Does anyone have punishment ideas for 6 year old? Does not have ADD/ADHD?

Question

I've tried taking away toys, spanking, sitting on couch for 15 min. Nothing seems to work. Child will not sit still for more than 5 min.Very hyper.

Answer 1

My little brother was awfull around 5 and what my mom did was make him do timeouts 1 minute for each year old he was. So 6 minutes for your child. If he will not sit or gets up..... tell him you now have to start the time out over again. Follow through at first it would take my mom an hour to get through his timeout but within a week he knew she was serious and he would cooperate. Also try making a chart with stickers once he gets so many stickers he gets something he likes.... mabey to go to the park or McDonalds or a new toy car something small. Reinforce this throughout the day and encourage him to earn stickers. It's all about making sure the child knows that you are going to follow through on things. You are the parent he should be listening to you.

Answer 2

How can you say that he doesn't have ADHD if he won't sit still for more than five minutes? Have you had him evaluated, or are you just in denial? If he hasn't been tested, there could be something wrong besides ADHD, so it couldn't hurt to consider every possibility, because the sooner you get to the source of the problem, the more quickly and easily you'll be able to get things on track.

I've worked on a Child Evaluation Team (I'm an audiologist - I test for hearing loss and auditory processing problems). I have seen kids who don't have hearing loss or ADHD but were hyper, and usually it was from a lack of consistent attention and discipline in the home. It doesn't take long for kids to figure out, "if I drive the grown-ups crazy they'll give me what I want to shut me up." I've seen many master manipulators in my day.

So keep the praise flowing for when he does behave nicely, and get involved in what he's doing so he knows that you really care. Have clearly stated rules - print them out and hang them up - for when he does misbehave. For example: hitting or throwing things = No TV/video/computer activities for the rest of the day.

To help him learn to clean up after himself:
1) Keep ALL toys out of reach - including video game controllers, TV remotes, etc.
2) When he wants to do something, he has to ask nicely. If there are any limitations to that activity (e.g. Play-Dough is only allowed at the play table in the kitchen, or we have to leave to get your sister from school in half-an-hour, etc.) make sure they are stated VERY clearly and repeated back to you before giving that to the child. If there are no restrictions, then it's OK, sometimes it's good not to be too restrictive.
3) when the child is done with that item, he is responsible to clean it up and ask you to help him put it away, BEFORE he can begin another activity.
--This teaches that everything has it's place, and even it's time. By being in an organized environment, the child is less likely to feel over-stimulated.

Speaking of over-stimulated - cut back on artificial ingredients and sweetened items in his diet, and make sure he's getting enough clear fluids.

Watch for any pattern to his over-activity; is there a certain time of day or environment that seems to get him wound-up? Maybe an alteration in his sleep schedule might help.

Some keys to parenting are:
#1- be a good role model ("do as I say, not as I do" NEVER works!);
#2- Make the child your FIRST priority! these next twelve years will go by SO fast, and you only get one chance - so enjoy your child, and be the parent you wish you'd had;
#3- BE CONSISTENT!!! Give the child a sense of security that he always knows what to expect of you, whether it's been a good day or a difficult one;
#4- BE CONSISTENT!!! Make sure he knows that No means No and that he can't change your mind no matter what shenanigans he pulls.
#5- BE CONSISTENT!!! (notice a trend here?) Let him know you love him through words AND actions every day. Set up a special bedtime ritual that only you and he share and do it every night.

Answer 3

I'd suggest you read the book "Try and Make Me" by Levy and O'Hanlon. They present a system for dealing with oppositional behavior and power struggles that involves "practicing" the behavior in question, at a time that is convenient for the parent and inconvenient for the child. For example, if your child will not put away her toys, you can let her know that she will need to practice this behavior at a later time. Then, when she'd rather be doing something else (i.e., playing outside or watching a favorite tv show), you declare this time to practice. You then scatter her toys around the room, and she needs to pick them up. Do this 5-8 times on the first practice round. (If she has trouble picking up her toys in the future, the next practice round might be 12-15 practices). As soon as she finishes with practice, she can go back to doing her preferred activity. I've used this technique with many children I've worked with, and it has been very effective. Parents like it, too, and often come up with very creative types of practice. I'd recommend that you pick up a copy of the book and read it through, since this is only a small part of what they suggest. (By the way, I have no financial connection to this book. Just have found it very useful in my work.)

Answer 4

Wow, 15 minutes! For a six year old, that's a VERY long time.

When I went through my adoption training, we were told that a child should not sit more than 2 minutes for 5 years of age.

So, your 6 year old should not be in time out for more than 3 minutes at best.

However, if these efforts so far have failed, my suggestion, as a final resort, would be grounding.

If grounding doesn't work, I would talk to your pediatrician. ADD/ADHD might need to be ruled out if it hasn't already been.

There are other underlying developmental disorders that could be hindering the disciplining process as well...so definitely talk to a pediatrician if grounding doesn't work.

Answer 5

As a teacher, rule of thumb for time out is 1 minutes per age of child. As a mother, I limit sweets, soda, juices, anything sugary, tv time, video games and make my kids play hard outside doing things like run, ride bikes, etc. They have learned to play and sit still much better. Also, do the screenings for ADHD by a professional.

Answer 6

Take some privileges away limit watching TV, don't let the child to do things that the child enjoys.

Make your child to stay in the bed. Make the child to write sentences on paper. Do not give sugary snacks or candy or soda.

Talk to your child and let your child to come up rules with you and proper punishments. And then just follow the rules.

Answer 7

I'd suggest 5 minutes with them facing a wall. Standing helps the child with being still.

Answer 8

Did you try tying him to the couch instead of just having him sit on it? I've found that helps with my dog.

Answer 9

my mom always did NOSE AND TOES .. u have to have both ur nose and toes touching the coner and if you move at all then u add a minute .. since he is six .. puut him there 4 six min .. if he moves or complains keep adding minutes ..lol .. harsh .. but it worked on me when my mom did it ..lol

Answer 10

You could lock him into a room that has nothing in it for a day but give him food.