i have a separate room in my home .my uncle home is very near to my home .he use to come in our home and use our computer for hours .computer is in my room so i have to shift in the drawing room .because of that i have no privacy .i discussed the matter with my parents but they are very innocent people they can't say my uncle to stop that .thousands of time i told my uncle not to use the computer .but that man didn't take it seriously .he even uses our phone for long hours .he use floppies because of which viruses use to come .he use it free of cost .what should i do plzz help.
2006-06-18 08:43:30 · 46 answers · asked by alka_rawat2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
My suggestion is lock up yr landline phone first..
Regarding yr computer..which operating system do u have on yr computer..
I would suggest you to behave in descent manner use your smartness and intelligence,
"Show him your iron hane in a velvet glove".
If you have win 2000 or more as your operating system , first of all put up an admin password in yr computer.
and a BIOS password also (the first entry point of computer )
as your uncle arrives just skip out of the room immediately for some urgent work so that he make be alone to use yr computer . but when computer not get opened he obviously beacome wired ans ask for the password at that time say that some of your cousin has came and had made all the rubbish on yr computer and you yourself have not worked on it . since few days.
repeat up the process again and again ,craeting new problems for him on daily basis
as disable the floppy drive from the bios or disconnect it from your system hardware .
mail me at this id cj_rahul@yahoo.co.in
would be telling you few registries key through which you can disable/enable every single application on your sysyem at your own wish
2006-06-19 00:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul Agarwal 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well this is a sticky wicket to say the least. I believe there is little chance of avoiding hurt feelings, especially if the wife perceives this as an attack, or refuses to see herself in this light. You made it sound like a repetitive theme so I think it is likely that she will not see your point. Had the offense be a one time deal or even a couple of situational issues. Now it does not matter if it is THE Pastor's wife or not. In fact her relationship makes the offense even more of a negative. I know wives are human even a Pastor's, but she is seen in a different light and for good or ill can affect the ministry of the husband. So, back to the question at hand. The Bible sets certain rules for confronting a believe that has strayed. First, approach her alone and tell her how her comments hurt you or seemed inappropriate when you heard her speak to others. If she repents or seeks to fix the problem all is well and no need to continue. Second, If she does not see your side of it, get a group of elders together with offended parties and try to have it out in as orderly fashion as able. Hopefully it goes no further. The last one I doubt will become an option and that is to set her outside the Church. I would suspect that the Pastor would resign at this point and your problem would be solved and a great rift in your Church will occur and need to be healed. The Pastor COULD tell her to stay home and keep her from Church until she get her attitude right or divorce her though both seem unlikely. But, if you get this far it might be time to decide how bad is her attitude? Is it worth leaving yourself? If the Pastor and the elders refuse to take her to task or even listen to your concerns is it worth staying? I do not envy you, but I know two young ministers with unpleasant wives and of the two only one might would take her to task. I pray they have changed but I doubt it.
2016-05-20 00:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off get the computer out of your room as that should be your private space. Then if I were you I would get a lock on the door to your room. I think it is wrong for a male relative of a female to be able to have free access to her room. I could tell you ways to make him think the computer/phone lines are bad and won't work, but I do not think you need to go quite that far. Is there someone, like a grandmother, grandfather, town leader, group leader that you can talk to about this? Even if your uncle is the nicest man in the world, you should have your private space and your own time on the phone. But be careful, there may be things going on that you do not know anything about. Hidden family secrets and such. Best of luck to you
2006-06-18 08:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by redhotboxsoxfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a "family" computer and not for your exlusive use, then it shouldn't be in YOUR room, it should be in some public area of the house. Don't do anything overt, like being rude, but do mild (oh, OK, sneaky) thing to make like unpleasant for other people when your uncle is in your room. For example, get a toy or game that makes annoying noises and play with that in your room until your uncle complains. Then apologize, and go play where your parents are. I'm sure you will think of other stuff that is not so "evil" to get you into trouble, but annoying enough so that everybody suffers, not just you.
2006-06-18 08:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#####1 do you like/love your uncle?? ##2. how old is your uncle? ##3 . if number 1 & 2 u have negative responses meaning dont really care for him and he is 10 to 25 years your senior then you have to tell it like it is. use the im a female and i need my privacy and you have to be respectful of that.. but sense your parents are some what laid back then you have to really be blunt and stern and most importantly dont be afraid to express yourself in very loud manner cause remember he is violating you and you are an adult and most of all he does not live there!!!! if you dont have it in u or he just does care then get a lock a 2 way lock with key entry on both sides or get a one way you can go to walmart it cost between $8 and $15. well good luck
2006-06-18 08:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by primet21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy,
tell him that your computer has a virus or some kind of hardware problem, and that its not working at the moment. you could even disconnect one of the power cables inside the case, for example u could unplug the cable to the power supply, disconnect the video card, or hard disk. make sure that the "problem" isnt visible. in fact, dont tell him anything, let him discover that there is a problem.
alternatively, you could say that you have a lot of work to do on the computer, and jump on the computer whenever you know he's coming. maybe hell ask a couple of times, but after a while im sure he'll give up
hope this helps
2006-06-18 08:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by incomplete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon for computers to be shared like TVs but it is easier to share a TV as long as all can agree on the show to watch. It is rude for a non-owner to not respect the owner's use of the computer. I assume your parents own the computer. It seems they don't use it as much as you, so they don't care if the use by your Uncle is abusive.
Talk to your parents and tell them you want to share the computer with the Uncle, but you'd like a schedule that is agreeable to both you and your Uncle to abide by. If they won't do this or if he won't abide by the schedule, pack up the computer and take it to you Uncle's house. After a short time ask your parents for another computer.
2006-06-18 08:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your parents again,maybe the three of you can make a change in the room of which the computer is in and keep a lock on your bedroom door for your privacy.You need to start somewhere.This also would make things clear to your uncle that you do need your room to yourself and that it isn't funny anymore.
2006-06-18 08:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your uncle should buy one for himself. Is he poor?
Listen to my advice. Put your computer in the hall/living room where the monitor can be seen by everyone. This way if he is viewing something bad, your family will see it. I am sure this will put him off. DO IT now! All the best.
2006-06-18 09:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
password protect your computer
do things to your room to make him not want to be in there, like disturbing pictures in view of the monitor
replace your computer chair with a chair with a broken leg so that when he sits he falls
when he is on the computer you stay on the phone or when he is on the phone you stay on the computer
u could just sit and stare at him with a bored look while you glance at your watch
2006-06-18 08:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋