Christian wives....are you subservient to your husband?

Question

How far do you allow this to go?
Do you 'draw the line' at a certain point?
This is a really interesting concept, considering the age we're living in.

Answer 1

They should be--Paul says that they are not even allowed to speak in church, but must wait till they get home and ask their husbands any questions they might have...as if the brainwashed husband is going to know any more than his equally brainwashed wife. Women, according to him, are being punished for what Eve did. The sad thing is that so many women actually accept this nonsense, even to the point of enduring a horrifically abusive marriage for fear of incurring God's wrath. It must be awful to have such a low opinion of oneself.

Answer 2

I'm a Christian, I'm a wife. I'm subservient to no one but God.
This idea that we should let our husbands just run over us is archaic and can be a real danger in todays world.
Some of the "laws" that people think are from Jesus's teaching are really laws from history. At that time it was expected that women would keep quiet and do what they were told. It was also expected that you didn't eat shell fish or pork. And that you should cut your hair if you are a woman. Jesus said "these are the old ways. There is a new law. Love your God and love your neighbor."
I try to follow the new law set out by Jesus. The submit to your husband "law" goes with the "give unto Ceaser" remark about taxes. You should follow the law of the land in the time you live. Obey the laws that the government sets out. Submit to your husband was just another law of the times.

Answer 3

Yes, I draw a line. The very same line the Bible draws. Let's take a look at what it REALLY says on this issue:

Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

That would seem to be pretty clear. But is that all there is on the subject? Let's investigate a bit further:

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Eph 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Eph 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Eph 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Eph 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Wow! It seems as though the husband has a serious responsibility here! He must LOVE me, as CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH!! That's one heavy duty responsibility. How many men are truly up to it?

Answer 4

I am a Christian Pastor and will tell you freely that no women is subservient to man.
That is a Bible verse that is used to demean and control women.
If you read it you will find that she is to submit to the authority of her husband as HE SUBMITS TO THE AUTHORITY OF CHRIST.
Naturally any man that submits to Jesus Christ is going to treat his wife in a correct manner.
While I'm on a rant;
God gave man the greatest gift of all through His Son Jesus Christ.
Absolutely true.
But he also gave man another gift, woman.
That's not to say she is a possession, but a precious gift from God and she should be treated as such.

Answer 5

We are supposed to be.

1 Peter 3:1
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,

Answer 6

I draw a line! You cannot just go around doing things that people tell you to do all the time. That can make for a very unhappy life. And if a husband decides he is going to make all decisions, your work, what you wear, when you can go out, who you can go out with, whether you should cook "everyday" etc etc, well, I just dont think a woman is herself then. If she does everything he wants then she is actually "him" and "living his life".

Answer 7

We were created to Praise and Worship our Creator, God the Father. His Son Jesus Christ formed us in His own image and breathed into our nostrils and we became a living soul.
We betrayed God in the garden of Eden when Eve was tempted by the devil and she ate of the forbidden fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. Then she gave the fruit to Adam and he ate also.
Eve had been told by the Devil, in the form of a serpent, that if she ate of the fruit that she would be like god. But this brought sin and death on mankind.
God so loved the world that he sent his only begotten Son that whosoever would believe on Him should not died but have everlasting life. John 3:16
I Pray that this helps you.
David

Source(s):

King James version of the Holy Bible

Answer 8

I am not a literalist Christian and I am a very independent person, but I do submit to my husband. I do this because he also submits to me as should be done. I respect and listen to what he has to say as he does to me. He is the provider and takes care of me therefor i keep a clean house and provide him with food and take care of his needs at home.

My first husband did not respect me as a person and i would not submit to him. I fought with every thing he did and said.

Answer 9

I will consider my wife is as submissive. Not that she is my slave, where I order her around. But she respect me and honor me in front of my friends, and we make join decisions together with me having the last say.

It is not easy, after all, she graduated from one of the world class university, and is a manager in her office. In our earlier years of marriage, we have lot's of struggle over it. But I guess, as years goes by, we learn more about love.

To those who felt that there should be a line to drawn, may i ask of you to read the letters of Peter. I believe you will find that Peter is teaching them to suffer for good. Suffer from who? Their husband who had wrong them.

I am not saying that as man, we should make our wife suffered. Bible teach us to love them and protect them, as Christ love the Church. That is my role as man.

But for the women, I believe the bible never teach about drawing the line. Again, man and wife relation vary from culture to culture. We should not impose the way of our culture into others. But rather, see what the teaching of the Bible, and apply it.

As far as I believe, the teaching of the bible is, that slave and wife, if your man is hard, and you are suffering, continue to do good, so that the Holy Spirit may change the heart of your man, and save him.

Answer 10

Christians are better than hindu jerks.