In England, I have found that people have no manners to speak of. People never thank the driver when they get off the bus, no one thanks me if I hold the door open for them. I get barged past without an 'Excuse me'. And what happened to the phrase 'You're welcome'? What do you think of manners or the lackthereof in this country?
2006-06-18 10:42:16 · 50 answers · asked by Five- Farthings 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
huh..For me it's hard don't say excuse, please and thank you!It became a problem.I often say thanks,i'm sorry, excuse me with no reason..:(
2006-06-18 10:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Flippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People mostly thank the bus drivers where I live.
It's hit and miss with the door holding open thing though. I always thank people, but them thanking me back is probably only about 60% chance.
I don't hear "excuse me" much anymore. Supermarkets are the worst places for bad manners, but that might be because everyone's so stressed out and wants to get home.
What is really annoying and rude are those customers who stand about a foot behind you in the supermarket queues, and crowd you when you are trying to pay at the till. Have they ever heard of personal space?
One lady queueing behind me once was holding a small child, and the child kept on kicking me in the back - I turned round to stare at her a few times but she didn't have a clue!!
2006-06-18 12:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by badgerbadger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to inform you but it is everywhere somewhere along the lines people have lost the manners that once were so important in life, it is rush here rush there meet this deadline meet that deadline think about the family think about the boss and just don;t think about that person that just held the door open for you may be you next client! (this has happened to me the bloke was really rude I took my buisness elsewhere)
Society has become and instant thing everybody wants everthing now or sooner! They don;t have time for manners.
I install in my kids that manners is very important part of life, smile you get a smile back, say thank you say please make sure you excuse yourself if you pass wind or burp, especially in others company. I have received many compliments on my kids behaviour and I am proud they have manners.
2006-06-18 13:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone holds open a door for me, I always thank them, but maybe that is because I am Scottish. I always check before closing a door that no-one else is needing through. If there is then I hold it open and let them through. Its amazing just how many people walk through without saying thanks. These people dont just come from one age or genre, other than being totally ignorant. I usually mutter something like "it doesnt hurt to say thank you" or "dont say thank you then". That is usually enough to make them understand that you were not being paid to stand and hold the door open for them. I believe that good manners should be be taught in the home and also at school, although I am sure that there will always be people who decide to rebel make life difficult for others.
2006-06-18 11:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manners are learnt it's not something we do naturally altho good manners & politeness can become a second nature.
Young parents now do not teach their children manners nowadays, it's all about respect now & even telling a child off is frowned upon.
How can you teach good manners when it is blocked at every turn.
People just do not care how they treat others now. It's the way society has changed and until we go back to the old fashioned rules and way of general life it will only get worse
2006-06-18 10:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sadly here in the UK, and sadly in many other parts of the world: ‘Manners’, ‘Respect’ be it for elders, parents, teachers, property, or even ones self, is dieing a death: and does not seam to being taught to children at any age, by any body be it parent or school!!
There seams to be a leaning in this country to a more ‘Open/Liberal’ approach to parenting, where ‘anything’ goes, and of being the child’s ‘Best Friend’, rather than the child’s legal and ‘Moral’ guardian.
Please don’t get me wrong: I know there are many good parents out there that teach their children from an early age, all the above: but living on, as much as I hate to say it, a Stereo Typical council estate, and hearing the so called ‘Adults’ as I walk round, it is no wonder the kids are so badly behaved and bad mannered when they have no decent ‘Role Model/Example’ to look to!!
Plus these days our & the schools hands are tied when it comes to disciplining!! I work in security, and have actually had a serious repeat offender tell me, ‘I can’t touch him’, and then quote to me under a multitude of abuse, the child protection act!!
As I look at society in general today, I despair, especially for the future of my children and grandchildren!! But it is up to us as Parents to teach our children from an early age, right, from wrong, respect for authority and the law, good manners, and a love for oneself and others… and to lead by example… one can hope!!
2006-06-18 11:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good manners are the lubrication of society. Simple common courtesies help make it easier to interact with other people. If the English don't do it then, it's on them. When I was in England on the 4th of July 1983 I found the English to be nice people. A cab driver said "Hey, this is your 4th of July holiday, isn't it?" I thought they would be sensitive on this.
If people are not being polite to you, then maybe the fault is with you. Smile more, and he whole world will smile back.
2006-06-18 10:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're too wrapped up in their daily activities, although I live in America, and by what you're saying, the residents of England have way less etiquette than Americans. Maybe that's just the way of life over there in England...Who knows...I guess you have to dive into people's minds to find the real reasons.
I was at Golden Corral the other day and this really old lady said, "Excuse it." Anybody knows if that was just how people talked back in the old days. She looked like she could've been as young as 85 and as old as 100.
2006-06-18 10:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pig ignorance. They mistake politeness and kindness for weakness. Mind you, blame the feminists, they have killed off gentlemanly behaviour. When I am out driving, I find that women are by far the worst for not acknowledging an act of kindness on the road. Also when opening doors.
However, some men can be just as bad in other ways.
Maybe that's why we originally had a class system.
2006-06-22 06:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decline in manners has come with the demoralisation of global society. People no longer recognise their own worth, never mind anyone else's. But good for you for being polite and holding doors open for people; keep at that. An individual whose parents never taught them manners might learn them from you.
2006-06-18 10:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live in a country where 24/7 is no more ok for work. The new figure is 25/8. Something must be lost. Compliment is one of such.
If the richest man in that country can die of starvation- he simply forgot to eat. What do you think the poor and struggling will loss?
2006-06-20 05:52:17 · answer #11 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋