My boyfriend watches porn and I hate it. Every time I end up feeling worse and worse about myself and it gets to the point where I can not even have him see me naked anymore. I am 5'5", 130 lbs, in good shape.. but I feel completely disgusted and ashamed of my body now. I thought i looked good but I don't even compare to the porn stars that turns my bf on. i don't think my naked body even turns him on anymore! I don't want to feel ashamed anymore.. i've already lost about 10 lbs and am losing more to make myself feel somewhat better but I know this is not the answer. i feel so vain for caring but I am tired of feeling disgusted about the way I look and I want sex to be fun again instead of worrying about everything.
my boyfriend knows this is happening but he tells me to grow up and stop being a little girl
2006-06-18 02:34:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Woman should not compare themselves to porn. They ar nothing but fantasies. The woman on there are just as f'ed up as the next crazy lady. You should stop worrying about your looks because it is not that. You sound like an incredibly attractive woman. If the pornography is seriously putting a dent in your sex life, either throw out the porn or talk this over with your man. You might not be able to make him to dispose of the porn, but you can try to see what about them he likes about it. If he is unwilling to compromise on the issue, then you might have to try to distance yourself from him by not doing as much with him or just flat out leave.
2006-06-18 02:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Almighty Malachi 4 · 20⤊ 4⤋
The better thing to do is, if a person be your husband if he doesnt respect you and constantly watches such movie and ignore you and give more importance to porn star you should leave him. Such a person cant be brought to right path and according to your given addtnl imformation I think he is not your man .and if you need a company go out in search of better guy .You should not leave with a person who respects porn star more than you and this man is a bodylover not your feelings so you need not to give up extra calories to get him bcoz things will be same after some time .Good luck ,well wishes from wellwisher are always with you
2006-06-18 02:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Wellwisher 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, try watching porn with him. Many couples do this to build intimacy. That way you'll get a feel for what he likes sexually and then you can try out the things the porn stars which he watches do in the films. If you fulfill his fantasies, he'll probably be more than happy to fulfill yours too.
2016-05-20 00:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf used to watch porn as well.... and I can sympathize with you completely. You shouldn't feel ashamed at all. Some men just seem to be addicted. Ive adopted the facet that if it's that airbrushed porn....and not searching for real ppl to talk to and watch.... it's just that fantasy. You shouldn't have to change yourself unless it's specifically for YOU to feel better about YOU.... not to make yourself feel better for him. If your bf doesn't want to accept how u feel and he himself not give up that porn, maybe it's time to get a new bf. Relationships are work on both ends and if one doesn't respect how the other partner feels..... there's not much of a relationship there at all.
2006-06-18 02:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by WonderingMom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like like you're in good shape so if you're losing weight do it b/c u want to not b/c something somebody else wants u to. Porn is an entertainment industry, it's for fun & sometimes humor, not real life. You have all the same parts they have so essentially you're able to do all those same things (it may take a little practice but, practicing those things should be fun too). Cheer up bottom line is your b/f likes you and you're the one that gets to do those things with him not any of those girls.
2006-06-18 03:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am not missing something. First of all if you don't like your boyfriend to watch porn, you should tell him how you feel about that. For the second part, I should say that you are crazy if you think that you are not beautiful. Being ashamed of yourself is even worst !
2006-06-18 02:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Skyblue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing your boyfriend's habits to dictate your feelings, but of course you already know this. If, in being with him, you are losing yourself, why are you with him? Is it possible that it isn't the women in the porn, rather the act itself that turns him on? Is he still intimate and shows interest in you? If so, then perhaps he is right in the fact that you need to stop comparing yourself to those women. No one is perfect, movies are touched up, pictures are air-brushed. No one is flawless. Be secure in who you are, do not allow this to cause a complex....and never change yourself FOR someone else.
2006-06-18 02:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all about self confidence. u're being your own worst enemy. your bf already said u shouldnt think too much. and have u ever thought that the thing that really makes the porn stars look sexy is their confidence? thats what u're obviously lacking at the moment. its not the body. if your bf loves u, trust me, even if you're overweight, he wouldnt mind. what he needs is a gal who's confident and comfortable in her own skin. i was told that THAT makes a girl sexy. the next time u guys are in bed, dont hide away and get all insecure about how u look... its really how u carry yourself that makes a difference. so gurl, chin up and make that bedroom sizzle!
ps: guys get irritated easily when girls complain too much about their looks, becuz he doesnt think u look bad. thats why he's dating you. and 2ndly, if u become all reluctant and a wet blanket during sex becuz u lack confidence, thats a turn off.
2006-06-18 02:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that we know what turns your boyfriend on! I have to ask what turns you on? I think you may have allowed him to gain control of you in this relationship. Don't worry about him, think more of yourself! Do what you like, if it's a problem for him than it should be him to adjust! There is more to sex than porn movies!
2006-06-18 02:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by medicine ball man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! ... How about the women in TV and magazine and bill board ads, the ones in sit-coms and soap operas? Since commercial media and advertising are all around us, we are going to be bombarded by images of impossibly perfect people with amazing skin and faultless teeth and flawless bodies and every hair in place and totally awesome outfits (with matching accessories) ....
This is fantasy. These are not real people in the real world, these are professional models who are carefully presented by professionals who use artificial means to make the models appear better than real life. You shouldn't expect or aspire to compete with them. Forget it. Even Cindy Crawford will tell you that SHE doesn't look like Cindy Crawford ... it takes a professional photo shoot to make her look like Cindy Crawford.
Now about your BF watching porn. Do you mean that he watches in front of you and makes favorable comments about the actresses? That is despicable of him and he should stop. Why can't he watch his porn in private? Do you make him sit and watch "Chippendale" videos with you?
2006-06-18 02:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a beautiful woman... Get a new boyfriend. Someone how loves you for the way that you are. Not because the way you look. Someone how is going to make love to you. Not to ^%&* you. You BF needs to grow up. You do not need him.
2006-06-18 02:39:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋