I went on a date with a nice guy but he insisted on paying only half?

Question

Is he a keeper or no? Really nice guy but thrifty.

Answer 1

Wow, that is not alright. If a guy wants to take you on a date he should finance the whole date. I am not saying that you should not continue to date him, but you may want to be wary of him. If he is this thrifty so early in the relationship, just imagine how he'd be down the road. Personally, I probably would not continue to see him romantically. Mr.Cheapy McCheapskate can just be your friend if he wants to do things that way.

Answer 2

I know I'm going to get flack for this from younger people on this sight, but I suggest you run the other way. A man should pay for the first date - definitely. If he asked you out, he pays. It's not only until you have gone out a couple of times and get to know each other better that you can split the bill if you both feel comfortable with it. Once you are in a serious relationship, you could foot the bill for a special occasion like a birthday.

By the way, the word is stingy, not thrifty. Run!



P.S: Here is the link to an interesting article on the same topic:

http://www.ursinus.edu/resources/grizzly/090204O.pdf#search='Should%20a%20man%20pay%20for%20the%20first%20date%3F'

Answer 3

Well, let me ask you a question, would you rather him to go in to debt trying to impress you?

I don't know what exactly is going on here. He may just be, um, insistant in the whole men and women are truly equals sorta thing.

He may be just a cheapskate who won't spend a dime on you.

He might also be a cheapskate but not err really know what he's doing.

If it's one or three, he can either be, err, re-educated or something. If it's two, I wouldn't go out with him worth nothing. No matter how cute he was.

Answer 4

The guy should have told you something before the date like "we are going Dutch" . But he is a doushbag for doing that. Maybe I'm old fashioned but when I ask a women out, the night is on me. That had to be embarressing. What if you didn't have money with you. You suppose to go wash dishes or something. If he is a nice guy and you want to go out with him again, Just be blunt and to the point. He didn't mind putting you on the spot and feeling awkward. Return the favor.

Answer 5

paying half is better then paying none. I actually insist on us both paying half cause it makes more sence to me. Although sometimes the guy insists on paying mroe, that's an added bonus.
I think he sounds like a keeper, just not included with the bonus.

Answer 6

It depends on a few things. Does he have a good paying job or a minimum wage job? Is he in college? (college kids always seem to be broke even if they work as well). Is he in debt up to his eyeballs? Just moved into a new place (instant money drainer)?
There could be all kinds of reasons. You could, next time, claim that you didn't bring any money and see how he reacts. Then you can go from there.

Answer 7

Either he doesnt really like you or he wants to know u arent about the money. Where did he take you out?
He is cheap if he took you out to BK or MacD even if he paid the entire amout.
On the other hand, he can take you out to a place where the appetizers alone are 15 to 20 bucks, he is not cheap if he is paying half coz even his share would cost way more BK.

Answer 8

Just because he only paid half doesn't mean he isn't a nice guy. You should get to know him and if you like him then he is keeper.

Answer 9

I don't see any problem with that. Go out a few more times and see if it is thriftiness or just being a cheapskate.

Answer 10

Wow! Are you a gold digger?? Who asked who out? Have you just started dating? Why should he spend all of his money on someone he just met? Maybe he's in a tight spot right now with money. Is everything else good about him? Maybe casually ask him about it and see what he says. If it keeps happening after a while, look at the pros and cons.