If I ever run across a man like this......believe me, he'd NEVER, EVER abuse a woman again and that's a f**king fact. It's makes me so mad, I can't see straight.
I swear.....NO MAN SHOULD EVER, EVER BEAT A WOMAN PHYSICALLY!!!!
2006-06-18 08:46:01 · 15 answers · asked by Frank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now I know she's a famous singer but for example...country music singer..*Mindy McCready*. I watched one of her earlier music videos on YouTube.com and I'm like.."My god, how could something that beautiful, hot, sexy end up with such an a**hole". He's DEFINATELY one that would NOT want to see me in a dark alley!!!
2006-06-18 08:56:21 · update #1
Most girls are dumb, they are attracted to stupid jocks, and guys that act tough. They confuse loud and obnoxious with brave, and strong. If they are dumb enough to stay with a guy that beats them, I say they deserve it. When do you ever see the captain of the Ches team date the prom queen, never. Girls pick big dumb jocks over smart guys.
2006-06-18 09:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by timmytude 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they are scared to death to leave. There are some real psychos out there!!! and I for real men with NO conscience at all. No remorse for their actions to the point of murder and then stepping over their wives or girlfriends and not looking back after what just happened.
It is good that you feel the way you do. I wish more men felt the way you do. But I do not expect u to understand it and no man could unless they were the women STUCK in this awful position. It is a self survival mechanism. It is like which is worse. Torture or maybe death. Leaving is the most dangerous time. They will staulk you and find you and then probably kill you and u dont want to leave your children and family.
But enough of that.
I have a few you could run across if you are interested...lol
Take care
L
2006-06-18 08:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by lisa_2375146 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons, but most have to do with control.
Many women growing up were controlled at a level that bordered on abuse. It could have been religious, generational, or any number of given beliefs. The essence is that they believe that in order to be the "correct way" they must surrender to this control so they tend to attract men who are dominate and agressive.
They learned at an early age that their importance is only decided by men, may it be fathers, brothers, uncles, bosses, you name it.
Therefore, they have extremely low self esteem, no self respect and feel that they don't have a right to deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Of course, you also have the socio-economic problems of poor social skills, lack of education, poverty, etc.
Frankly, women in these situation MUST get out on their own if the pattern is to be broken. That is not to say that helping is not an option, far from it. The one characteristic of battered women is that they are very, very, strong. They have to be to endure this treatment, but try to convince them of that. If you can suceed in convincing them, then 75% of the war has been won. The remainder is just getting enough money stashed, someone and somewhere to go to, waiting until the time is right (if possible) and go.
Finally, one of the biggest reasons is the kid's. Many mothers feel like they can't provide enough to take care of the kids without the batters help. Hence, the socio-economic factor. But, that is just NOT TRUE.
If you really feel this way, report the abuse, every single time it happens. She may not press charges every time, but eventually someone will get to her and she will find the backbone she has and make a stand. It also may give her the one opportunity she needs to get the kids and get out.
You should be very proud of yourself for being so adament about this and some day your wife will be very proud of you as well.
If you are a young girl, then be very careful of who you choose for yourself. Subconsciously, you may be drawn to them yourself by what you have been witness to.
I am guessing you are one of the children/relatives of this woman?
2006-06-18 09:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by jv1104 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thanks, seems like yuo wil b a really nice, carin, sweet husband or boyfriend. man, ur so sweet! thats true, women have some rights and we shouldnt be beaten up especially physically. but some men r just sick, they dont think about it.
a guy 18 yr old married a 17 yr old gurl at age 16 and like 2 weeks ago, he threw her out through the window from top of the building and wen she hit the ground, her whole body was damaged, her brain scattered in2 pieces. man, isnt that sooooo sad? on top a that, they did LOVE MARRIAGE. in love marriage arent u suposed 2 care 4 each other, share ur happiness, even though they wil get into some fights doesnt mean that he should throw her outa dat window from like the 20th floor? thats plain sick, hes a sucker, son of a b-i-t-c-h. he got no brain.
yeah, hes in jail right now. thank God.
anyways thanx 4 sayin dat, ur realy kind but some guys r plain sick and suckerz
by the way some women stay with the man who does all dat 2 dem because they still love him, and women r scared of men.
2006-06-18 08:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some woman don't believe they deserve better. Relationships that are physical don't always start out that way. Usually the guy is really nice and then all of a sudden it changes. He hits her once and apologizes saying that it won't happen again. And it does and the cycle just continues. I have a friend who is MARRIED to a guy like this - and she's still with him. The best thing to do is try and help the one who's being abused, telling them that they do deserve better and to get out of the relationship before they get killed.
2006-06-18 08:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by kaije03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dread, it simple yet complicated. Some women honestly do feel they cant do better than the lowlife scum they're with currently, while others (who may have been abused as youngsters) equate those actions to "love". Some wil rationalise it by saying that he didnt mean it, and that he apologizes, and he really tries etc etc...
Its hard to watch, especially if its someone you care for yourself. All you can do if you know someone in a situation like that is keep trying to show them that there are people out there who will treat them better, and will never hurt them.
2006-06-18 08:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by aoshi_69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of the time a physically abusive relationship is also a mentally abusive one. the man makes the woman believe that she deserves being hit and that he is the best she can do. she may also truly love him, as hard as that may be to believe. when you're in love with someone you often over look the bad things about them. and of course, there's fear. she may be afraid for her own life, or the life of her children.
2006-06-18 09:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by little_puffit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a man beats a women he not only physically hurts her but mentaly hurts her. She believes after a while that she deserves what she gets. And the man that abuses her tells her the same thing it's kinda like being brain washed. :-)
2006-06-18 08:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by christine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you all the reasons that go through our head. We don't like where we are at them times but, we love that nice sweet guy thats not mean, i guess. Mine finually got medication for his and is doing much better. I tried to leave few times but was dumb and took him back. I loved him. I had to reason in the world to I assure you as the site of me was very bad sometimes and niebors and family would have to pull him off. But, on the other hand if they threaten him I stepped in to back his ... because I didnt want harm to him. He couldn't deal with men at all and would have got hurt himself. I didn't want another woman going though what I did and I didnt want him to waste his life in jail. Mine was active with me we even got to sleep in other rooms. I stood by and am now happily married and luck I guess he finually realized he needed help and got it.
His family though it was cute and it encouraged him then he realized it wasn't me it was him and that he was taken anger from his dad and passing it to me. He now dont talk to his dad alot and that seems to do better. He also found out when i separated other men did like me and would treat me better and that hurt him. I guess it was a reality check. He also missed me dearly during that time.
2006-06-18 09:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you feel that way. Most of the time the women are scared. They are afraid of what the man will do.
2006-06-18 08:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋