mend my broken heart??

Question

This morning my boyfriend broke my heart, we have been together for almost a year and we have been living together for 8 1/2 months, and this morning before he left for work he told me that one of us had to move out and i had to make the decision today. i have been crying non-stop since he said this to me the tears wont stop! we have had a bit of problems over the last couple weeks but we have been trying to work on things, then he decides that he pretty much wants to stop talking to me and tells me to get away from him anytime i try talkin to him about our problems so that we can work thru them and move on. I love him with all of my heart and i dont want him to leave, i want to be able to work our problems, what can i say to change his mind? is there anythng i can say? how can i make these tears stop flowing and the pain go away? what should I do? just about any advice would help right now, i dont want to lose him! I love him! please help!?!

Yes i do know for a fact that he has talked to other girls behind my back, he says that there r all just friends, sometimes i belaive him sometimes i dont, like when he cant open his IM when im in the room, or he will close the laptop so i cant see anything, or like last night when i noticed him looking at some pics of other girls that had been sent to him... everybody tells me that i should leave him, but i cant, i love him, i want to be able to trust him and be able to work things out

over the past week and a half i have tried to get him to talk to me and try to work things out.... he needs to realize that i have A LOT more to be p*ssed at him about then he does at me, a lot of this wouldnt be going on if had not caught him sending pics of his c*ck to other girls thru picture msging on his phone, on more then one occasion, i am mad that he has done that, but at the same time i know he hasnt done anything physical with these girls cause they r all from far away, but those r only the ones that i know about, i dont know if there r any locals or not, but im still willing to try and work on things, he shouldnt be so p*ssed at me just b/c he got busted again, right?

Answer 1

face it , its over, no matter how bad you dont want it to be,it is.I know it hurts, and it will for some time,but it will get better over time,you will find some one else ....

Answer 2

Well think over the problems/arguments you had. Try to change a few things so that you both will be happy! Clean the house today and cook him a wonderful dinner with candlelight. Play soft music. Make it romantic♥Hope things work out for ya*

Answer 3

maybe you should ask him to sit down with you and talk about this tell him no action is going to be made until he explains his reasoning in full detail and if he cares about you he will you deserve atleast an explanation thats not fair of him just to shut down and give you no warning except for pack your bags by the end of the day dont make any assumptions or jump to conclusions when he tries to explain himself he will only get frusturated and walk out just tell him you want to hear what he has to say and then ask him if you can tell him how you feel i hope that things work out for the best im sorry you have to deal with this good luck!

Answer 4

Move on...in time the tears will stop and he pain won't be as intense anymore.

Everyone knows that it sucks to love someone and that someone doesn't love you back. I am sure lots of us has experienced that at some point in time in our lives.

Trust me...the pain will eventually subside, and the tears will eventually stop coming. Give it time...Remember it probably took you a while to fall in love with him, and it will probably take just as much time to stop loving him.

Keep the faith!

Answer 5

Obviously the problem can't be reconciled. Maybe sometime away from each other would make you appreciate each other more and see that the problem wasn't as big as it seemed at the time. If he says one must move out help him pack his things and play it by ear from there.

Answer 6

well i don't know what to tell you except that it is a really hard thing and very pain full, but what you should do is have faith and be very strong. if i where you i would show him that i am weak, i would show him that i am really strong in and out but you also don't want to sound careless. So when he come tonight tell him you need to talk to him and start by saying honey i love you and I've tried anything to please you but it seemed it's not working out.... speak in a very warm voice and the rest is up to you..Good luck!

Answer 7

Tell him to move and make sure he takes all he has with him in time you will feel better after all you have only been with him a short time out of your life , you got along just fine before him and you will get along just fine without him .

Answer 8

First thing is ask him why, why does he want to leave or why does he want you to leave.There's got to be a reason, is he cheating? is he looking at other women? First mistake was that you only knew him a couple of months before you moved in with him.I wish you luck.

Answer 9

okay i am sorry to say this sweetie but you need to move on...find a new love...even though you love him...or maybe just lil time away from each other would do you two good...he is a guy and it is hard to change a guys mind!!! good luck

Answer 10

Ask him what is the problem. try to make up with him. but if he has his mind made up it is really hard to change it. I hope all works out.