well, im 13 and my mom and i constantly argue.... she say im a rude child and who have no manners. and i have a bad attitude... from that i dont think im bad at all, i have a very high standard of manners, and i dont behave rude, yes in some case, yes i will do some out of the way things. but i always try to do the right and follow from my mistakes, im not the only child she have and im the middle child, she never treats the others as how she treats me. my younger sister is very annoying and disguting and when i tell her that, she doesnt want to believe me. and she accuse me of lying. i love my mom dearly, but at times she will hurt me emotionally with words.... i regret doing some bad things but she have definately hurt me.... at the night i would cry and talk to my boyfriend for comfort. because theres no other person i can talk to.. my dad is no better than my mom. she says i have a problem, because i always talk back to her, but i cant help it. i try to stop, but i cant..
2006-06-18 08:55:17 · 20 answers · asked by beautyprincess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Being open with your parents is the best thing. Sit down and talk to your mom or dad. Tell her you love her and you would like to talk things out. When she tells you things that she expects out of you, try to be understanding and help her. If your mom is sensible, she will come around. Don't talk back to your parents in a disrespectable tone since that will only make things worse. It will take a great deal of control on your part to sit and listen and when you talk, don't get emotional and keep your head. Talking to them when everyone is calm is the best thing. Level heads come to an understanding. Being a teen is hard, and being an adult is even harder. Trust me on this one. With age come a great deal of responsibility. Show your parents your maturity by talking to them. Its ok to stick up for yourself but do it in a mature way.
Don't forget, things always change, hopefully, by being open with them, it will be better for you!!
2006-06-18 09:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you sound like many 13 year olds. As far as your manners go...if you are polite to others and respect your elders in other places then your mom has done a good job there and she should feel great for that and about you. Next time when she says something that hurts you, very quietly and politly say, "mom, that hurts me when you say that." Wait for her response and see if that helps. You need to keep the lines of communication open because there will be a day when you will both need each other. Keep trying to do good things. And maybe go out of your way and say offer to do dishes, or set the table for dinner...us moms love that stuff. It might help maybe not, but if you do your best at least you know it isn't you.
2006-06-18 09:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you keep disrespecting your Mom and/or Dad by talking back all the time they will feel this way. My best advice is that you sit down and talk and listen with your parents. Ask them what kinds of things you can do to become a better child for them, and try to do some of those things. If they show you a change in attitude with some of those changes, try to make some more, and before you know it they will be telling you how proud they are of you.
2006-06-18 09:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you and your mom need to go through some counseling together. Seems to be that she's treating you differently then your siblings. My advice is to do your best to listen and have a better attitude. Show respect to your mom, even though it sounds like it's very difficult for the two of you to get along. You should still respect your parents and see if there's another adult you can talk too and ask help from.
Good luck to you
2006-06-18 09:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by kaije03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becasue ur the middle child u probably feel that she picks on u the most but the real reason u act out is because ur looking for the attention that ur older and younger sibling recieves and the only way to do that us to act up maybe u should sit down and talk to ur mother and tell her that the inlyreason u act is becasue when u do good shes more worried about the other two. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-18 09:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you're 13! There's a lot going on right now. You are in a very emotional time period in your life. And, trust me, you aren't alone. We all go through this. Especially the women. Right now you sister seems "annoying and disgusting" and all that, and your mom seems like she's singling you out. But, and please don't take offense at this, most of it is probably in your head. It probably just seems like all that is going on now. Since you are in that emotional period. Everything seems like it's all happening to you and you are the victim of everything. But it will get better. You won't feel like this for long. It'll make more sense. As I said, we all have been there. I am the oldest sibling and I remember feeling like I always was treated like the worst kid. But looking back now, I realize that that simply wasn't true.
I only thought it was.
2006-06-18 09:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by aslongasitrocks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God bless you sweetie, you indeed are in one of the most difficult places for a kid growing up. Take what you know to be good and believe in it. Learn the bad no matter how much as examples of how not to be and put its opposite in your personality. If you do that for the next five years, and that is not long, you will be one of the cuteiest, nicest girls ever and you will have an advantage over other girls for a boy and a jumpstart at rearing your children.
2006-06-18 09:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that there is a communication problem there and you just need to set her down and tell her exactly how you feel. If she does not want to listen, write her a letter and then you all can talk to each other.
2006-06-18 09:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 respect your parents she is the who had you she could've had a abortion but she didnt because she love's alot so dont argue with your mother listen too what she has to say because if she didnt care she wouldnt say nothing she just want you to do the right things in life so you can be safe some parents dont care about there kids and let them do what they want to do
2006-06-18 09:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by swoop2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my wife is a Marriage Family Therapist and she suggest to talk to someone that is open minded and not bised to talk to your parents and take the whole family for therapy. I dont think any one is qualified here to help you only a licensed family theraphist, good luck, :).
2006-06-18 09:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Tesla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋