Childrens rights?

Question

Back in my days when the cane was around, children seemed to have more respect for their elders. It was something dreaded at school, and the embarrassment of anything worse like detention or suspension (not to mention your parents giving you another hiding when you got home) was unthinkable.

Now children speak to adults with disrespect, there is no punishment at school, if you break the rules you get to hang out in the office or pick up garbage which is better fun than going to class anyway and if you're really bad you get extra holidays! Your parents can only talk to you so that you don't report their "abusive" behaviour and get taken away, and when you get older if you screw up, well your parents cop the rap for not disciplining you!

Where are the adults rights?

Answer 1

I don't care what anyone thinks of me, I still spank my kids, and you better believe if they get into trouble at school, I will make their punishment far worse than the school ever could! I do not consider it to be abuse, because I always use my open hand on their clothed butt,(they have even gotten their mouths slapped for talking to me in a way I do not accept). They always get hugs and kisses after and I make sure they understand WHY they are in trouble. I also really don't think the teachers SHOULD be allowed to spank my or anyone elses children. That is not their place.
I agree with you on the parents being responsible for the kids when they get into trouble. That isn't right, parents can't watch their children with the eagle eye every second of every day. And no matter what, even with the BEST parenting, their are still going to be kids who are nothing but trouble makers. I think kids should be held accountable for their own actions.
BUT, what are we or anyone else going to do about it? I will just keep doing my thing, and saying "THANK YOU" when people tell me how well behaved my kids are!

Answer 2

I feel that there is a strong difference between disciplining one's children and abusing them. Many parents do not take the time to try and correct the children when they are younger nor give the child a swift swat on the butt if they deserve it.

Mostly due to the fact that America has become so worried and politically correct in recent years that everything is blown out of porportion.

As for adult rights, like I said, common sense needs to be used and the adult should be able to determine what punishment is appropriate for the child. An example would be: a slap in the face or washing the mouth out with soap is an appropriate punishment for a child who is five and tells you to go suck a donkey's c**k. Then explain to the child WHY they recieve the punishment.

Answer 3

It sickens me the way people treat their children now. I'm 20 with a 1 year old and a 2 year old. When we go out in public, my girls will get a spanking if they act up. I was brought up by getting a spanking when I got in trouble and I turned out okay. It irritates me that when I disipline my children in public I get dirty looks and snide comments. They're my kids and I will discipline them the way I feel is best and believe me, time-out doesn't work for these two. I never got a dention in school and never had bad grades. During elementary school, if I did, I'd get a spanking. When I got in middle school and high school, I'd get grounded. I still don't curse around my parents or older family members. I was brought up not to do that. I was always taught that if you do the crime, pay the crime. Meaning that if I got in trouble with the law, I'd sit in jail. There wouldn't be no mommy and daddy taking care of everything. Same thing when I got pregnant. I moved out. I didn't think it was right for my father to have to have another child in his home. There are too many younger people now that will get pregnant and still live with their parents. Isn't there a time for them to take on responsibility? I finished high school with a baby. I didn't work because I didn't need to. My fiance worked his butt off so I could stay home with the baby and finish school. It's a shame that a lot of parents let their kids run over top of them. I had more respect for my parents than to demand something from them.

I have never been physically violent to anyone. I don't believe that a spanking causes a child to grow up and be violent. Maybe or more parents punished their children appropriately, there would be less morons in jail and on welfare. If you grow up having everything handed to you, you'll always expect that

Answer 4

Parents don't have the right to discipline their children properly anymore. They can give them time-out (yeah right), a good talking to (like that helps), Or risk losing them to bad behaviour or the system.
As a parent, I am sitting between a rock and a hard place. I have a very cheeky 10 year old, who is out of control, and the 2 times I tried to discipline her right, she got taken away by the authourities because she told her teacher about it, even though I never left a mark! I have her back now, but what does a parent do about bad behaviour?
We have our hands tied, and kid's are running rampant without the needed discipline!
I was terrified to talk back to my parents or any adult. No-one thinks about it anymore, respect is a thing of the past.
I could go on and on but it wouldn't do any good. This subject aggravates me so badly.

Answer 5

You'll find that actually if you are reported for "abusive" behavior and it turns out that you were merely disciplining them, you won't have that much trouble these days. It was worse ten years ago than now, since people are starting to realize that children must be disciplined to become civilized. A spanking won't land you in jail - hitting across the face or with a weapon will. As in most things that swing around, this pendulum is swinging back to the middle (at last!!)

Answer 6

Civilization happened!
We gave up our rights in an effort to be politically correct and protect everyone from everything.
Unfortunately for our children, life didn't make the same deal and people are still subject to consequences and the laws of nature. Our kids will suffer terribly as they grow into adults with no mommy and daddy or government to protect them then.
It is so sad.
When I look at playgrounds and see playground equipment being roped off or removed to protect the kids from learning the limits of their bodies and the laws of gravity I would like to throttle the people who point at McDonalds as the culprit in the obesity problem. We have allowed the "do-Gooders" to paint us all into a corner. I wish I knew how to pave a path back to personal responsibility.

Answer 7

I totally agree with you! I am astounded at how badly kids behave nowadays, and I'm only in my thirties.

When I was growing up, I would speak with respect to adults and ask permission before leaving the dinner table. Now kids have no respect.

When I was pregnant with my second child, a kid on a bicycle (around age 13) almost ran over my first child -- on the sidewalk -- at which point I admonished the kid to be more careful. He then punched me on my arm, almost knocking a pregnant woman to the ground. Lovely.

We need to punish kids when they behave badly. If corporal punishment is no longer allowed, we must be sure to ground them and revoke their weekly allowances. If punishment doesn't hurt (for example, a painless punishment is "Go to your room and watch your TV!"), it accomplishes nothing.

Answer 8

The totally anti-moral heads of the ACLU, are mostly to blame for such hypocrisy, and no matter what BS laws are legislated via the low-life lawyers, don't ever allow any outside groups, and or individuals to force their ill-will upon your personal life, thus if you're a parent that believes a hard swift stinging crack on the buttocks of your kid will teach him/her a lesson, then by all means do it.

Answer 9

Parents have given in. No parent should be or abuse a child, but children need discipine. The problem is that children are no longer responsible for their own actions. There are no consquences in society for poor behaviour. It's a breakdown.

Answer 10

You are so right. Dr. Spock put an end to real parenting. Makes ya wonder what the world is going to look like 30 years from now doesn't it?