I'm deeply in love with someone and he happens to be a christian. I come from an orthodox hindu family and i know that my parents will never allow this. I beleive in only one God and so does he.I have a younger sister. My friends are telling me that if i marry him, my sister's life will be ruined since she'll not get good marriage proposals. I dont want to destroy my sister's life for my own happiness.But I cant leave my family for him or leave him for my family. I dont now what to do. Pls help.
2006-06-18 03:48:25 · 22 answers · asked by Priya 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should always marry someone whom you love cause with that person you have to spend your life.......It really doesn't matter whether he belongs to your religion or not.
GOD has created all of us and men have created religions to suite themselves.
Marry someone who cares for you, caste and religion are immaterial in the long run.
2006-06-18 03:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking for a personal opinion which has no validity when trying to determine both religious law or rules, and family issues.
Clearly your family is not "Americanized" or your spousal choice would not impact your sister.
You sound young. Have you been dating this man long? Has HE brought up marriage or are you just optimistically thinking ahead?
Perhaps this isn't the right person. Understand this (I taught my own daughters this one): a person can be wonderful and great and still not be the right match for a spouse.
You could choose to abandon your family and run off with this man and marry him. Others have done this. You have said this is not something you can do, nor is it necessarily something you should do.
Family life is so much richer when your whole family and his can mingle and bring that history and richness to your childrens' lives. You will miss out on this if you go against your family. Or..they might just miss you enough to forgive you. I can't tell you either way.
In the "right" relationship. you should not have to choose between family and your spouse. This doesn't mean that sometimes families are wrong, but look at how this question is already tearing at your heart?
I would think that at this point, you should talk to your parents and have a deep heart to heart with them. Perhaps their answers will surprise you.
Quite frankly, without that adult conversation with your parents, running off with your man would be immature. Only after you have truly tried to work out a compromise with your parents can you decide if that is the right thing to do.
And if you are deeply in love with a man who has not asked you to marry him, perhaps this relationship is not as good as you think. Women often fall head over heels in love, blind to what their man really feels.
So you have some thinking and talking to do.
Best of luck.
Oh..and the Beatles lied - love is NOT all you need. One only needs look to a divorce rate that is more than half of all marriages to see that love isn't enough to make a good marriage.
2006-06-18 03:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great perspective Lori.
The way you are putting the question suggests you are too young to decide about your marriage. Why not take your time.
You are keeping your parents ignorant about your decision already. They did give you enough freedom and trust you. Otherwise you would not have been able to be close with that guy at all. So return the favour a bit. Tell them. And disscuss pros and cons with them.
They may get angry or shocked at first. But it would be better for both you and your parents. If the guy is really worth it, they very well can be supportive.
Note:
you are already being told to convert by other answerers above!!
How about your BF?
2006-06-18 07:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by rian30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a Christian (Catholic) and my wife is a Jain. There were murmurs to begin with which is natural I suppose but we married in a Catholic Church yet we are both religious with different views and we can accept it with no problems. We had trouble from my now brother in law but once everyone realised that we loved each other no matter what then things settled down. We are based in the UK.
You have to do what is right for the pair of you. It is not wrong if you marry each other and if people can't accept that then they have to live with their decisions not you. We all make our own paths in life and this is and will be a great test of your love for one another. Good luck
2006-06-18 04:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all... please go ahead and do what your heart feels is right... and take sucha a decision which you will not regret later.... if you dont marry him please do not cry later on about not doing so... if you do happen to marry him think would your family accept you if god forbid you had a fight with this gut.. go ahead take a decision which becomes a fine example for your sister... n tell your parents in the whole bhagwat geeta(which i happened to read) does not contain any thing about marrying a person of another religon.. god bless
2006-06-18 03:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kabir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer about the citizenship and legal issues. As for the religious issues, they are personal and you need to take the decisions regarding conversion and such. If your family and "frnds" do not support your decision then they don't really support you, do they? Love and marriage shouldn't have anything to do with religion. Do be sure to tell your parents that. Good luck. Make sure you know this girl well before you decide to convert and all that.
2016-05-20 00:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong for a Christian to marry a non-Christian. The Bible says: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"--2 Corinthians 6:14
This passage is referring to marriage.
It is not enough that you only believe in one god, if it is not Jesus, then you will be unequally yoked. You will not be pulling in the same direction. Your marriage will bring him down and may lead to his destruction.
2006-06-18 04:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by bigrob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu may understand this sentence,
Majhab Nahin Sikhata Aapas mein bair rakhna.
So religion can never be a barrier in such matter.
Go Ahead with the decision
2006-06-18 03:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong. Your family may not be pleased for a long time however they'll still be your family and nothing will change that. You'll have to decide if you want to make everyone else happy while you're misserable or make yourself happy with whom you love.
2006-06-18 03:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ticki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every has its own culture and traditions and systems. if any one wants to marry a different religious person (man or woman) it is very difficult to adjest to that religious family espicially for woman. because the family activities, attitudes, customs, traditions and systems are different from that one came. it is easy to say "we can adjest and live in hormone. it may be true or not. but the children of that couple face a number of difficulties in society because of their parents act. so it is better not to adventure to marry a different religious person.
2006-06-18 04:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by bharathy k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋