im still in love with my ex-boyfriend. but the problem is: i have a great boyfriend now who really treats me the way i want to be treated and my ex and i have cut each other off. but he was my first boyfriend, he took my virginity, and i really loved him...i dont think i can let go of that. what do you think i should do?
2006-06-18 09:56:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey,....MOVE ON! Your ex does not deserve you! You have found a guy who treats you right, so stay with him!
2006-06-18 10:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by 7abibi♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is truly a complexed problem. I'm not gonna say that I know how you feel because I have not been through it yet but I can tell you what I think.
I believe that although you can find lots of things that you don't like about him you can still find that one thing that over-shadows everything else: Your love for him. Am I right? His place in your in your heart can never be replaced because he was your first love.
What I think you should do is talk to your current boyfriend about it. If he truly cares about you he will understand and maybe try to help you out with it.
You should always try to stay away from your x because even if you don't love him the way you used to, all those old feelings that you had for him will come rushing back, trust me.
2006-06-18 17:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Hot KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time to grow up a little, and you say you have a guy now who treats you the way you like. It is OK to have feelings for your first and I will always love the first woman I made love with, but it is in context, and is in the past. You should move on, and beware as if you are harbouring strong feelings for your Ex, your current fellow may get a sense of this and dump you, then you will have no one. You also say he took your virginity, which implies that it wasn't given, which may not be a very healthy way to state such a thing. Did you not willingly give him your virginity as much as he took it? Just something to think about, as our words can be very revealing about how we see or perceive an event as important as that.
2006-06-18 17:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should dwell on the reason you left him in the first place. It obviously wasn't that great or you would not be asking this question now. Stick with your new boyfriend if he treats you well and shows you the respect you deserve. Don't dwell on someone who took your virginity or before you know it he will also have taken your self-respect.
2006-06-18 17:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by tripping_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are going through, is aa result of having sex without having a husband. You let go of your morals when you had sex with him, and because he was your first it is worse. You are not willing to admit that you failed in this relationship, and the fact that you gave your virginity to him, makes it feel worse. By giving him your virginity, you was telling him that it was a very special gift, and he didn't respect that gift. Please refrain from having sex with any other guys before you get married. You are setting yourself up for a lot of heartache and disappointment in the future. Sex is only a part of a true commited relationship, and is taken to lighly in society today. Just admit to yourself that things didn't work out, and don't be so willing to give it up in the future. Hold out for a real man.
2006-06-18 17:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him,not many girls can find guys with good personalities. Your lucky your new boyfriend treats you right.
Oh,yea if all your ex-bf did was take away your virginity,than definetly keep your new bf. Good Luck.
$Moneydudeguy$
2006-06-18 17:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be wary. You're digging yourself into a deep hole. You're "stuck" on the ex. Train yourself not to be. Have friends help. Find out what it is that makes you think of him, and then go do those things with friends. Take those stimuli that remind you of him, and get them to remind you of something else...something new. It takes some time and effort, but eventually you'll get over him. You'll never forget him, but you won't constantly think about him and compare all men you meet to your idolization of him.
2006-06-18 17:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Neema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy can take away your virginity, but not everyone can treat you like you should be treated...Hope you make the right choice.
2006-06-18 17:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget the old guy... Compare your ex-boyfriend to your new boyfriend.
Stay angry at your ex-boyfriend,
Don't show any pity.
2006-06-18 17:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Holadios 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to move on,this guy you are with makes you happy.it seems like the first guy just used you and then dumped you.stay with the man that loves you now.forget about your ex.he is your ex for a reason.
good luck.
2006-06-18 16:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋