Why do people stay in situations knowing that they are physically, mentally, or emotionally detrimental to them? And how do you support a friend who KNOWS they should get out of the situation yet they continue? I have a friend who has been in a "train wreck" for the last four years. He's with a woman who I think is crazy. (Let me just say, I have NO romantic interest in this friend and vice versa). She broke into his house, destroyed everything in it, twice. She tried to stab him with a pair of scissors, the mother of his children had to get a restraining order because of her, (And this was the first two years). Sabotaging his voicemail was so regular he just got rid of it. She's cheated on him at least 4 times. She has even gone so far as to spit in his face. When he does "think" he's fed up with her, he can make it at most two weeks before HE'S begging to see her after SHE s*** on him unless he's waiting on her to get bored with who she's cheating on him with at the time.
2006-06-18 11:35:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has affected him so much mentally, over the last year now he has been caught twice stalking and prowling around her home when she doesn't take his calls. I am worried about my friend. Is he obssessed? If she does actually stop dragging his heart through s*** and leave him alone, is he going to kill her? How do I help him get out of this mess?
2006-06-18 11:38:42 · update #1
This will have a very disastrous outcome. It is not a question of if but when. She is mentally ill and your friend is a codependent. For his children's sake as well as his own well being and property he needs to find the strength to get rid of her, file legal papers and leave her to her own ends. I would be careful being his friend before she threw acid on my face or slashed the tires on your car. If he can not leave her protect yourself. This is very very sick on both of their parts. If he doesn't like the action he should stop it and her.
2006-06-18 11:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what he wants then leave him. Cause if he really wanted to leave her, he wouldnt go crying back to her. Seems like he wants to be loved and that crazy b***h is the only one who could give it to him. People stay in that type of situation cause they dont know any better. They think that it is right and it is love.
I have a cousin who stopped talking to me cause i was telling her to leave her crazy spouse alone, cause they was cheating on her, emotionally and mentally hurting her, but she didnt listen. So i said she will have to learn the hard way.
2006-06-18 18:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love, or what people think is love, is a very powerfull emotion. unfortunately there isn't much to do when they are brainwashed like that. how close of friends are you w/ this person? just stay close by and offer moral support and comfort, as cheesy as this may sound. but time heals all wounds. tell him to try disconnecting all contact w/ this crazed *****.
2006-06-18 18:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by Orange Freak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST PEOPLE STAY IN SITUATIONS LIKE THE ONE YOU JUST DECRIBED BECAUSE THEY THINK THAT THEY CANT DO ANY BETTER WITH THEM OR WITHOUT THEM AND THEY PROBABLY THINK THEY CANT DO ANY BETTER. ALL I CAN SUGGEST IS TO YOU IS TO KEEP DO WHAT YOU ARE DOING BY BEING THERE AND BEING SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR FRIENDS SITUATION. I THINK THE BEST THING FOR HIM IS TO GET HER OUT OF HIS LIFE FOR GOOD SHE DOESNT SOUND LIKE SHE HAS ALL HER MARBLES THERE GOOD LUCK NAD
2006-06-18 18:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ann C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people doesn't have courage too. Some other people feel that, that is the only person for them.
2006-06-18 18:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tooken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋