I just want my boyfriend to study and he promises me he will. He has promised me several times he would do better and he failed Algebra 1 so he has to take night school. Now I fear unconschiously, he is taking me down the same path. How can I stop it. I want to be with him but I want to study and when I grow up I want to marry a guy who can support my family and help me out and be proffessional like how I want to be. I want us to both succed not just me or being dragged down with him. My mom says I have to influence him but it's so hard if he doesn't want to. Then if he doesn't stay in my house he will go online and talk to his stupid best friend or play video games or all. and I can tell him to prove his love by studying but how will I know he didn't trick me by skateboarding, playing video games, or talking online? How can he clean up his act? And not ruin my good study habits?
2006-06-18 07:39:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go dump him, its the only choice to do so. when you dump him and give him a reason why you did it, it will grealty impact his life. Your words will echo in his head, it is up to him to decide if he really want to do this for you (studying and have a good life) or he will just be in depression and never see the light again. You need a action to spark his will and potential. you can try it if you want to, but if you don't want to leave him, well you gotta get yourself together and put him out of your life first, think about yourself first, put yourself and education one of the most important thing first before him. If he wants to go hang out and you have to study, refuse him and go study. If you don't do this now, then nobody else will do it for you.
2006-06-18 08:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, he doesn't study, would rather skateboard or play video and all of the other bad stuff that you mentions and you feel that you have to influence him? Get off the Messiah Complex. You can't save the world, especially if that person doesn't want to be save. Dump him and focus on yourself. You will eventually meet someone else who shares your values.
2006-06-18 07:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but if you don't dump this guy now, you are going to spend the rest of your life supporting him.
My daughter had a similar relationship. All the guy wanted to do was to be in the bar with his pals watching sports. She loved him but saw the truth early enough. Now she has a great boyfriend who has a good career going
2006-06-18 07:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to understand that each person walks thier own path and each person must take responsibility for thier own actions. If your boyfriend does not want to study then you need to decide if you want to be with a person like that. If you choose to stay, then you must take responsibility for your action and accept the consequences which may not be the comfortable life that you want. You are still young, and you work hard. Use your brain and make your own decisions...
2006-06-18 07:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 02:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by rangnow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have an idea you 2 should study together and like if there is a quiz you ask i him the question and for every1 he gets right give him a kiss.
2006-06-18 07:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by beach babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is what u do say wgatever his name is we need to study on our school work and say after we study we can do some other stuff i garantee ull have time for both!
2006-06-18 07:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by polly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you boyfriend dont wanna to study is a stupid! 8p
2006-06-18 07:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by ~****gIRL$***~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋