their mom abused their dad really bad and she sometimes tries to brain wash them by saying there dad does not care about them,the kids live with us and he said he is letting his ex dig her own grave,well anyway what does that mean???and should i love the kids as much as i love my own ??
2006-06-18 04:09:51 · 13 answers · asked by happybunnyjg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
of course u shud....and if u dont ....im sure u will in due time, if they love u so much
2006-06-18 04:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by megalomaniac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, I feel really bad for the kids. They should not have to be put in the middle of a situation like that. Yes, you should love the kids as much as you love your own but make sure that they understand that you are not their mother. I've seen situations where kids do not live with their mother and they start to slowly talk to their mother less and less and feel as if the other person is their mother. So just make sure that they still keep a relationship with their own mother. The reason that they have become so fond of you is because they are around you a lot more. Their mother is obviously delusional if she thinks their dad doesn't care about them because why would they live with him if he didn't. Everything will be fine.
HOPE THIS HELPS
2006-06-18 04:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by nh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is stop setting a bad moral example for both sets of children and make your relationship official by getting married.
Also it sounds like your b/f had a bitter break up and the thing for adults to do in such a case is to set a good example for the children by making sure they don't talk bad about the other parent behind that person's back. Instead they need to forgive the other parent and put the interests of the children ahead of the natural tendency people have to try to use the children as a weapon against the other parent.
Once you get married you should love the children on the inside as much as you can but on the outside you should be sure not to show obvious favoritism but treat them all with equal love and kindness and empathy and compassion.
2006-06-18 04:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you may think they love you more than mom, they're kids. Give them a chance for you'll to get to know each other during daily living together. The first time you need to reprimand them for something, they will begin to feel differently towards you.
Come back when they turn 16 and 15, and let us all know how beautifully it's going.
2006-06-18 04:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you can ever love someone elses kids as much as you love your own, you can show them all the same amount of attention, give them all the same choices in life, but I don't think deep down the "love" factor will be as great. So I suggest showing them you love them as much and do the best you can to make them feel loved. But know its OK to not feel the same. I am the youngest of 4, and my mother loved us all equally as much, but she loved us all differently. Which was fine, because it made us all individual.
2006-06-18 04:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer actual. should be brother. He would ought to were conceived at the same time as he became 9. very not likely because the body isn't waiting to procreate at that age. He has no longer reached puberty even now. His testes have not completely grown and therefore won't be able to fertilize the egg. This must be a pretend positioned up.
2016-11-14 22:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you adopt these children they will NEVER be yours.
I've seen it many times. The heart-break of caring for children without any authority or legal recourse.
That said........those kids need love and a strong Mother-figure.
I wish they had a strong Father-figure..... but they obviously do NOT .....and that will cause problems for everyone in the house.
2006-06-18 04:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by TeaSwami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can tell you how much you should love these kids. But it sounds like to me that they need someone to love them. THe kids need to find out on their own how she is. In the long run, you will come out on top if things are like you say they are.
Good Luck
2006-06-18 04:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should love them like your own
they dont have a mother
your there mother now
your taking care of them
your raising them
there yours now
anybody with a mother that bad, needs comfort
2006-06-18 04:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should! I think that they need to know that someone loves and cares for them and that God put them here on this Earth for a reason....to be loved.
2006-06-18 04:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should love them but i dont think as much i would never be able to i doubt best of luck
2006-06-18 04:34:15 · answer #11 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋