Should I stay with him?

Question

I have been with this guy for 3 years, but now everytime I want him to romance me I have to ask, he just wont do it! I was madly in love with him before, I wanted to marry him, have children but hes changed. Its a long distance relationship, Australia and America. Ive been cheating on him with my roofer, and now Im in love with the roofer, and I've told him about the roofer and he is willing to forgive me, but he wont change. I feel bad about leaving him because weve been together so long. The roofer gives and does everything I've ever wanted or needed! What should I do, I know I have done the wrong thing by cheating. But my boyfriend believes I should have faith in the relationship, but I dont see it working out. Please help!

My boyfriend just wont do what I ask him, we do have normal talks, but I also need romance and the roofer gives it to me, and more too.

Also I love them both, but the roofer gives me everything I've asked my boyfriend to do

Answer 1

Well, it seems to me that you're really in love with the roofer. He seems to be wonderful and you seem to really care about him. I know it must be hard, because you're feeling guilt and have a feeling of priority to your previous relationship, but you seem to already have made your decision. Breakups are hard and you seem to still care about your previous relationship, but it seems to me that you want to be with the roofer more than anything else.

Answer 2

okay well it bad to cheat on your boyfriend, but if you like roofer give him a chance go out with him.me personally i don't believe in long distance relationships,but just do what you think is right!

Answer 3

I think you need to be with someone that can give you the affection that you want without asking...Tell him how you feel..If he doesn't really care than maybe you should stay with the roofer ..

Answer 4

Hey......YOU ARE MY GIRLFRIEND!!! You've been cheating on my with the roofer. WHAT?!!
It's ok. We are going to break up when I get back to the states, mate. I've been seeing other girls in Australia anyway and when I get back I don't need you. I hope the leak in the roof is taken care of. It should be. :-(

Answer 5

talk about what you like/love, ask the person you're talking to about his/her likes and dislikes.talk about current news.you could even try a bit of gossip.talk about your job and his/her job.recent movies/tv shows or books you've read lately.just ease your mind of any kind of tension and continue a flow of talk about anything that comes to your mind.dont feel shy or back out easily
Ask questions! You can ask a date anything. What do they do in their free time, what is their favorite food, music? Have they taken any interesting vacations, do they have any pets.
Don't worry about it! It's easy, just talk about things going on now, or ask what they have plans on doing in the near future, or ask what they like, or if there having fun. Don't necessarily talk about u to much ask them to.
You are talking about a date right?? you should probably write some answers down.
I can sympathize with you. I used to be like that. Best thing to do is relax. Talk about anything, it really doesn't matter, just don't start babbling. If you're with a girl you like, talk about a movie you liked, an interesting book you've read, something funny you heard. Look at her, don't stare. Compliment her on something you like about her. Be subtle, but sincere. Ask open ended questions and let her answer them, but really listen to what she's saying also. You can feed off of each others Q&A's. Don't worry, just be yourself and when you're with the right girl, things will just flow naturally. If you run out of things to say, gently take her hand and ask if she wouldn't mind going for a walk or something. Let your sense of sight, smell, touch, and sound guide you making small talk. If a girls see's that you are at least trying to hold a conversation, many times they will do what they can to help the conversation flow. Before you with someone you're interested in, I used to find it helpful to practice having a conversation before I meet up with her. Although not spontaneous, it does help you build up some confidence. Smile and look at her eyes, this will show that you also care. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

If your boyfriend is a genuine guy don't let him go. Genuine guys are rare! Love should keep you together, not lust. But if neither is present in your relationship, let it ride.

Answer 7

choose witheva one treats you betta or feel more comfortable with but also remember "neva leave da one u like 4 da 1 you love because da 1 u like will leave you 4 da 1 they love"