Why do people think it is OK to get a divorce for different reasons, but fail to see it is OK for brain damage

Question

to get an annulment?? (If the person becomes incapasitated)....I think brain damage would be worst....and i do feel it is ok to get an annulment...what's your take on this???

Answer 1

I got the crap beat out of me by my first husband got divorced and then after we got divorced he ran over a Texas highway patrol man when he was drunk I think brain damage is an OK reason to get divorced.Who ever told you so was false do not believe everything people tell you.I worked in a nursing home for years and I saw a lady come in when her husband who was in a come and incapacitated with half a brain say miserable come in and finally divorce him after she met someone else its not fun

Answer 2

Maybe there are different aspects which the majority of decision makers consider...if in a 'normal' marriage, both parties have the chance and option to work on it and to rationally think before hastening into any conclusion and decisions.

As with many things, marriage shouldn't be taken so easily, and as far as I know, the christian, especially the catholic, marriage vow includes the paragraph: 'I take you as my husband/wife, will love and respect you, and care for you in good and in bad...' or something very similar to it.

So when taking on such a responsibility, it would be quite unfair then to request an annulment of a marriage just based on the fact that the person, which we once loved so dearingly that we even vowed on it, is no longer in the same condition.

It's like divorcing because someone broke a leg or got big/fat...while, if in the state of incapasitation based on brain damage, the person can't be made responsible for it (like hey, go change what you're doing, or I divorce you...)...

And, divorce always requires both parties to be mentally able to understand the extend to it, same as marriage does. So this is not a given option under any law, as far as I know of. The point is just, that the mental incapasitated person can't object, and therefore I think it would not be ok...but that's basically a moral and ethics question, which I am not really able to answer...

Answer 3

If you were married to me, and you suffered a closed head injury that left you with sustained brain damage, would you want me to leave you?
Perhaps, if many doctors insisted to me that you would never recover from this, and would remain in a persistant coma for the rest of your life, I might consider it. After several years.
Because wouldn't we both feel utterly terrible if you DID recover? Even if I went on to have a happy life with a different person, you would be left with nothing, and I would then feel miserable about that.
You see, when you love someone, you don't just give up on them. You don't let go. If you did, then you never truly loved the person at all.

Answer 4

Perhaps it is beacause the person had no control over their injury, and a vow was made "in sickness and in health". I don't think it is okay in principle, but I haven't been in that situation. If I were my answer might be different.

Answer 5

for better or worse, in sickness and in health.......