2006-06-18 07:21:40 · 6 answers · asked by prettylass217 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You need to explain to them truthfully why he moved away, and ask him to do the same (if possible). Kids usually blame themselves for parents splitting up - they think maybe they weren't good enough, or that their behaviour somehow drove their parents apart. Assuming there are no hostilities, and if you and their father are willing, arrange a programme for visitation, encourage letter writing, emails, sms and phone calls. As responsible parents you need to ensure that the kids have easy access to you both, and that you do not tie them down by whatever caused you and your hubby to part. Do not be spiteful or resentful of their need to have contact with their dad, its their birth right. This may sound easier than it actually is particularly if you broke up on very nasty terms, but as their mum you do need to make an extra effort to allow them the freedom to continue their relationship with their father. If you truly love them, you can do it. Wishing you the best of luck.
2006-06-18 07:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Lueji 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
When you say, "Help my kids deal with their father" I find myself hoping that they aren't having to deal with their mother about their father. I don't think you should highlight the fact that Dad's gone. Your conversations and daily activities with them shouldn't even have the word or idea of Dad in them. The FACT is you all have life without him now. Go to the park, the zoo, or to movies. Talk about what you did today. If they bring him up just give them an honest answer and remind them that YOU ALL are the family. Watch your facial expressions mom, and your tone of voice. They will take all the way they see you taking it.
2006-06-18 18:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by euhmerist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now you have to be both the mother and the father, give it about a month and youll have a new routine and things will become somewhat normaller (hey i made up a word ) , My dad moved up to New York a few years ago and makes regular trips back and forth every month.
2006-06-18 07:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by sergio SoIcy Martinez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has a computer or knows where a internet cafe is he could buy a webcam as well as you and you can instant message via yahoo messanger and see each other at the same time or you both could buy microphones and talk to each other via messanger for free!!!
2006-06-18 07:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by MarinewithQuestion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be paitent and reinerate its not their fault if he wants to see them he knows where they live and be patient my sons father live 50,000 miles a way and sees him every other weekend which i am grateful for
2006-06-18 07:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the father loves them he will call them or visit or call to ask them if they wanna go to visit him
2006-06-18 10:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by elmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋