This went on,Im not proud to say for 7 years, always with him saying one day...But when going got tough and I pressed he bolted. And now I still cant get him out of my head or heart..
2006-06-18 02:01:48 · 17 answers · asked by eknajarual 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
can the really mean people not bother to answer. I already feel bad enough, yes I know it was wrong, I can do without your judgement, was just looking for advise on how to move on, not on what I shouldnt have done. So if your inclined to condem me please dont bother I have done very will on my own with that.
2006-06-18 02:30:38 · update #1
Time to move on. In a way, you are lucky. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He would have broken your heart one day too.
Now, it's time to take care of you. My advice is simple:
1. DON'T go back. Don't see him or talk to him. That's it - it's over.
2. Give yourself time to grieve. Don't rush into another relationship.
3. Look at this as an adventure. Now, you get to focus on all the things you really like to do. So, kick back and figure out what those things are.
It's going to take time and effort. But, believe me, it will get better. One day, you will look back at this and say, "Thank God it never went through!"
2006-06-18 02:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by binta3rab 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You don't just accidentally "fall" in love with a married man. You make a choice to try to take something that is not yours. That's called "stealing". There are consequences to stealing. Maybe you ought to suck it up and learn a lesson. Someday you'll be married (unless you're a "career criminal".) You better hope that the women around your husband exercise better values and restraint than you did. Marriages need the support of society and they get very little these days when everyone is so laisez-faire about the "other women." I realize that life is not simple but this choice was: Do I violate someone else's marriage or not? So many of you "thieves" never end up marrying yourselves maybe because you clearly have no respect for the institution. Try thinking next time.
2006-06-18 02:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady I just went through the same thing. Except we have a child together. Yes everything the previous commenters say are true. We did have a choice whether we pursue them or they pursue us. Once we've found out that they lied, it should be the end at that moment. After 3.5 years he finally moved in with me this past January. AND she was pregnant. Her and I just recently talked and sure enough they started having sex not even a month after he left. Really kicked out. But let him tell it he told her he wanted to be with me. So now almost 4 years later and 3 kids later, her twice and me twice but aborted one, finally putting him out. And he doesn't even know it yet because he's at State Trooper School right now. I am bringing his stuff over her house tonight. Because I can say all day for him to leave. And he won't. So I packed his stuff for him.
2014-06-18 01:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Josette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lady,the first stance is that u wanted and allowed him to get involved with u ,thats how ur both intimacy formed.It seems he sounds to have alot of emotional burdens of his life which he finds outloaded on u thats how he gets light and after 7 years it seems u have realised about his baggage loading on u.Its not late you have taken a wise step,becuz there is no future with a married man gal.As far as u can't forget him its natural psycholgy of human brains,u cannot expect to forget in a day or 2 or a month.It takes time to forget and heal up!!!And u will definitely forget him like a mysterious fog if u stop thinking of him and keep urself BUSY and socialising .Everything will be fine in its course of time.All the best!!!
2006-06-18 02:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is a very long time but the thing is in general married men dont leave thier wives for the other woman. Let that be a lesson for you. But consider this a blessing because now you can find someone that is available for you the way that you need them to be, not someone you have to try and WIN.
2006-06-18 02:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously aware of the fact that having an affair with a married man was not only wrong, but stupid as well. All I can tell you is that time will cure anything. Don't call him, don't talk to him, don't write to him. Just stay away and in time you'll find that your heart is healing as well as your mind.
2006-06-18 02:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.King 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to get over a broken heart. It doesn't matter if he was married or not (regarding the broken heart). Just try to move on with your life by finding someone else. I know it's hard, but you need to move on. Been there...done that. You can't help who you fall in love with.
2006-06-18 03:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by boo66_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong in the first place with going with a married man, as he would have left his wife years ago if he wanted you, I'm sorry but you have brought it upon yourself. dust yourself down and move on there's plenty more fish in the sea but try and get one that's not married, good luck and i hope you met him soon.
2006-06-18 02:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start doing things that are good for you, find your own interests and create a happy world for yourself.
Keep so busy that thoughts of him can't have room in your day to take control.
Accept that its over and move on.
2006-06-18 02:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never fall in love with a married man because 99% of the time,they WILL NOT leave their spouse,they just want a mistress!!
2006-06-18 02:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by BECKER 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋