Why is it that people seem to have a hard time giving praise and compliments but are quick to criticise?

Answer 1

Maybe it's the problem solving aspect of our natures; we immediately see what has to be put right.

As thinking creatures though we have to try and overcome it; i do my best to praise and compliment my friends and colleagues in little ways all the time. It's nice to see the little glow it creates.

Answer 2

Because it makes them feel good about themselves. When giving a compliment it almost feels like a weakness, admitting that someone is better at something than they are. Like coming down to that person's level or below. It is easy to criticize because it makes people feel more secure and superior than the other person.

Answer 3

Sadly, it's easier to shout something down than build it up! Also to praise or compliment something is an endorsement. People are reluctant to do this for fear of ridicule or culpability.

Answer 4

I completely agree. It's much easier to point out negatives than to praise the positives.

Answer 5

It's easier to throw out a criticism than to hand out a praise.

Answer 6

I guess it is easier for all of us to criticise others before challenging our own behaviours and lack of qualities. In my experience many of the things that we are critical of in other people are projections of our own inadequacies. It is as if people are mirroring back to us those things we can not identify in ourselves.... it's a thought anyway.

Answer 7

I also believe that it is much easier to put down someone for what they did wrong cause it may make you feel better, but it takes a bigger person to praise someone.

Answer 8

Critical spirit has taken over the lives of men

Answer 9

Those people are not raised properly. They don't want to praise because it would somehow mean that they were inferior. Or jealous.

Answer 10

probaly do to the ever going quest for power over others but when you think about it it is easier to make mistakes then to be perfect so people see more mistakes than the ability and skill in something... but yes i do it too but i think i do compliment more then others i try to say good game in video games and good match when watching sumo and i always shake my opponents hand but actually yes good question it really got me thinking about myself and others ty