my ex bf called me the other night because he wants to meet up and talk again!!! I am engaged to the love of my life and would NEVER go back to my ex!! but he says there is stuff we need to resolve!! the reason me and him broke up was cuz he kiss his ex right infront of me!! should I or shouldn't I meet up with him?!
2006-06-18 02:49:21 · 33 answers · asked by Devin S. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes of course I am totally happy with my fiance!! I just don't understand after 3 yrs and me moving away and crap he had to call me!! he ruined our relationship NOT me!
2006-06-18 03:01:29 · update #1
you have to question yourself. My fiance maintains a friendly relationship with 2 of her ex bfs but there is one that she wants nothing to do with. It really depends on how you feel about him. let him know if you do go that you are engaged and that you are in love and you do not want him to try and ruin that for you. If he really wants to resolve issues than it may be just a apology. he may also just need closure IN that part of his life. Tread lightly. Maybe see if you can talk over the phone or ask if you can bring your fiance with you.
2006-06-18 02:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by Adam A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow. u're in a sucky position.
cuz if u dont see him again, u'll probably keep thinking of how things would have been or what he would have said and etc...
that could really haunt a person.
on the other hand, if u went ahead a met him... it might put ur engagement on the rocks cuz your fiance might not understand, get jealous and etc.
maybe u shouldn't meet with your ex... just keep it to a phone conversation. but before that, tell your fiance about this. make sure he understands why you're doing this. cuz contacting an ex behind your present partner is wrong.
sigh... u know whats the suckiest part? i actually feel that u still have feelings for your ex... whether its true feelings or the weight of the memories, i dont know. but... sigh. be careful. and don't throw away your present life for the past... keep reminding yourself why u guys broke up in the first place and tell yourself not to go back there again. you love your fiance. and u're happy with your current life. (u are right?) *hugs* good luck hun!
2006-06-18 02:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you left him because he kissed his ex in front of you. I hope it was not like a friendly kiss because that would be pretty stupid. Ex's are ex's for reasons. You are only wanting to see him again to resolve that you don't have any feelings for him, which if you are in this situation, you still do. I would not go and see him because you will do something you will regret and ruin this impending marriage you have now.
2006-06-18 02:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Almighty Malachi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMM if you are so sure you are engaged to the love of you life then why are you even asking this question, ask you new love to go with you if you feel uncomfortable with the whole thing or meet in a really busy place.
2006-06-18 02:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: NO! You have nothing to resolve with him, you've moved on, you're engaged and, most importantly you are happy. Don't let his hang-ups and issues mess up your life because it's not your problem that he feels there is stuff to resolve. Tell him "No" and forget about it.
2006-06-18 02:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me that he now wants to kiss you while HES the EX. kinda like turning it around. or maybe he wants to try and do it in front of your fiance. I say DON'T DO IT. if you have moved on, than really move on. there is nothing that your old guy needs to resolve with you if YOU have moved on.
2006-06-18 02:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by NS42day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that whatever it is, tell you on the phone or write you a letter or something ... let you know exactly what it is, so you can decide whether meeting in person is necessary. After all, if you are happy with things as they are, why should you make changes just to accommodate his wishes?
2006-06-18 02:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! You have moved on already,,now, he needs to as well. You should also stop talking to him, or you're going to ruin a good thing you have with your fiance.
2006-06-18 02:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't even bother meeting up with him. It is a waste of your time since you have no intentions of any sorts. Be happy with the love of your life without looking back...
2006-06-18 02:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by pebbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can meet up too see what he says, but take a friend. that way there is a "safe zone" for you and an easy out. Meet somewhere like a coffee house that way if it gets to back you can always leave.
2006-06-18 02:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by babyfeary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋