me and my girlfriend are really really close we know the laws and are not sexual we care about each other and want to be but she has to wait until shes 16 according to state law(yes she asked me to check), before you call me a scumbag realize i am currently waiting for her and my views on her are thus. she is a very smart and mature girl more mature than most i'm first and foremost a nice guy and am attracted to her personality, she is also very pretty and the most carign person i know, i care about her deeply and would give the world to her if i could i want to be her shield when she needs it , i want to be her light when she needs it, i want to keep her safe and happy , i want her to be happy and she is happy when i am with her and so am i. some of her friends think that love cant exist between us that its lust, but i waited 5 months untill i started dating her to weigh the situation , i know it will be hard, i care about her happiness so much i believe that is love so what u think?
2006-06-18 08:31:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
2006-06-19 03:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Priss18 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i didn't read through all this stuff but the answer is no, real love is something that happens when you know who somebody truly is (good and bad) and still love all of them, at 18 you aren't who you will be when you are a full fledged 'adult' yet and at 14 the other person involved is still a child. in a few years you will be old enough to go to bars and clubs and she'll still be in high school for pitys sake!! just don't screw up your lives, i know you posted the question but you'll convince yourself its real love no matter what anybody says (keep in mind though that we say it because we are older, been there, done that and KNOW how much things will change for both of you) so at least don't have kids or do other stupid things that will change everyones life even AFTER you figure out how childish this idea really is, as long as you avoid that then it will just be a part of growing up and a lesson learned.
2006-06-18 08:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of your lives will change so much between the ages of 14-25 that you obviously have no idea about. The biggest problem is that she won't go through all the high school and college changes till she's 21-22 which is 7-8 years from now. CAN YOU WAIT TILL THEN? No...and you shouldn't. Move on...she's way too young.
2006-06-18 08:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in every state of the US it's statutory rape, even if the girl is willing, as no state has a 14 year old age of consent. If you're outside the US, I suggest you check your local laws. Either way, it's my opinion that a 14 year old having sex with an 18 year old displays very poor judgment on the parts of both individuals.
2016-05-20 00:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible for you to be in love, yes. I'm glad you are thinking seriously about your actions in this relationship. One other thing, I would suggest (and this is harder than anything above). Refrain from ANY sexual activity until you are married. Why? Because the one thing you can give each other as a wedding gift that you can give at no other time without guilt or anxiety is your virginity. It is impossible to adequately explain to your future spouse why it was OK for you to have sex with someone else before you got married to them and if, and only if, you two decided not to get married in the future you would have destroyed each other's chance to give that gift you can only give once. It is hard to remain abstinent until that time? Yes, you will be tempted, but if you respect her and love her that much give her the ability and yourself the ability to give that one gift until the day of your wedding. You will thank me later over and over, I promise.
2006-06-18 08:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to wait the 2 years until she is legal - you also need to discuss with her parents the situation that you love her and that you want to wait until she is old enough and make sure it is really what she wnats to do - this way her parents do not make assumptions and put you in jail. make sure you are honest and true and you DO wait until she is legal. if you can wait that long maybe it is love for you - but for her 14 is a very young age even for a mature 14 yr old to understand love
2006-06-18 08:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Shopaholic Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can be in love. She can love you too. The laws are just set up to keep you from making mistakes that can ruin your future...
It's best to wait as long as you can. You have plenty of time.
Good Luck and congaratulations on finding someone to care for!
2006-06-18 08:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sounds like you are the type of boyfriend every one wants, and i dont see why love cant exist between the two of you.... as long as you go according to the law and also be faithful and loyal. love is blind, so your heart can be tricking you, but if also your mind tells you that you love this girl. well this is lov. hold on tight to her, dont let her go.. you may lose the best part of life.... just pray and hope you and her live to be husband and wife...
2006-06-18 08:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by beautyprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that age is just a number, except when it comes to an adult and a teenager or child. If you really love him, then you will let him go, or just be friends until you are older.
2006-06-18 08:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea its only 4 years apart. i know it seems like a lot now but think 30 and 34 its that big of a difference just be good to her
2006-06-18 08:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by ramshockey778 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋