my bf and i have been together for about a month and a half now. i really like him. we've been having some problems lately. i've been gettin mad at him for little things kind of. we talked about breaking up once and hes like well i dont really want to because lately well we've just been having probs. and now its all awkward he's hanging out w/ his friends a lot more and not really spending time w/ me. i call and he'll be with his friends and he'll be like im busy ill ttyl/call back and never does.
should i just end it now or give him time to cool off from our almost breaking up?
or any other options?
2006-06-18 04:59:20 · 22 answers · asked by JesskuhC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for all saying "see if he likes you" when i was like maybe we should just end it, he was telling me he loved me and didn't want to let go because he loved me
2006-06-18 05:18:43 · update #1
for all the ppl who are like give him time to clear his mind: well..i'm afraid that he'll forget about me and meet someone else if i give him time or think that i dont like him anymore
2006-06-18 05:21:25 · update #2
There's always options, you have only been together for a short while so you don't have a lot of time invested into this relationship yet.
It would be easy to just walk away but, if you do still really care for him then may be you to should go out and spend sometime with your friend instead of locking yourself up and waiting for this guy to call you, you and he is still young so you have all the time in the world to get all serious and tied down with someone, right now give him sometime to miss you, instead of you tracking him down all the time, switch it around, if he is still crazy about you he will come looking for you no doubt....try it.
Good Luck.....( =
2006-06-18 05:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that you've been getting mad at him for the smallest things. Ask yourself why that is? Are you trying to break up with him on a subconscious level and perhaps you want to spare his feelings by not initiating the break up? Maybe the nit-picking is a way for you to drive him away without having to actually "break up" with him. Ask him if he wants to be friends for a while and give the relationship a try when you both have sorted thing out internally.
You say that he's no longer spending time with you. Could it be that he's just avoiding you because he doesn't want you to be mad at him all the time or he's giving you space until you sort things out for yourself?
2006-06-18 12:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by Luvly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wait for him to break up with u, so u should initiate the break up right away. based on your statement he was not spending more time with u. that is one basis that he's avoiding u. he didnt call u back as he said he will does. come to think of it, if he loves you, he will not do those things to you. he will not say unreasonable excuses like what you've said. dont u ever give him considerations or chances bcoz u dont deserve to be treated that way. love is not enough to keep the relationship. u need to grow as a person.
2006-06-18 13:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and end it now B4 you get to attached and it gets harder the longer u wait. there is some one out there that u will get a long with and want to spend time with you..I would much rather be happy alone then be sad or upset with some one that doesn't even want to spend time with me...there are a million other fish in the sea girl..have fun and be single till u find the right one :):):) GOOD LUCK
2006-06-18 12:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by J~me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him cool down a little you know its easy to see that he wants time to himself so he can think to about the whole break up conversation. dont just end it because hes clearing his mind give him some time and he'll come around.
2006-06-18 12:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by leonycbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he did more than "almost" broke up. Sounds like he's already broken up, and you just aren't getting the message. Read the book, "He's just not that into you." If he's not calling, returning calls, spending time with you, in other words, acting like he likes you, then he doesn't and you need to just let go.
2006-06-18 12:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should break it off with him or talk to him, go to his house one night and talk to him about how you feel. It's not right that he is treating you this way. That happened to me once, and i asked one of his friends why he was doing that he i found out he was cheating on me. Which was horrible. But he was a jerk, maybe your guy is different.. But talk to him and tell him how you feel that really helps.
2006-06-18 12:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by lcip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a month old saga..give it some more time..and ask urself in his absence r u really missing him that much? or is it just frustration? Talk to him and understand whether he really wants u? ask urself the same question and follow ur heart.
2006-06-18 12:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by The Guru® 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had the same thing happen...and it's up to you what to do...I understand. I would give him maybe a week or so, you guys sound like you're smothering yourselves. Don't be so close to him 24/7...you have to miss each other to want each other.
2006-06-18 12:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by rockerbowler18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look what i think you should do is wait a week or two thencall him up and say don't say your busy i know that then ask him what you need to too keep your relation ship flowing!!! if you really like the guy try your best not to break up with him!!
best of wishes!!!!
2006-06-18 12:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋