I met a guy through internet and seen him twice, both times rather casual (drinks, hang out in the park etc), and we have a laugh/get along pretty well.
I try to hint that i'm only interested in him as a friend by calling him gay, and encouraging him to go with other girls, and he laughs and takes it pretty well. So i thought we were cool. But then he suggested meeting up again. (and i'm not sure whether he meant meeting as a mate, or as a date)
I don't want to come across too presumptuous/arrogant and just say to him: "by the way i'm not interested in you for a relationship", and i'm finding it difficult to slip into the conversation that i have recently found myself a boyfriend. So how shall i go about it?!!! I don't want to lead him on (that is, if he feels led on?!?!).
2006-06-18 11:36:22 · 12 answers · asked by godfather 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him what you just told me.
2006-06-18 11:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by divagirl201045 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I have read your question,
One thing I have noticed in women is the way they try to let men down doesnt always comes across in the same way women mean it to come across.
I say this in experiance from MSN users and Yahoo users telling me about conversations they have with people.
I would say to tell him as follows...
Tell him that you find him funny to talk to and have fun as a friend, however he isnts your type"
This way your not saying "Your ugly" your just saying there are other girls out there that will find you attractive but unfortunatly I am not one of them.
Explain that you see him as one of your cool friends tho, almost like a female best friend but male.
This way your not giving him the impressions that he may be in with a chance in the future by sdaying just "I like you and your fun"
By saying your like one of my female best friends but male, your saying basically this is as good as it will get.
Approach him about this if he gets close, otherwise ignore him, and so what if he likes you, as long as he doesnt stalk you or pester you, let him have his little crush and fantasy, after all its not really hurting you is it.
BUT at the same time becarefull your not putting your self in the predicament that "Your going soft on him" as he may be thinking his winning you over.
I would encourage meeting with friends that way he cant spend all day by your side but he would then be mingling, and if he is that lonely he just wants to meet people for friendship that wont hurt to spend time with other people in a group.
Also
How old are you and how old is he?
If your at school and he isnt stay away, (If older by 3yrs or more)
That would be worrying on his behalf that he isnt socialising with people his own age
Good luck and let us know how it will go
2006-06-18 11:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight. Whether it be on line, over the phone or whatever. But be as blunt as you can without being cruel. This will give him closer and he'll get on with his life instead of hanging around thinking he still might have a chance with you.
2006-06-18 12:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by tom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your planning to go on a 2 week holiday with the girls to Ibiza, and let him watch you pack ur thong, tiny bikini, and some condoms. Hopefully he'll get the message before you're forced to get on the plane! If he doesn't, then at least you've got a holiday! Win Win situation.
2006-06-18 11:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by liquid_ice_71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
notify the authorities have a restraining order put on him and if he doesn't get the hint at that point shoot 44 calibur hollow tip bullets at him. nothing says i'm not interested like a 44 calibur shot.
2006-06-18 11:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by D. A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say.... "Hey, I am sure glad we have became friends.... its been great to have someone to do things with and talk to. Thanks for being a great friend!"
And then you can proceed to say...
"I have been seeing a guy lately... things have been going well. How about you, have you been dating anyone lately?"
You need to be honest, and you need to have a way to bring it up, so that it can be a topic of discussion. You cannot continue to assume or be afraid to talk about it. It isn't fair to yourself or him.
Good Luck!!!
; )
2006-06-18 11:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by boxergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell someone you dont fancy them and just want to be friends isn't being arrogant its being truthful, nothing arrogant about that. tell him about the guy you met and if you dont hear from him again then obviously you were never meant to be friends. its his loss
2006-06-18 11:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by rc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are sensitive but not all that tell him hes a nice person but right now your not looking to be with any one right now and that he's a nice person but your not interested.
2006-06-18 11:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by golfyguy16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont meet with him again that in itself would be enough to encouragemore attention
2006-06-18 11:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont come with him when he invite you again...otherwise, he will presume you like him the same way he does to you...
2006-06-18 11:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by charm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him about some guy you are interested in
2006-06-18 11:40:34 · answer #11 · answered by jonathanmusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋