...?

Question

feel the need to go confront the other mother as if she has some right to intervene in her life and parenting style? For example, one of my neighbors has a rather rebellious 7 year old son, so she is very firm with him, and is quick to take his priveledges away if he gets caught acting up outside. Now, this other lady, who has a 15 month old baby girl, got in her face about being "too hard" on the boy, and abusing him by excessive chores and restriction. In this case, the boy was outside riding his bike around the cul-de sac throwing rocks at other kids and animals. I personally would have gave him an asswhooping on top of it all, but...anyway, the busybody chick insists the mother of the son is abusing him. I'm confused. Why do some mothers feel the need to be in other parent'ts business with their kids?

Answer 1

I'm glad to see that we still have some real mothers who believe in showing their children what will happen when they' re out doing something wrong.If we had more real mothers doing the same maybe alot of these kids wouldn't be so out of control ,talking back to their mothers and having no respect for their elders.I would like to say to the mom keep the discipline up.

Answer 2

I asked a similar question a few days ago.
"why do people with no children think they know exactly how to raise yours" you may like some of those answers.

How did the mother of the infant know the punishment from the mother of the boy? Maybe the woman with the infant is tired as hel! of hearing that woman scream at her child in the street.

Personally, I am the mother of 3 boys, and I can tell you that behavior that the boy was exhibiting was boredom. Chores certainly cure that. However, the detructive nature would indicate that he is looking for parental attention, even bad attention is worth the beating. That boy is more than likely just trying to get his mother's attention, and that mother should really figure that out soon before that boy gets any older.

Answer 3

I can see why some people do it. Those kids are going to go out in the world one day, and the way someone is treated at home while they're young often affects the way they act toward others in the future.

So even though at the time, what one parent does might not affect another, their child could certainly affect every other child's life. This world is messed up enough already, we are all sending our babies into the worst times in history, and maybe if some people treated their kids better, a few lives can at least be somewhat better, if only because of good experiences with others.

Answer 4

I give my kids chores to do when they have misbehaved as well as taking off the privliges like tv and computer games, I think the crime should fit the punishment.

Throwing rocks at other kids and animals is very dangerous, I feel the mother has a right to give her son extra duties to perform in repayment for the trouble he has caused.

Everyone's ideas on parenting are diffrent to our own, even my husband and I have falling outs over the kids sometimes because he is more strick then I am, that was the way he was brought up, where me I am not as strick but I did the slightest thing wrong I ended up with a belt around my bottom.

I think kids need to learn that if they are going to do things wrong there is a punishment to it sooner or later. there is a diffrence between right and wrong and there are punishments involved for the wrong things.

I think society has forgotten this with all the child protection laws, I live in australia and my son is taught that we shouldn't smack him when he is naughty (this only happens in my house when something serious is done) This is why we have so many problems with society these days because the basic right of many parents to disiplince their child have been taken from them.

So to the neighbour who has her son doing extra chores for something he did wrong I stand up and applude her! WELL DONE FOR A GOOD PARENTING!

Answer 5

Sometimes it's just a control issue, but more often than not, they truly believe they are protecting the child in a more neighborly way than calling the county department of social services. There are way too many children being abused, and it's actually a pity more people don't take action to protect them. It's difficult for a novice to tell where the line should be drawn when it comes to discipline versus abuse. Some children are just plain difficult to raise, and parents of "easier" children may not have the knowledge or awareness to realize that.

Answer 6

If its abuse,they should step in and say something,but if another mother is disciplining the child in a non-abusive manner,the other mom has no right to step in and be telling people how to handle THIER child.Its rude.
I guess some mothers are conceited about thier parenting "skills" and they felll they need to teach other moms how to be a better mother.
Once again.Rude as hell.

Now,if I was a Mom and I saw people cursing and yelling at thier children,punching thier children,etc. I would go chew them a new ***.

Answer 7

From what you've told me I'm not in disagreement with you in this case. But since kids cannot stand up for themselves really, some parents--if they believe a kid is being mistreated--feel like it is their responsibility to try to put a stop to it. Another reason (which helps to fuel a site like Yahoo! Answers) is that most people have an opinion, believe their opinion is right, and feel compelled to share that opinion with others. Part of human nature I guess.