And my whole world is seeming to fall apart. My vacation to Barbados has been canceled so I can go to her funeral. I've been having wierd dreams about my crush and I tried to tell him and now he won't talk to me. I met a cute guy at camp but my friend wants him and I'll never see him again anyway. Am I being selfish about not wanting to go to her funeral? And I don't want your answer if you're not going to be serious.
2006-06-18 06:03:18 · 13 answers · asked by dreamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes..selfish.
You are feeling sorry for yourself and nothing seems to be going your way.
Go to the funeral. One of your parents just lost their Mother. Think about what they are going through. You need to be supportive.
You said (95 years old) in parenthesis as though she should be dead by now ... and why should anybody be surprised or upset.
Your parent LOVED their Mother ... maybe more so because she has always been there for so long...and they are really hurting right now.
Nothing will go your way with the attitude you have now... Things will look brighter soon.
2006-06-18 06:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by gcbtrading 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, my condolences. But please remember that you were lucky to have her for so long. Most people never even met their great grandparents. Here's a story to help you decide: When my Mom died last year my 15 yr old son was torn because his class was going to Washington DC for four days during the time of the funeral. I left the decision up to him, but also mentioned that his gramma would want him to go, especially since my father died several years ago on the day before his 7th birthday. Anyway, he went to Washington DC with his class. He has felt a little guilty ever since. So there you go. Will there be hard feelings in your family if you don't go? If so, do you care? Do you think you'll feel guilty if you don't go? Good luck with your decision.
2006-06-18 15:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being selfish. You should be celebrating that this women lived a great 95 years! That is an amazing thing. Do you realize all of the stuff she seen and did. And if it weren't for her you wouldn't be around.
Quit being so damn selfish and go to the funeral.
2006-06-18 13:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by I love my babies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death never seems to come at a good time in your life. But you should pay your respect to her.I'm sure she was there for you when you needed it. Besides think about your parent they might need comfort from loosing their mom. As far as the little crush you have plenty of time to have others and no boy is worth fighting over so say goodbye to your Grandmother maybe something of good luck will happen at the funeral.
2006-06-18 13:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by willyo2340 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are being selfish. She didnt' die on purpose to ruin your plans.
Why is the entire trip cancelled and not just post poned a few days?
As far as the boy problems, you're young and should just go with the flow for now. When the right one comes along you will know it. You just haven't met him yet. So enjoy being young and enjoy dating alot of different types of guys - its a great way to really know what you like and what you don't like so when the right guy comes around, you totally appreciate him.
2006-06-18 13:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by neona807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my option it is being kinda selfish. my grandmother passed away last year~ after along struggle. and it was a very sadden time for all of us. i don't understand how you could be thinking of yourself at a time like that. all it is is a moment to bury the died, to let go of a loved one so that they may rest in peace~ when you come back the same people (guys) are still gonna be there and you can go back to that, but right now think you should focus on God and ur grandmother.
2006-06-18 13:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people would be lucky to make it to 95. I know this seems harsh at this time but we all have our turn and she had hers. It is not so much if you go to her funeral as it is in how you remember her.
2006-06-18 13:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by parshooter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being a little little selfish just because you should respect her........but sometimes people who have lost someone very close feel so bad that they can't stand to go to their funeral
2006-06-18 13:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences, she is in a better place. Go to your grandmothers funeral, you will feel better about it later on. She was your grandmother after all. Did you love her??? You sound young. You sound like you have a lot of things going on. Keep your chin up. Things will get better.
2006-06-18 13:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were close to her you really should go not to mention your grandma and mother could really use your support since im sure they were close to her. just replan your trip for another time as for the guy probs. i cant even figure my crap out so i wont preach on that one to you
2006-06-18 13:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋