Should I stop fooling around with her....?

Question

Theres a girl at my job whom I have been fooling around with for 3 months and she tells me she likes me a lot. We've kissed, I've sucked her breasts , felt her up and she's even put her han inside my pants and stroked me but when I try 2 go inside her pants or have sex with her ,she says stop because she has a boyfriend and will feel guilty if she cheats on him. I know she has a boyfriend but I really like her and I'm ok with that but my patience is running thin. If I wait it out do think she will eventually have sex with me? Any women ever been through this?....I am 35 and she is 25...Don't judge, just help please ok

perhaps, I should've mentioned that she initiated it . At first I avoided it but she continued ....eventually I just fell for it and now I want it too. She tells me eventually she will have sex but just feels unconmftable right now.I truly believe she is too naive to be playing a game.Is it so uncommon to want a woman allready taken, remember it's womans choice

Answer 1

I don't get it. She's already cheating on her boyfriend, so maybe she's using you as a 'warm-up' before she runs home and jumps b/f.

Answer 2

Forget it and move on, for several reasons.
First off, sex and the office are NOT good friends. This will lead to problems down the road.

Second, she's too much younger. If she thinks "making out" is not cheating, can you imagine what kind of partner she'd make? Jeez!

And third, why have patience? No, as long as she has a boyfriend, she's not going to go to bed with you, and when she breaks up with him, she's going to latch onto you. Do you really want to go that route?

Answer 3

You CANNOT force yourself on her. She is 25 so she is an adult and so are you. So you don't have anything to worry about there as long as she consents.
In my opinion she must not be too commited to her b/f if she is fooling around with you this far. And it sounds like you aren't too interested in an actual relationship with her if you are okay with her having a b/f and just want sex. She is being a bit of a tease but it is her body and she has told you what she is okay with and what she isn't.
My only concern is since you work with her, are you her superior in any way? Is she doing this to get something from you? And if you do sleep with her what happens to your professional relationship?
I would find out what your company's policy is on co-worker relations first.

Answer 4

Being straight forward she's playing with you shes using you to fulfill some childish fantasy. I mean she let you suck on her breast. If my girl did that I would consider that cheating. Cheating must not be an issue. She's getting the excitment of messing with somebody on the job as well as being with an older guy. If your ok being used in this way continue on, but my best judgement says your not getting in her pants other then to cop a feel.

Answer 5

If she feels that guilty about cheating on her boyfriend then no she won't ever have sex with you. Sorry to speak the truth. You have to tell her though if she wants to keep messing around with you then she has to stop playing games with you and either break up with her boyfriend or stop seeing you. I have been through something like that and I did finally folllow my heart and go with the guy i had major feelings for. This can be frustrating but you have to tell her whats what otherwise this will keep going on.

Answer 6

Think about it....she's ALREADY cheating...she's just in the indecision mode, that's all. Wouldn't YOU, if you were her boyfriend consider what she's already done crossing the line? I KNOW that physically speaking I can't compete with a 25 yr. old, but please tell me, what do you see in her besides the physical attributes????? See, I'm 35 also, single, smart, and wouldn't have sex with a 25 yr. old man if you paid me. (Nice to look at, but lacking in intelligence, technique, and substance) Prefer my age or older, thank you. Anyway....not meaning to judge, but if sex is ALL that you want, don't use this young lady this way, please. She's obviously confused and doesn't know what she wants. Or else she would have already slept with you. Choose someone your own age that is more capable of handling being dumped after being "used". To do anything else would be criminal, so to speak. You're losing "your patience" with her???? I'm sorry, but your question makes you out to be a dirty old man that this young lady's momma probably has already warned her about. I prefer to not think of you that way, but how else would you like anyone see it??? If I'm misunderstanding you completely, then please accept my apology....if you truly like her....doesn't HER lack of control and faithfullness bother you just a bit? Hmmm. Not to mention the fact that you work together....good God, I hope that you're not her superior in any way, shape, form, or fashion. If you are, and this girl falls for you, you get what you want and dump her...can you spell sexual harassment? "Hell hath no fury over a scorned woman". Believe it. Feel free to email me if you like, to continue this.

Answer 7

You are just a substitue for what she isnt getting from her boyfriend. She is already cheating on him with you but she hasnt ended her relationship with him. She obviously stil loves him or else it would be over by now. You probably fill the physical side she needs...maybe he isnt affectionate enough..but she is just using you to get what she doesnt have and as long as you fill that other void she will never get out of her relationship. Trust me I have done it countless times. I would be with a boyfriend that I was in love with but he wasn't as sweet or passionate so I would find a guy on the side who did it for me and I would keep dating my boyfriend...because I had everything I needed...Plus you don't want to date a girl who cheats cuz you will be jealous all the time. cuz you know she is capable of saying she loves someone but is messing around behind his back.

Answer 8

I hate to tell you she's not going to have sex with you. She's just using you as a diverion. She's already cheating on her boyfriend by just fulling around on you. She's feeling a certain power over you by fooling around with you and pulling away. She's got the power and you don't and she likes it. Go find someone with less issues

Answer 9

your age difference doesnt matter except for the fact that she is 25. im 24 and 25 girls around my age aren always mature. she has already cheated on her boyfriend. and no offence but even if your a hot 35 year old its prob a 99% chance she isnt gonne break up with her boyfriend. she is prob planning on marrying him so if alls you want is to screw her than give her some alcohol or tell her your giving her a drink with alcohol in it if she thinks she is drunk( even if she really isnt) she will screw you and blame it on liquor and you can move on.

Answer 10

Tell her that she is already cheating on her bf so having sex with you would make it even worse. Leave her alone cause if you had a gf and some guy was messing with her at work whiles our being faithful would you like it?

Answer 11

Hmmm sounds like your flirting with a sexual harassment suit.. Leave her alone and what ever you do stop what you are doing with her she will F**k up your life and is not worth the problems she will cause. Remember it don't matter what you say is going on she a woman, and with the dbl standard we have in this country they will take her word over yours unless you have witnesses.