after years of bad things happening, is it possible to become numb and not even care anymore?

Question

so many things have happened in my life: there used to be abuse in my family, my brother died 8 months ago, my other brother did jail time, me and my bro have been in psych wards, and now a guy did something to me that might be considered rape or sexual assault. i don't really cry ever, i just get really bad headaches and get sick alot more than i used to, back when i was little. it's like everything that happens in my life, i don't think about. i just shove it a lil closet in the back of my mind.
is this natural?

Answer 1

life put you in those situations for a reason.....

did you ever look beyond what happened to you....n really looked into whats happening?????

n the only way you could realise that was by being a part of it.....

so just bcoz you had to go through so much pain doesnt mean life intended to hurt you....

maybe it was life's way of telling you something.....

n now you need to find the reason why it happened....n how is your past relevant to your existence.......what is that that your past has taught you.....n what are you gonna do with it!

that was only a part of your life.....you have a future ahead of you that you can chose to build the way you want......

its our past that moulds us into the person we are....

if your life's been tough.....it has made you tough.....

n this strenght shouldnt be wasted....

all the best....

n no you are not normal......you are extraordinary!

Answer 2

Sorry to hear about your brother. If you get therapy in the psych ward, it might not be a bad place? Maybe you could go to a church or clinic and ask about counsellors. If your parents are still around, you could talk to them about these things? The problem is, when you put things in that closet, they come out in different ways, sickness, headaches, abuse on other people or yourself, tiredness, depression in general. I would get help, go to the doc and get pills and counselling. Don't leave those things locked up or they will grow. You are chosing not to feel because it is too painful. Start having some good experiences. Make them happen, chose good people to be around, do fun things, take care what you know you need to take care of. You are important enough to get help, don't stop until you get it.

Answer 3

Yes it is natural but it does more damage to keep it all bottled up. I would suggest talking to a friend or relative with whom you are close to. It's not heathy at all not to talk about how you are feeling. Just try to keep yourself out of bad situations like you have been in before. Learn from you past and others mistakes and try not to have history repeat itself. I personally know first hand what depression can do to a person. I battled depression for years until I found what I call a wonder pill and that's wellbutrin xl. Ever since ive been taking it my life has completely changed for the good. Good luck to you and I wish you the best.

Answer 4

yes this is possible but it is not natural. Well actually its called depression. What you are experiencing could be a form of post partum depression or something of the liking. The best thing I can advise you is to see a consuler or something so that you can work these feelings out. If you are religious then you might want to try and talk with a pastor or priest or whatnot. I understand your "lil closet". I have one of my own. It helps a lot when you talk about it (not so much think about it but talk about it) so that you can get the feelings out. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Yes, this is called depression... I am the exactly same way... My house burned down, my dad died, 5 more people died that i was CLOSE to, and I just don't seem to care... You have to take meds and go to a counsiler... That's what I am doing, it's hard, but you have to do it!

I get migranes every day, and I have developed eating disorders, and much more... It's natural with as much as you have experianced... How old are you? I am 13 turning 14 next month... Well feel free to talk to me more... My e-mail is [e-mail] <3

good Luck!!!

Love Always

Later.

Answer 6

No this is not normal, Honey you need a good cry, crying kinda solves alot of our problems. Sounds to me you have been raked over the coals 1 too many times.You also need to find a very good church to go to, and ask some of the members to pray for you. Ask Jesus yourself for help and healing. After awhile if your keeping this bottled up inside of you, your gonna end up going off the deep end. Then you may have to sit in a 6x6 cell for the rest of your life due to harming another person. Do seek help for yourself. Jesus does love you, it just seems like at the time this stuff happening to you, he wasn't there. He was and always will be, he's just waiting for you to ask.

Answer 7

Interesting and sort of sounds like me-with the closet! Life is tough, a day to day effort I am finding. Wish I could offer you help-All I do is keep smiling and keep going! Best of luck!

Answer 8

It's called depression and there is a cure for it. Don't waste the rest of your life living in a fog. Get treatment and learn to live every moment.

Answer 9

can you do something to turn things around ? Like maybe change ppl and even family if you must that surrounds you ?
You can start experiencing good thing happening to you .

I quess it would be natural even though your experiences are so gore you are getting used to them. But please makes some changes , you can't go on with a torment like that.

Answer 10

i think its normal you just don't want to feel any more