I live with my mom and dad and my little brother. i dont know if my parents hate me or what but there are sometimes these times when they just randomly just yell and scream at me but they think my little brother doesnt really do anything, like he's perfect or something. i try talking to them but they tell me to go away or something like that. my grandparents are the same way. i mean im sure im loud and annoying sometimes but half the time i dont anything! how can i get them to just listen to me sometiimes?
2006-06-18 02:25:26 · 13 answers · asked by MELiSSA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sure your parents do not hate you...maybe it just seems that they yell at you for no reason listen closely to what they say and perhaps you will understand why they are angry...Now you say that they will not listen to you but are you sure that you are listening to them? Now perhaps the times you have tried to talk to them were times when they were busy maybe you should choose a time when they are not busy and try to discuss these problems.Make sure that you are listening as much as you wish for them to listen to you it is important that you listen to them. Most parents want whats best for there children and are probably doing there beat to teach you life lessons...so it is very important that you listen carefully to what they say and know that they love you and have your best interest in mind.
2006-06-18 02:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by djmantx 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It may help if you try to control your loudness and annoying ways for a set period of time (two days?). You will be noticed if you can control your outbursts. When you get their attention in this way, you can then try, calmly, to ask for a quiet talk with your parents and grandparents to let them know you are hurting because of their scolding ways. Don't try to make excuses. Together, you will be trying to reach a middle ground. They can work on improving their harsh treatment toward you, and you can work on being less annoying and more helpful to your family. Nothing will change unless you become the brave one to take the first steps. Good luck!
2006-06-18 03:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, parents yell more at the oldest child.
Not because they love the oldest child any less, but because they expect more out of the oldest child, and feel that since the oldest is the most mature, they can speak to the oldest child as they would to an adult -- that is, without cushioning their words in any way. In contrast, the youngest kid is always thought of as the baby.
I am a mother of 3 children, and I sometimes find myself expecting more of my oldest kid, talking to him as if he were an adult, and thinking that he should behave as well as an adult.
Then I have to remind myself that even though he is the oldest, he is still a kid, and kids are not adults and can't be expected to behave like adults.
I think you should talk with your parents and tell them how you feel. Sometimes parents need to be reminded that their oldest is stil a kid and not an adult.
BTW: I myself am an oldest child, and I lived through the same thing. :-)
2006-06-18 02:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a problem here at all!!
Grow up. I mean beyond your age & put yourself in their shoes. Dont assume you know you haven't done anything. Don't start hating people right away. Try the positive approach. Relax & give it time. If you still feel you are right just step up to them & tell them what you have in mind & all the steps you have taken in this regard. That way you have attempted to solve a problem & being unable to solve it yourself you are approaching the elders. Makes you look like a more responsible person. That scores extra points ;)
2006-06-18 02:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Capndon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I have teenage daughter and a younger son and she complains of the same as youhave just asked. As her mother i can assure her and you there are no preferences and i'm not saying she is imagining it. perhaps her brother is better at hiding things than her when they are arguing it is only her i hear. i am wrong sometimes as well, i do expect more from her than him as she is older and a bit brighter so i assume much more with her. i have never been dissapointed in either of them and you can only just try and hang in there. is there an aunt or family friend or school teacher that you can approach and let them know how you feel. it may be your hormones as things always seem worse at certain times. keep up the strength and please dont let them give up on you. let us know how you get on xx
2006-06-18 02:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i am sorry to hear bout your situation. at times parents can be jerks ut that do not mean they do not care. see if you are much older than your brother than they expect more of a leadership role from you to set for your brother. when the house is calm see if you can talk to them and listen to them without getting upset then maybe as a family you all will get to the problem. whatever they say give it some serious thought to see if what they is true. GOOD LUCK
2006-06-18 02:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you are obviously very sweet , and your family doesn't know how to affirm you. I feel sad for you . Try to find a friend from school you can have fun with or talk to, and will be a friend to you .
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Chuck
2006-06-18 02:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents treated me the same way until I got a tape recorded and taped the way they treated me. It was weird to because they didnt realize until then that they were so out of control
2006-06-18 02:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by kitysunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18 get a job and a room mate for a cheap apartment and go.
2006-06-18 02:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Ms. Laura. Tell them what you wrote here. Perhaps write a letter to them. Often things sink in when they are in writing.
2006-06-18 03:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋