How does one become attractive just by being themselves?

Question

Just by looking at people around me, or watching TV, i've kind of have an idea of what girls like and i've heard them say things like "that guy is so hot" . I'm not hot nor attractive, so how can i ever get a girl's attention if i'm the quiet type of person and don't have any atractive qualities.

Answer 1

You can only do so much about how you look. Long term attraction depends on having some shared interest and a personality the other person finds appealing. Long experience, including a failed marriage have taught me it's better to be rejected for who you are than to be accepted as someone you are not.

Answer 2

Well, I feel exactly the same way you do to towards guys. I'm sorta shy and not physically that attractive, yet I always remember that everyone is different so what someone might percieve as nothing someone else may percieve as beautiful. You always want to just be yourself, because you would want the girl to like you for who you are, not someone you are pretending to be. I'm sure if you have a good personality and let it shine through a nice girl would see that, and love you. I know I would, lots of people have trouble getting over their ego and it is very rare and wonderful to find someone who is honest, and real.
Good luck ♥ man, I'm sure you'll find a great girl soon! :]

Answer 3

You have attractive qualities and there are girls out there who like the "quiet type". The one's you have to bend over backwards to get to notice you aren't worth having. Someone will come along who really sees YOU for you and LIKES what she sees. While it sucks being alone, it sucks even worse being with the wrong person. Patience.

Answer 4

Naturally we all have our own qualities. But Nobody is attracted by anybodies quality. Since being quiet is one best quality, don't worry you will be more attractive if you practice one important thing: self confidence. Ask agirl what you want to ask, don't try to act as others....so that you will be attractive.

Answer 5

Its the person inside that counts. Where are you trying to find someone at??? Are you going out to bars??? Or to church??? You don't say how old you are??? There is nothing wrong with being the quiet type!!! You might have to come out of that safety zone a bit though to find someone. Good luck.

Answer 6

Because you are trying to date girls! Women are attracted by men who have your qualities. Girls want to party and have meaningless relationships. It is not age, it is personality and attitude. I have seen 12-year-old women, and I have seen 50-year-old girls. Stick with the ones that have mentally "grown up." The others will date you today, dump you tomorrow.

Answer 7

if you have to ask that question, then it seems like you don't have much personality. Do what you want to do, don't go by what society tells you what you should do. Try starting a new hobby or just be yourself, and stop watching so much tv (like me), but watch the breakfast club, thats a good movie.

Answer 8

Theres somebody for everybody, for the longest time I had low self esteem cus I have dark skin, but I'm not going to pretend to be something else to get the fella's to like me. What is it about yourself that you dont like? Like I said, I hated my dark skin but after years of convincing myself that black was beautiful I embrace it, people cant help what they look like for the most part, but if its something u can help, then do what u can to make the best of it, dont stop being who u are inside.

Answer 9

well if you change they wont like the real you so just get out there im sure some girls will find you hott or cute or something all girls have different taste in guys

Answer 10

Someone will probably come along, who will find all of ur flaws attractive......bcoz theres no standard definition to attractiveness....its all in the mind.....dont try too hard