ok guys here is the deal. i have been dating this great girl for going on 4 years. we have been on and off, but i have always realized that she is a great person, faithful, loving, and ambitious. my best friend and i would consider her a rare find. BUT sometimes we just dont get along. small things usually, but is a love hate relationship. she is pressing to get married, but i just dont know. one part of me says that shell never do me wrong and we can work things out and work at things in our relationship, but the other part says we are just not compatible. lately i have realized that the world is not what it seems to be. there are not as many good people out there, and i dont want to lose one of the best. should i work at it and plan to get hitched or leave her. i dont want to hurt her more than i have already, so i need to decide. thank you
2006-06-18 06:49:43 · 12 answers · asked by dpnkorea2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no such thing as the perfect girl, or the perfect relationship. If you truly love her then you can look past her faults. You found a great girl, and you will be happy with her. Marriage is a scarry proposition. I know b/c I just got married 4 months ago. But it is great. We still fight sometimes, but overall, it is fantastic, and I wouldn't trade her for the world.
2006-06-18 06:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends....are you deeply in love with this person? is this someone that you want to share the rest of your life with? Marriage is a commitment and should not be entered into lightly...too many people rely on the fact that they can just go get divorced, and they can, but then the bitterness and anger set in. I think what you need to do is tell her you need some space, not necessarily break it off with her, but let her know that you need some time to think. Use the time to think about what you really want for yourself. If you come to find that she is the one and you don't want to live another day without her by your side, then marry her, if you don't feel that way then don't. It is easier to break things off now then a few years down the road when you are miserable and married and kids get involved. You are allowed time to think about you, and she should respect that.
2006-06-18 06:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by savsoul_searcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love hate relationships work. a relationship be perfect, when you see a relationship that is perfect like that it's usually fake. i had a love hate relationship and it was the best i ever had. i only brokr up with him because i was going off to university and i didn't want to hurt him. if things had been different i would probably be married to him by now. we all have doubts in life, but we have to take the risks.
2006-06-18 07:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by candyprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, no relationship is perfect and if u get married u will still have problems, but, if u both really love each other u will work them out and be happy for a long time to come. good luck to u on what ever decision u make.
2006-06-18 07:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with the one that says 4 years and you don't know and have to ask us. Do the hard but right thing, Break up
2006-06-18 06:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some more time..this is kind of a tough decision, but give it some more time and see how things are going...but i would lean more on the marry her part if you really love her and by teh way you describe her.
2006-06-18 06:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by TriNStylZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is do you want to marry her and spend the rest of your life with her?If yes,go for it.But if you sit there and question it.Then maybe its time for the both of you to move on.
2006-06-18 06:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by ~Devilz~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is strictly my opinion but if after 4 years you aren't sure whether or not to marry her...you don't want to marry her....
2006-06-18 06:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Luvtonurse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should marry her or you can wait alitle longer but if you realize you want to marry her later she might not marry you but you have been togther for 4 years you need to talk your difrences and see for you ifyou think it wouldwork out but i say go for it marry her....bye
2006-06-18 06:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by fefe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reply to marry or leave her . when you been with a person for awhile youhave to way the good and the bad . when your away from this person do i miss her? how old are you? when you want it you know ,when you want it you know.
2006-06-18 06:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by shannon i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋