2006-06-18 04:13:10 · 10 answers · asked by CortneyLynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, I am so sorry for your lose. It is going to take time. My brother passed away in 1998. And to this day I still miss him so much. What I did for my brother is I put together a memorial run in his honor. By memorial run I am referring to a motorcycle run. I meant for this to be a one and only type run to help me in dealing with his passing. He was only 49 when he died. The run was such a success that I did this run for five years. OH just for your info ANY and ALL money raised from this event I donated to Veterans homes. But this worked for me. What might help you is, if there was a favorite place your grandpa liked to go. Then go there, sit down and talk to him. I know this sounds crazy, BUT you'd be surprised how much it will help you. But know in your heart that Grandpa would want you to be happy for him as he is in a much better place now, and he is waiting for you to join him in another 70 years or so. You might also think about having a mass in his honor on some Sunday in the future. It's summer now, so maybe you can have a cookout with your family. And make sure to set a place for Grandpa. Really, I'm not kidding. You'd really be surprised. But I hope I have helped you in your time. If you want send me an e-mail if you have questions. Take care and God Bless you and Grandpa. I'm sure Grandpad is proud to say from above "That's MY grand daughter"
2006-06-18 04:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on your age and how close you are with grandpa: With time, your sorrow will subside. It would be sad if you forgot him overnight, or all together. My grandpa died 24 years ago, and I remember him as if he would just walk into this room right now. I remember the good times we had, the fun things we did, and rejoice that I have these memories. He was a carpenter by trade, and would make little wooden blocks for us. He would sit on floor for hours showing us how to build towers and bridges with the simple blocks. devote some time to the memories. allow yourself to be sad, but set time limits. Create a scrapbook of pictures, stories, list the things you used to do together.In time,you will have a very nice keepsake to remember him by, plus you will be creating something to share with your children or your other family members. Remember, you are not alone, you have other family ( i am assuming) who may be feeling the same way you are. Build the quality relationship with your children,if you have any, or their children, that will carry on your grandpa's values, beliefs, good deeds, and memories for the generations to come.
2006-06-18 11:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by bareicutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to think about your Grandpa. Try remembering the fun times you had with him... talk to your mom and dad about him. Cry if you have to. You don't want to forget. Right now the pain of losing him is sharp but it will become dull after time passes. Talking about him keeps his memory alive and he will always be in your heart...so don't worry about getting your mind off him...
2006-06-18 11:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by grmm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to keep your mind off of it, you will be more sad. Just remember the good things about him, and you will get over it eventually. You just need some time to accept it.
2006-06-18 11:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by Leah G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to grieve or doing that now. It wouldn't be a bad thing to talk to a couselor if it's bothing you too much. If you belong to a church, go ahead and talk to your priest, rabbi or preacher. I can tell you things that might help you but I would be assuming too much. I don't know what you believe.
2006-06-18 11:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the best way to get over your grief is to grieve about him. You can only heal if you think about how much he ment to you. Over time the good memories will turn to good feelings about him and you'll feel at piece with loosing him. Its only human nature to miss him.
2006-06-18 11:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by sicilygal2581 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why keep your mind off of it? He was your Grandpa! :-)
2006-06-18 11:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by sam21462 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try watching movies with ur friends always keeps my mind occupied
2006-06-18 11:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should allow yourself to grieve for him. In time, you will not think of it so often. My condolences.
2006-06-18 15:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Well, that's the whole point!
The reality is, that we're all going to die...
In the meantime, you can take a class in spelling, or perhaps learn to use "spell-check"!
2006-06-21 06:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋