why do I just wanna yell at somebody, pick up a fight, or cry?!!!?

Question

I got up this morning and I'm in the worst mood. I already got in a stupid fight with 2 of my friends. I called my ex-boyfriend and totally gave him attitude over the phone. I really missed him but I didn't wanna show it. I just wanna cry.

Answer 1

It sounds like you are choosing the mask of agression to keep from allowing yourself to be sad? You miss your ex-boyfriend---but can't open up enough to tell him that, instead you use agression to make a contact with him. When talking with friends rather than tell them you were hurting, you lashed out..it's our animal instinct to lash out when we're wounded. (Ever try to take care of a family pet when it was injured? ...sometimes you wind up being bitten when all you wanted was to clean the wound, or offer food and water...)

Find a friend, parent or sibling---with whom you are comfortable, someone you trust---and open up...cry, talk about your feelings. Maybe then you can quell the anger???

Take care

Answer 2

If this happens too often, to you, it could be a symptom of insulin imbalance, cause that does a number on the female hormones, which does a number on the emotions.

Allow yourself to cry for a short term solution. Anything that gets the lungs moving rapidly gets the heartbeat up, making the body respond by releasing blood sugar from storage into the blood stream, letting the brain have enough sugar (food) allowing it to balance the emotions.

Singing, laughing, exercising, etc. works in the same way. Next time you wake up in a bad mood, turn on some favorite songs and sing along.

When you are feeling better, apologize to your friends. If they are friends (and female) they should understand and forgive. Can't help with the boyfriend, but if you do this in the future, your next one may never become an ex unless you want him to be.

Answer 3

There is a lot of advice on here - which could leave you more confused if anything. My suggestion:

Keep it simple.

Go and talk to a therapist. Sounds like you have difficulty dealing with feelings (as many people do). Learn some skills - you'll be amazed how life will change. If there is anything going on with you physically - you'll figure that out in time. Start with the most simple solution - and don't let people tell you you're spoiled or wrapped up in yourself. We all are entitled to our feelings - but what we focus on and how we handle them is what matters. Go and get some help and learn how to get in touch with what you need and how to express that in a healthy way.

Answer 4

You are not going to like hearing this but I want to help so here it is:

You are plain and simple spoiled. You need to wake up and understand just how well you have it in the world and how there are millions - hundreds of millions of people who don't know where their next meal will come from and have no place to live. You wake up in a cozy bed and probably do not have to worry about those things. You are caught up with a group of people . . .a circle which you might need to step back from a few days.

You should be focused on your future, on things you like to do and forget about your ex-boyfriend and your friends for awhile.

Think about YOU and treat you right, don't expect others to.

Don't "cling" to boyfriends. There will probably be others in your life and if you have to guard a guy then he's probably not going to work out in the long-run anyway.

Keep you girlfriends out of your boyfriend picture. That's a private thing and you should discuss very little with them about your boyfriend. They must have their own biyfriends to be consumed about?

And get in a good mood! Enjoy life no matter how bad things seem they are not really that bad at all. Set aside some time and do something fun you enjoy - do it by yourself. Focus on your future on what you want out of life and WORK for that.

Then there will be no time to argue with boyfriends and friends.

Take four deep breaths before you think you are going to say something you will regret. It works for me, I promise.

Answer 5

Well, this can't be very pleasant for you, and I can see that it bothers you alot. It's true that hormone level fluctuations can bring on bad moods and general touchiness, but along with that, it looks like you are bothered by something, and any hormone changes might make things worse. Why not see somebody about this? Being chronically "working" on something that is troubling you and going off periodically is exhausting and counter-productive for you. And the answer to it all could be end up being something simple, like a pill or nutrition.

Answer 6

This happens on other occasions I assume or you wouldn't be concerned about it.
If you are worried about it you should seek a counselor in your community(you aren't crazy, it's good to get to the bottom of these things before they get out of control.)
Anger is an easy emotion for us to feel and express but it is usually a feeling that is masking other feelings such as " I feel unloved" or unworthy or even unlovable why won't anyone listen to me? this is why good friends are so important, those you can let your feelings out with and not be judged for it. A therapist or counselor is trained and paid to accept you with unconditional positive regard(as posited by Rogers)
but isn't that what family does(or should do? When the family can't or won't is where the problems come in).
I have done individual and group therapy for many years but I continue my own therapy as a way to
avoid getting too caught up in the problems of people who come to see me. For most, therapy can be a one time of short duration experience. Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 7

Sounds like PMS to me. I have it SEVERELY. It happens 2 weeks before my period, and lasts for about 2 days sometimes 3. Also very tired, I could fall asleep sitting up! They say to lay off caffine (yeah right) and drink lots of water. Maybe just be alone for the day. Do whatever makes YOU happy.

Answer 8

U have to learn to control yourself, if you let ur emotions control u youll be worse off than u started. Remember that the next time u decide to vent and take out your frustration on ur friends. If u continue to do so, ull find yourself alienated and alone. Goodluck aye

Answer 9

It could be your period, depression or you just got up "on the wrong side of the bed" as my Granny used to say. Go do something you enjoy, alone. Don't make others suffer for your crappy mood. It'll pass.

Answer 10

Well, you're a female for one, and maybe you're under stress. Take a vacation. Also, if you have an annoying alarm clock, change it something more peaceful because the way you wake up could affect your day.

Answer 11

I think you are under severe stress and your group is out to teach you a lesson. Accept that you are an outsider and start small. Depression its all about Friends and family.