In my high school years one of our neighbors, named Jane, was raped by her best friends’ boyfriend. Before Jane was raped she had admitted to some of her friends that she had a crush on him (her best friends’ boyfriend). Now this is where it gets weird, Jane’s’ best friend new Jane liked her boyfriend and once had her boyfriend to feel Jane up (in the heat of the moment is what was claimed) when they watched an adult film together. A week later the same guy raped Jane after a fight with his girlfriend. About 8 years later Jane sent the guy e-mails saying she still wanted to do him and still had sexual fantasies she wanted to fulfill with him. What reason would make a girl to still be sexually attracted to her rapist?
FYI: The rape charge didn't hold in court too strong because of lack of witnesses, not enough evidence and the girlfriend testified that Jane had claimed consent to sex a week prior. He did do some time but he got off real light. If I remember right he got about 2 years.
2006-06-18 07:33:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her behaviour is symptomatic of an emotional and psyschological disorder. it is not the first time that i have heard of a women having feelings for her rapist. In some strange way, the rape survivor starts to think that they have connected emotionally with the rapist and they start to feel like they "understand" them. All i can say is that the girl needs to get professional help.
2006-06-18 07:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 7⤊ 6⤋
Ok i understand were shes coming from because alot of times girls dont date younger guys its usally the other way around, she may just be afraid of what people will think like she cant get someone her own age or even some the legal age but at the same time i feel she shouldnt confuse you by holding youe hand and i think she thinks of this as a fun thing like going on dates and hanging out but not for a real relarionship
2016-05-20 00:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really was raped, her current feelings aren't normal and she needs to talk to a counselor. A rapist should never be rewarded for that behavior. Now, if she secretly liked the "rape," then that's another story. It really depends - if he knew and was just playing along with her fantasy, then he's an okay guy, but if he really used force then that's wrong.
2006-06-18 07:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like one of two things. Either she wasn't really raped, or she's messed up in the head from the rape and is having confusing feelings about her rapist. It sounds like she needs some heavy duty counseling either way.
2006-06-18 07:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..... weird!! Maybe she wasn't really raped and they did have sex. After not getting what she wanted( a relationship maybe) she decided to get back at him by accusing him of rape. Cause if she liked this guy...... I doubt that it was rape. especially if they were watching adult films together.
Besides....... when a girl is raped...... she doesnt have sexual fantasies about that guy......not even if she knew him.. A girl usually hates her rapist. not have fantasies about it...... unless she liked it!!!!
2006-06-18 07:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by yadironga 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she did send him this e-mail, then maybe she really didnt get raped. Cause no one who has gotten raped would want anything to do with their rapist. I see it as consensual sex.
2006-06-18 07:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, bizarre...
My only thought is that although she was raped, deep down inside she wanted it....however she didn't want it in the way he gave it to her....no romance, foreplay, etc.
Also, maybe as she has matured, she fantasizes about the feeling of being dominated, and there is no greater feeling of being dominated than being raped, so now she thinks about the rapist......or, maybe she wants to dominate him,....IDK, this is why rape is bad! it can mess people up sexually....
2006-06-18 07:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by duckboy007 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've heard of some women having weird fantasies with their rapist or kidnapper. Those are very few though.
2006-06-18 07:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by DragonHeart18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like "Jane" might need some therapy...and I'm being serious. To want to be intimate with someone that raped you just doesn't sit right with me. But I guess to each their own right??
2006-06-18 07:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
iamsure her elevator doesent go to the top floor right,she needs counseloring and good friends to show her the way to a healthy relation with a guy
2006-06-18 07:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she still wants him then i think shes a bit screwed in the head. otherwise she maybe wasnt 'raped' but actually wanted it?
2006-06-18 07:36:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋