He claims that he loves me alot. He says he doesn't look at other girls, when i go to parties and drink, he threatens to kill himself. When im on the urge to break up with him, he threatens to kill himself. He will start crying like a baby, if i tell him we are having problems. He starts to get mad if i have guy friends. He keeps telling me that if i ever break up with him, itll be the last time i see him, is he just faking or will he do it? I don't know, but i don't want to do something stupid and regret it. He has also had some suicide attempts in the passed.
He claims he loves me alot, and yet pick fights 24/7. Get jealous. Tries to force stuff on me. Every single time i come over to his house, its always got to be about him. He says he doesn't want to waste money on me for my birthday.
i just don't know.
2006-06-18 06:03:36 · 15 answers · asked by trish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has had professional help, he takes medication for it too!
2006-06-18 06:08:01 · update #1
He is obsessed with you and could lead to stalking (been there too many times) so beware. Stalkers generally do threaten suicide in an attempt to persuade you to keep him. They thrive on controlling you. I suggest getting away from this guy and if he scares you and you fear harm to yourself get a restraining order.
Fundamentally, stalking is a series of actions that puts a person in fear for their safety. The stalker may follow you, harass you, call you on the telephone, watch your house, send you mail you don't want, or act in some other way that frightens you.
The exact legal definition varies from state to state, but all states now have some kind of law against stalking. Virtually any unwanted contact between a stalker and their victim which directly or indirectly communicates a threat or places the victim in fear can generally be referred to as stalking, whether or not it meets a state's exact legal definition. Stalkers use a wide variety of methods to harass their targets. The inventiveness, persistence, and obsessive nature of stalkers is almost unimaginable, until you have experienced being the target.
Stalking is a serious, potentially life-threatening crime. Even in its less severe forms, it permanently changes the lives of the people who are victimized by this crime, as well as affecting their friends, families, and co-workers. Law enforcement is only beginning to understand how to deal with this relatively new crime. Stalking is more common than you might think, although it is hard to get accurate figures because law enforcement organizations have only recently started keeping records. Best estimates indicate that as many as 1.4 million Americans are stalked each year; and that 1 in 20 women will become targets of stalking behavior at least once during their lifetimes. Many men are also stalked. Stalkers can be dangerous, but not always.
Many stalkers change behavior over time and escalate the frequency or the intensity of their contacts. Ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands who stalk are often violent. Some of the most dangerous stalkers give little or no warning before they attack.
Some people who are being stalked are more afraid than they need to be, and others are not as afraid as they should be.
2006-06-18 06:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 6 · 18⤊ 1⤋
I had a boyfriend who was the same way. Didn't want me to have male friends, would threaten to kill himself if I left him, etc. I broke up with him 16 years ago and he is still alive and well. Even if your boyfriend is serious, you can not deny or sacrifice your happieness for anyone. I was making myself sick trying to please him and being miserable at the same time. I would direct him to the suicide hote line just to be on the safe side. I bet when you suggest this to your boyfriend, he will sing a different tune. If he really wanted to kill himself, he would have done it already. I would also let his parents know about what he is doing so if he does it, no one can say you didn't try to help him. It is on him if he does it, and its not your fault because there are less drastic ways to deal with breakups. If you stay in this situation, you might think of suicide because of all the stress. I would also talk to his doctor about him threatening suicide. It could be a side effect to his medication.
2006-06-18 06:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. I understand that u love the guy but if he acts like that leave him. Then when he threatens suicide call the police they are required to commit him for 72 hour suicide watch. By then he will have calmed down and probably won't do it.
Besides If your birthday is a waste of money, the idiot who said that is a waste of your time. There are plenty of ways to spend your birthday without spending money. If he can't find one he doesn't love you.
2006-06-18 06:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by real_sweetheart_76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh wow u have it worser than me umm well all i can say is he might be faking it but if u what u said was true that he tryed to kill himself in the past then maybe he needs to go somewear were they can help him but only u will no what to do gosh i feel for ya this must suck but yea like i said he might be faking it if hes looking at other girls and cheaking them out! contact me if u need ne help!
2006-06-18 06:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is CONTROLLING YOU in the worsed way possible and you NEED TO LERAVE HIM ASAP. What he does after is not your problem. It also called ABUSE and you need to step up and let him hear you tell him to STOP saying that crazy none sense crap to you and get help. If he doesnt get help for himself thats his choice but please do not stay with him and in a relationship of none stop control of him over you, WALK OUT and ever look back. Guys like that will never change without proper help from pros. You can also ask him to go to a counsler and go with him and if he refuses to go then leave him, dont listen to anything he has to say once the door is closed.
Get out of this abusive relationship before its to late, please !!!!
2006-06-18 06:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by apleasure2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he is doing is a form of control. he is threating to take his life so you stay with him. it would be no different then if someone told you if you left them, they would kill you. there is a good chance he is suicidal, thats not something you just want to toss out. how old is he? if he is under 18, talk to his parents. let them know that although you love him, you cannot handle the stress of being with him, and what he puts you through. let them know he has threatened to kill himself if you leave him and you dont know what to do. his parents could commit him somewhere and he can get the help he needs. if you try to deal with this yourself, your kind of in a no win situation. you will need help to get out, if thats what you want, or you will need help to get him help. if he says he is going to kill himself, tell him if he trys, you will call 911. they can help you in the situation, and they could also put him somewhere, at least for 72hrs, to help him and prevent him from harming himself. Wish you all the luck in the world, and i know what your going through. if you want out, dont let his threats keep you there. he needs help. help him get the help he needs if you want to stay with him. otherwise, notify someone of his intentions if you chose to leave him. good luck.
2006-06-18 06:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by kantriella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda sounds like he is using his suicide routine to control you into doing/acting how he wants you to. I would seriously consider ending a relationship that is unhealthy for the both of you. I would also suggest counseling and let someone else in his family know what is going on.
2006-06-18 06:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has a control problem, and he needs some help by a professional, he is obviously and clearly suicidal. But remember suicide is not his fault, just be there for him, and get the help he needs for you and him.
2006-06-18 06:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is realy very possesive for u
it is fourth stage of infactuations or love u can say
try to calm him and tell him that his behavoir is uncomfortable for u
and according to the details it seems that he might can try to suicide if u leave him
give him love
dont worry
and if still the condition worsen then tell him to go for councelling
2006-06-18 06:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋