I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year and 4 months.I thought he was the one for me until he left me for my firned the girl he was cheating with. I sacificed so much to be with him, i would buy him gifts, tell him I love him everyday, i would change my hair just so he would notice, I would never misss his b-day, I would buy new clothes just so I could keep his attention, what did I do to make him cheat?
2006-06-18 05:55:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing that made me made is he cheated on me with one of my friends. I hate that whore
2006-06-18 06:02:59 · update #1
its not you its him. he is the one with the problem. you didnt do anything wrong. there was a survey done at one time where a bunch of married men were asked, if your wife does everything for you, including cleaning the house, taking care of the kids, pampering you when you come home from work, tending to your every need, and doing everything you asked her to do, would you still cheat if given the oppertunity? over half the men said yes, that they would still cheat. i would have nothing to do with their wives, and they love them and everything, its just how some men (and women for that matter) are wired. dont, not even for a second, think it was you or you did something wrong. its his issues and his problems. you will find a man that will treat you like you deserve to be treated and will be faithful to you. dont give up hope. good luck to you.
2006-06-18 06:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by kantriella 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
sweetie it is totally not u!!! He is a donkey. U deserve a guy that is going to do all thse things for u! There are a lot of guys out there that will u just had to learn from this experiance. That is what life is all about. You live and learn and it ends up making u stronger for the next experiance that life throws at u. I know for a fact that u will find another guy. And for ur friend she is stupied because he is going to do the same thing to her and that is something u can laugh about. Be happy that this happened now and u do not want to be with a jerk like that even if he is cute. He is a loser...... U will get over it. It just takes time. smile
2006-06-18 13:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably nothing. In our society, girls always have the advantage in the sex department. (Almost ANY girl can have sex anytime she wants it. She just has to flirt with almost ANY guy.) This unfair advantage makes a lot of men opportunistic. I'm not saying it's right, but as Chris Rock said, " Men are only as faithful as their opportunities." He did you a favor by doing this now, and not down the road when you might have children together. Move on....
2006-06-18 13:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by dhills23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry hon, he is scum. He did it because he wasn't as committed to you as you were to him. Unfortunately, men have a hard time keeping it in their pants. I know it might not seem like it now, but eventually, you will see this is for the best. You deserve to be with someone as committed to you as you are to him. He took advantage of you and your naiveity. Sometimes its good to learn these things for the future, not to shower people with love and affection unless they are willing to do the same thing back to you. You should never have to change things about yourself to please someone else. You should only do them to please you.
And as for the friend he cheated with, cut her out of your life ASAP. She is not your friend and does not deserve a second chance. I hope she realizes what she has done is completely wrong. And you know, if they end up together, he will do the same thing to her and a dozen other girls until, if ever, he grows up.
There are good guys out there, it just takes a lot of digging and a lot of messy hands to find them. You will eventually.
2006-06-18 13:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Go Coogs! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because guys suck...but doing all of those things won't make a guy love you! Some guys take advantage of girls that do those things for them, and if he wasn't doing all the same things in return you can be sure he was using you. Make sure the relationship is a two-way street...and that you're both getting something out of it!
2006-06-18 12:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by meeso12002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU didnt do anything wrong!!!!
Its his choice and you are better off with him leaving before you got hurt even more so if he stayed just because you love him, guys dont work that way. Please dont think its your fault, its NOT and now you need to move on and find someone new, dont beat yourself up over his actions. If he cheated he wasnt into you to begin with, his loss and your gain of being able to find the REAL love in your life. Be strong and move on !!!
2006-06-18 13:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by apleasure2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get urself a man that would do that 4 u insted of u doind that 4 him(exept for the hair thing)
2006-06-18 12:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you just did was wrong already. If you needed new clothes and new hair styles just to keep his attention, then your relationship was doomed to begin with. If you tell him you love him everyday (like literally everyday), that might have annoyed him.
2006-06-18 13:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by BM0027 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he didn´t feel as you did. Did he do any of the things you say you did for him? Did he change his hair, his habits, not forget your birthday...? Think on the things you probably didn´t give to him. Don´t know, look back at your relationship. Was it real love?
2006-06-18 13:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by NEOFROZENED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing to make him cheat. He cheated because he wanted to and there was nothing you could have done that would have stopped him. Next time find a man that is done ******* around and wants to settle down.
2006-06-18 13:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by George 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋