drunken 1night stand my partner wound out but i fort we got passed it we have had a little girl just turned1 now i love them all to bits and i carnt appologize enough for wot i did she gave me enough chance but is there anywayi can make her trust me she the world and so much more plz help.
2006-06-18 11:18:17 · 11 answers · asked by michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are some things your can never repair in life. She will never forget it, and it will always hurt her. The important thing is that you never forget it. If she's still with you she already forgave you, and is giving you an amount of trust you don't even deserve. Accept that. All you can do is have all the understanding for her lack of trust in you.
It could be that you are suffering from the, "I don't think I can trust her until I feel she truly trust me again," syndrome. You live with your sins, hopefully as a wiser and more in control person. All relationships go through ins and outs: a lot of them survive. Without a doubt, both of yous will need forgiveness for many things. Will you be a wiser and a more in control person?
Most people that forgive things like that, it's because they need forgiveness also: if not now, some time in the future, if not for the same thing for something just as painful. You have to realize that you didn't do anything that she would do to you, which is bring you pain. You're in a relationship! The only thing to do is hope to grow to the point where there is no doubt on either side. Then you can live with that comfort; and then you will give yourself what you seek.
2006-06-18 12:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by kasar777 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How do you know that she doesn't trust you? When did she find out?
If she found out at the time that it happened, then you're talking about 2+ years and a child later. I'd say that's a pretty good indication that she's over it and trusts you.
If she only just found out recently, then the problem probably isn't that you had the one night stand, but that you hid it for over 2 years. That will take a long time to get over. A drunken one night stand is a mistake. Hiding and lieing about it is a betrayal of trust.
Either way, you can't MAKE her trust you again. You just have to continue to prove that you are trustworthy. It could take a really long time. And you have to appreciate that at the heart of it, most women have a little insecurity that worries that their man will leave them for someone else. So maybe years down the road, after she's long gotten over it, and trusts you, a little niggling fear may still come up. It's not her making you pay, it's her being scared. Just keep loving her.
2006-06-18 11:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by butireallyam_nikkijd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell if you have split up or not from your question. Trust takes time to aquire and you can't rush it and once it has been damaged. The person who has been wronged will need plenty of time to work it through if she can. Be the best man you can, and hope for a good result.
I suppose avoid being in situations with other women where temptation and drink are available may be useful advice for the future.
2006-06-18 11:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must make every effort to let your partner know how much you love her and the child, and start eating humble pie, youve got to work really hard now to restore the trust that your silly one night stand lost. it will be a long road to get back, but stick at it.
2006-06-18 21:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by traveller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should watch more Dr. Phil. It will take years to regain your trust and a lot of work on your part . Obviously it was not worth it . Don't do it again.
2006-06-18 11:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by pms247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol is no reason for infidelity.
By the way, learn how to spell......there's a spell check feature on yahoo answers....
2006-06-18 13:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you use the spell check. I don't know if its arrogance or insolence or both. You are a waste of space anyway.
2006-06-18 11:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by Paul R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that'll teach you ya schemey
2006-06-18 11:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...once you lose the trust, you can't really regain it.
2006-06-18 11:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Janex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" no trust, no us" Good luck!
2006-06-18 16:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by lifeislove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋