I saw this article on a dating website, it says:
"Have you ever noticed that really attractive women never seem to be attracted to 'nice' guys? It's because women don't base their choices of men on how 'nice' a guy is. They choose because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. Until you accept this fact and begin to act on it, you'll never have the success with women that you want."
Yes, a guy wrote this article. Personally I think it's a bunch of B.S. but what do you think?
2006-06-18 11:55:46 · 22 answers · asked by TanneDelight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I say nice I don't mean weak or a push over, I'm talking someone who is genuine and looks out for you most of the time.
2006-06-18 12:06:30 · update #1
my opinion is that yeah there has to be some physical attraction there but that is not what counts what counts to me is whether the man can treat me right and take care of me when i need it i have dated some ugly guys before just cause they were nice to me and treated me with respect and my opinion is that if the guy has a good personalty and treats you good then it makes them look so much more attractive whether everybody else sees it or not
2006-06-18 12:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by dumb_blonde1209 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are more attracted to the "bad boy" syndrome ... until they actually experience a relationship with him and get treated like dirt. Gut level sexual attraction can be felt towards these guys if the girl really needs someone to "take charge" of her.
Some younger women are turned off by "nice" guys because they perceive them as being weak and needy. Societal stereotypes have taught people to respect and follow strong men, and the way some guys portray this strength is by being jerks.
More emotionally mature girls/women are attracted to men that are genuine, sexy, AND nice. The traits do not necessarily have to be separate.
2006-06-18 12:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necesarily......but there is a point where a guy is falling all over himself to please you it makes him look like a wuss. BUT you can be nice and strong at the same time. Some people mistake kindness for weakness, therein lies the problem. As long as a girl knows you can beat up a mugger, then being nice will not be a problem. A guy should be nice because they like you, not because they are a wuss.
Hope this clarifies us girls for you!!
2006-06-18 12:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman gets a nice man, then she will control him like crazy. I would like a nice man yes, but he has to have power. He isnt afraid to say no to me and others. If i have a man who doesnt know how to say no, they i will just run all over him. And i really dont want to do that.
2006-06-18 11:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are attracted to power...I am attracted to power. A strong woman wants a strong man. I'm nice...I don't want a "nice" man. The women who are attracted to a "nice" man just want someone who she can control. Hate to break it to you but that's the truth. :)
2006-06-18 11:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by UniqueIsWhoSheIs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel if i can run all over a guy, he's not for me.i want a man with a back bone but i don't want an asshole either.there has to be some sort of conflict in any relationship to make it last, otherwise you'll get bored and search for someone else. nice guys do finish last...sorry :(
2006-06-18 12:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Shay4real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely like a challenge to a point but it needs to be balanced. The guy who wrote the article has some very valid points.
2006-06-18 12:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound a little bitter. No I don't like men that are too nice, because that's FAKE!!! Nobody is nice ALL of the time, so when someone is pretending to be, frankly it scares the hell out of me!
2006-06-18 12:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Miss NancyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think my boyfriend was "too nice" like when we faught he would always just say ok and never fight back just let me say what i had to and let it go. I guess i just didn't like being the one in control so i always used to say why cant you just fight back, now he does and its horrible. i've created a monster, so if i had to choose i'd definitely go with the nice guy. There's nothing wrong with being nice.
2006-06-18 12:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by MissingLI21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOmen like guys who are well rounded. So you cant be too nice. But girls love a guy who is sweet and caring, so long as its real.
2006-06-18 11:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋