Exactly how long should you wait for the mythical soulmate Mr /Ms right? till you go ** it & get what u can?

Question

So many talking about waiting for Mr right, Miss right, Soulamtes, things being specail etc...

But where are the contracts and gurantees and compensation if you dont?

Exactly how long should you remain this pure virgin before you realise you been conned and lied to, ain't going to happen so get what you can whilst you still can IF you can?

16,17, 18, 19, 20,21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27,28, 29, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50, 55, 60, 65, 70, 80, 90 ....

Looing for speficis here...


Bearing in mind...

You are only surrounded by inexperienced and first timers all you own age in high school,

nly surrounded by lots let off the leash and experimental with lots of parties in uni/college,

Then can only go clubbing/bars after 21, but you have to make perfect impressions in seconds and be outstanding at chatting up and seduction and looks in bars and clubs or stand no chance against the competition who honed the art with prevous experience.

Then from late 20s most are couple up

In 30s you are considered past it with nobody to partuy with as all are in long term couple pretty much with kids.

40s body clokcks and all that and deff considered too old for singles nights. 50s you would probably have to pay,

60s and above like the words snowballs chance in hell comes to mind and any older you would probably die trying...


So how long do you wait or should all parents saying abstain or wait sign a contract that the kid gets $1000,000 conpenstation every few years. After a set age if they not only don't meet this mythical soulmate, perfect partner and know what to do (ie how to get them and keep them). To make up for all they have lost out on and all the hurt they feel.?

As not everyone gets this souls mate age 18 so what do they do?

WHAT IF THEY DON'T. ? IF WHEN THEY DON YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT? OR TOO OLD?

INSTRUCTIONS

AS SO FAR NOBODY FOLLOWED... SPECIFIC FIGURES


IE NO LATER THEN 28 YEARS ... IM LOOKING FOR NUMBERS NOT ABSTRACT ANSWERS

Answer 1

they just come alone u never know when

Answer 2

To begin with, there is no ONE right person. Any two people that WANT to make a great relationship can do so. However finding two people who really want to do so can be more challenging.

Separating lust from real love is almost impossible in the beginning and one must really look at the habits, character, and goals of someone you meet to really figure out if there is enough for mutual compatibility.

If you turn a blind eye to things that will be problems, it won't work.

That aside, I have always said I'll know the right person when I have a best friend that I really love to have sex with.

Now that isn't enough; you have to have common goals too. If you have to put aside your own dreams, it isn't the right person.

As to when you'll meet someone? I don't think that is predictable, however I will tell you something I learned both from experience and watching others - you need to NOT try to make every attractive person you meet FIT your bill. Either they do or they don't.

You also can't rush it by setting deadlines or thinking "I better marry this person or it may be my last chance." I did this at 25 and it was horrible. At 46 I can tell you (after several relationships and now finally, maybe having the right person) that there ALWAYS will be someone else. You just don't know if it will be tomorrow, next week or in 2 years.

Last piece of advice - take a look at what you have really chosen as important atributes in a mate. Are they really good choices? Where are you inflexible, where is it okay if they don't match?

Shopping off a checklist is often very defeating because then you are looking for a standard of perfection no one can meet. Also these lists are often very shallow - educated, hot, no children, never married, rich, etc.

Especially as you age (probably not a great idea for someone still young), you may have to broaden your fishing pool to catch a good fish. I used to only date college educated men, now I'm with an electrician and he's the best partner I've ever had! He is intellectually interesting, compassionate and rings my chimes!

Just a few years ago, I would have closed my eyes to him.

So my point is that you shouldn't set a deadline, or settle for someone you have doubts about.

Get out, date and have fun. That's another thing - trying to judge someone for "potential" too early takes all the fun out of dating and puts pressure on THEM that most people will run from. So perpetually seeking the right person, may well be scaring them away.

There is no standard of "too old" anymore. BTW, I would strongly suggest that finding a lifetime love EARLY in life, say under 25 is almost impossible. Mind you, many will feel they've found that person that young, but a better than 50% divorce rate (plus those that stay married for religious reasons but aren't happy) AND the high rate of cheaters would suggest maybe they aren't finding real, lasting love.

It makes sense to give yourself time to determine who YOU want to be as an adult. Finish school, choose and begin your career path. Learn to live a life free of debt and discover who you really are. That makes it a lot easier to start a relationship on solid ground and with lower odds of the problems cropping up that kill love.

Live and love your life and love yourself. Get out and have fun. You will meet someone great!

Oh..and a bit of preaching - a baby NEVER makes a relationship better, even if it keeps a couple together a bit longer than they should stay together. Children bring stress and will kill a relationship that is rocky. If you wait until your marriage is good, the odds that you will raise your children together go way up. Single parenthood is not the preferred way to go for anyone.

Answer 3

Ok, you've planned it all out here (maybe too much?) Say you give up by the time you are 29 years old for fear of the body clock, then when you are in your 30's and married to someone who is 'nice' but not you're dream person, then what if you meet you're actual soulmate? What would you do, have an affair, or stick to the one you married? So I would never give up.
Personally I waited until I was 17 (yes that is waiting) and I reckon I've found the Mr Right.
Definate age? 26.

Answer 4

At the end of that day, you wait until you feel that you've been cheated by fate or you've found your soulmate.

There is no "system" of compensation as each person's tolerance is different. Personally with hind-sight my life could have been very different, but when working with so many possibilities no can really say.

As long as two people like each then thats a great start. What you believe is right as long as it doesn't hurt anyone.

Answer 5

the proverbial "you are screwed" would fit nicely here, waiting on your soulmate? why would you wait and look in every set of eyes you see trying to determine if that is "the one" ? haven't you noticed that most things come to you in life when you least expect them? give up the search and just enjoy meeting people and having fun, maybe you aren't ready for your "soulmate" yet. sexual experience won't make you any more ready if your soulmate is a virgin. if you believe in the soulmate thing, you must believe there is a force guiding your destiny. that force works best when you don't try to manipulate it. you may have already met your soulmate and aren't aware of it yet because you aren't ready. take it easy , have fun, let life work it's magic.

Answer 6

This has been a question that has plagued my thoughts for years and is definetely a comfortable one for someone of color. i'm merely puzzled by ability of the theory that lengthy hair is the classic of attractiveness. As someone who will probable never boost my hair longer than my shoulders as maximum african american females, it type of feels that we won't ever be got here across eye-catching depending upon this question. no longer in reality is this superficial although that's bewildering. i'm no longer effective a thanks to really answer your question yet I definetely prefer to open some eyes. short hair will be captivating and merely as wonderful as lengthy hair and that i'm residing info and so are many others. So for all of you searching for that lengthy haired female, u will be lacking out on ur soul mate with the "short bob" lol.

Answer 7

Keep it simple.

You have no soulmate. Nobody does. You'll partner with someone who you really get along with, and grow comfortable with in time.

So, on the plus side, just about anyone could be your soulmate.

Think about what you want, and what you have to offer. Then think about what your ideal partner would be like, and think about where to meet someone accordingly.

Answer 8

Start looking, but dont just get with anyone. If you find someone and you know their your soul mate your done. But dont just settle. Keep waiting til you find the right person.