I've been in a on and off relationship with this dude. I love him, but one day he was over my house and I called my mom and got mad about something. I ended up taking my anger out on him and kicked him out. I've regreted it since it happened and wish I could take it back. I was gone to just move on, thinking that it wasen't meant to be and I really messed up. But I don't want to be with nobodyelse. I am really confused.
2006-06-18 12:08:52 · 14 answers · asked by delawaregirl83 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I don't think that you would have kicked him out for nothing. You made a decision, and regret it now. You have to ask yourself why the relationship was on and off...is it really worth it!? You should just talk to him, have a long conversation, then decide together what is best.
I know how you feel! I'm going through a similar situation, and I know how hard it is. I also feel like there isn't anyone who could take his place, but I'm tired of hurting! There really is no easy answer for you!
You can im me if you'd like!
2006-06-18 12:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
^ I agree with Jen about one thing. "On and Off" relationships are on and off for a reason. People in on and off relationships never cease to amaze me, after proving to themselves over and over that their relationship doesn't work they just keep coming back for more.
As for your situation...
Taking our anger out on others is something we normally do to the ones we care about. Why? Because we know that they will come back. Take your problems out on someone you don't know too well and there is a good chance they will never speak to you again. Whereas with a loved one, like a brother, mother or long term partner, they may be miffed at first but because they love you, they understand your moods and will come back with understanding.
Having said that, to me it doesn't seem your relationship was at that stage. And as mentioned previously "On and Off" relationships are on and off for a reason.
One of the harsher facts of life...what is done; can not be undone. Once something is said, it can not be unsaid. It's easy and indeed comfortable, to think you can't be with anyone else but the person you currently have feelings for. But this is a blindness that comes from living in the moment too much, without looking forward to the future. I understand that you regret what you did, and I more than feel for you, that you are truly sorry. But it happened and now you have to deal with the consequences.
My advice, is to take your time with this. You've learned something from this, take that lesson on board as use what you've learned for the future...don't doom yourself to making the same mistakes over and over. Again, take your time to deal and get over what's happened, clear your head before making any rash decisions. Take it one day at a time.
Best wishes to you.
2006-06-18 20:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sith Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what u just told us,that u had to take ya anger out on somebody but u are sorry 4 taking it out on him
2006-06-18 19:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, me and my bf argue all the time and we've been together 3 years, but arguing (not physically fighting) is normal and if you guys love each other for real he'll forgive you. It happens to the best of us.
2006-06-18 19:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that you are confused. It does sound like you are angry with this guy. What does your gut tell you? I wouldn't stay with someone because I don't wanta be alone. It isn't fair to him. Spend more time with your friends.
Good luck and take care.
2006-06-18 19:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by The Nanster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apolize to him. on and off relationships dont really gets you anywhere, because you both dont have a bond with each other. you should try to control your anger. good luck
2006-06-18 19:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by aznbbygrl67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT DONE IS DONE.. U CAN'T FIX THE PAST.. HE PROBABLY REALLY HUMILATED... IF U WANT HIM SO BAD.. HOW ABOUT A PHONE CALL ALONG W/ A SORRY??? I'M SURE THAT'LL HEAL THE DEALL.. EXPLAIN TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW UR MISTAKE. GUYZ LOVE IT WHEN U ADMIT UR FAULT..
2006-06-18 19:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
visit a phycologist to deal with your anger. Then beg for forgivness.
2006-06-18 19:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop stalking him. leave him alone he needs a life and u also need a life. no offence and good luck.
u lookin fine sister
2006-06-18 19:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize tell him the truth guys like it when you show you can be vunerable. Do something nice for him!
2006-06-18 19:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋