I am a bridesmaid in my friends wedding.. she has registered at a few different places for things for her house, kitchen, bathroom, etc.. Should I stick with buying something she "asked" for or could I get something that I know she would appreciate? I was thinking lingerie plus something else that she would use.
2006-06-18 10:01:32 · 8 answers · asked by sour_apple 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The wedding gift is for the couple. If a couple has registered, then yes, it's best to buy the gift from the registry. I registered, didn't get half of the stuff on my list, but also got 5 (count them 5) sets of crystal wine glasses that weren't on my list. It's really annoying. If the couple have taken the time to register, have the decency to buy from the list. Most places now update the lists, as people buy from them, so when you go in, you'll know what's still available to be bought, and your choice will be removed from the list after you've bought it. That way your friend and her fiance will get exactly what they want/need, without having copies. And should there be any problems with anything, they will know where to go if they need to exchange or return it.
As a bridesmaid though, I do think it would be appropriate (and really nice) for you to buy a gift for the bride personally, that could be something entirely of your choosing. It's very nice of you to consider something personal for your friend. :o)
2006-06-18 11:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by butireallyam_nikkijd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should buy her a gift card from her favorite store/restaurant. If you don't know what her favorite store or restaurant is, ask her. That way she can buy whatever she needs/wants. Buying something from the registry is good BUT that doesn't mean she's gonna use everything that people buys off the registry. Many of the actual wedding gifts can go unused for years or they might end up giving it away or even resell it! That's why I highly recommend just buying her a gift card like from Olive Garden, Target, Walmart, etc. Buy her a gift card where she would shop often. Because people don't shop often at Linen's and Things, Bed Bath and Beyond, etc. Gift cards may sound tacky but they actually get used and they will appreciate it more! If you buy her a gift card from a restaurant like Olive Garden, it gives her and her husband a night out to eat when they don't feel like cooking :)
2006-06-18 10:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a bridesmaid your involvement in the wedding is more personal than the other guests. You could buy her something from the registry and I am sure she would appreciate whatever it is you got her. However, I think it would be more personal if you got her a wedding gift you KNOW she would really like that she didn't think to register for or the type of gift a couple can't register for (for etiquette reasons). Ultimately it is up to you but I think she would appreciate a more personal touch.
2006-06-18 10:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by christine_gray6632 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in both positions, and speaking from the "bride's" view, get her what she's asking for. And she's asking that you honor her wishes by adhering to the bridal registry. It takes time to go and select the items that are in the registry. Many times, the bride makes the selections herself, however, often both the bride-and groom-to-be make the selections together. My husband and I did.
Too often, well-meaning friends and family members think they know better, and buy a gift off-registry. That often results in unwanted gifts, mismatched color selections, duplicates, and the obligatory and troublesome "returns."
As you say you are a friend, be a "real friend" and listen to what they're saying. Since they have taken their time to express their wishes in the form of a registry, be a dear friend and actually honor their request. Use your personal expression for a gift for either a bridal shower gift, an anniversary gift, a Christmas gift, or a birthday gift.
2006-06-18 23:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ancespiration 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the registry gifts and respect the time she took to select them. the lingerie you can give as a side gift for the wedding day to break the tension
2006-06-18 11:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by brownunicorn_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding gift should be for both of them, the shower gift is for her. You don't have to stick to the registry though.
2006-06-21 13:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the registry gifts
2006-06-18 13:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would diffintly make your life easier and they will get something they need. Don't try to please one without the other, regardless of you friendship. You'll still be friends !!!
2006-06-18 12:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋