i have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years,3 months into the relationship he cheated on me,i found out but took him back,ever since that i have found it hard to get over,i love him he is very special to me,should i leave him or stay with him?
2006-06-18 12:04:25 · 26 answers · asked by sanders_sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
everything in the relationship is great our sex life is good we have a laugh and enjoy bieng together,i dont get why he did it,he says it was a drunken mistake.
2006-06-18 12:09:31 · update #1
You're not gonna wanna hear this, but you should have left him when he first did it, luv.
2006-06-20 08:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Personally, I tolerate no cheating. You cheat - you're out...period. If you've been together for over 2 years and he cheated on you 3 months into the relationship and you're still not over it, you never will be. You will always wonder where he is, what he's 'really' doing, have bad 'feelings', etc. So, if that's the way you want to live the rest of your life, stay with him. If not, find someone worth your time.
2006-06-18 13:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend cheated on me when I was 21 weeks pregnant. He was working away at the time, but when he came back, I knew something was wrong. I found out by seeing his phone bill, I rang the girl up and she told me all the details of it. Due to this, I lost the baby. I took him back and he said he would never do it again. Last year we went on holiday together with some friends. On the last night, he disappeared and didn't come back till the morning. He had slept with one of the holiday reps and when we came back he told me it was over between us because he knew how much he had hurt me. He said he couldn't help it, it was offered to him on a plate. I believed him the first time when he said he wouldn't do it again, but he did. We were so good together, just like you, and the sex was brilliant. Since then I have met someone else and my ex keeps asking me to go back to him because he loves me and he has changed. He has got a new girlfriend now and he comes to see me behind her back! I love him with all my heart but know I can't trust him. There is no going back after someone cheats, the trust never returns. You can't get over something like that, it stays with you forever in your heart and your head. Whenever he goes out you will be wondering what he is doing, and who with. Love just isn't enough, nor is great sex. Believe me, I know. Save yourself any more heartache by ending it now. It will be better in the long run. Leopards never do change their spots.
2006-06-20 06:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its so hard, sometimes you love a person so much or rather you think you do.. It can be very confusing.. sometimes people say " i wont find any one else"
Sarah my hun who I am marrying on nov 11th had a boy friend for a long time _____ and he cheated on her and I loved her then. Being sensitive to her person I had a hard time telling her because she thought she loved him so much she would not even accept that he would have cheated. So I had to put it out of my hands and into a faith that one day she would see.
It took a few years and Sarah hun got over this person :) she went through alot of stuff Poor girl. I treat her like a Queen! as she deserves.
See, she was so devoted to her man that she would go through hell for him. I only imagine what it must have been like and I feel overwhelming compassion and want to more so treat her like she deserves.
Sarah has proudly came along way in accepting simple moral truths. She has forgiven herself for staying with him and She is such a loving person :)
see.. http://www.tcstuff.com
2006-06-18 14:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by jason c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier said than done but it's time to think with your head rather than your heart. If it's still bothering you after all this time then there's clearly a problem.
If it's a question of you not trusting him, then I'd say finish it. But if it's just a matter of your ego then it's something you have to work out.
Deep down you know the real answer and the right dicision to take, and only you can make that decision. No one can do it for you. But like I said - head not heart.
2006-06-18 12:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by tom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it wasn't a mistake. He wanted to have sex with another woman and he had it. Can't believe you'd actually stay around so he could do it again and again. Face it - he's just not that into you. Move on.
Bluez's answer is really good - see below - she hits the nail on the head big time.
2006-06-18 13:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months into the relationship doesn't really count!
Before he cheated had he promised you that you and he were "exclusive" and wouldn't see other people? (And had you done the same?).
If not then there was no "cheating" - he just did something that you had ASSUMED he would not do...
You can't go blaming people for not living up to your un-spoken assumptions!
And two years later, if it's still bothering you, it's your problem not his, really - if you really want to get over it see a counsellor and sort it out in your head...
2006-06-19 00:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nefeco 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that he had sex with someone else will always stay with you and you'll never get over it. Lets face it, you have been made a fool of and he went behind your back. Your gonna alway wonder if he'll do it again. ( He Will ), once a cheater, always a cheater, drunk or otherwise !!!!!
2006-06-18 12:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for you to feel like this. I mean he did break your trust. For you to get over this feeling is going to take time. If you are serious into staying with this man, go to a couples therapy together to strengthen your relationship and to save your relationship.
2006-06-18 12:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can say is follow your heart and remember some people do change even though they say "once a cheater always a cheater" if you think he is sincere and would never do it again then i say forgive him but who says you have to forget. just remember how the situation was last time and if it happens again you will know the signs. lets hope it don't happen.
2006-06-18 13:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by prhotector 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him not, kick him out of your life, will he accept you if you have done such a thing. Teach him a lesson. If you forgive him he will repeat it again and again knowing that you will forgive and accept him. Dont think twice kick him out of your life now. You can always find someone better than him.
2006-06-18 16:34:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋