2006-06-18 01:51:24 · 31 answers · asked by desperate housewife 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am a social service worker, sworn to uphold the law to every degree where any form of abuse is prevalent, and I still say, A SPANKING IS NOT ABUSE! If more parents spanked, then maybe we wouldn't have the problems with teens that we do today!
2006-06-18 01:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by shire_maid 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if the child knows that his behavior is wrong. If the very young child doesn't have the comprehension of why the action is wrong it isn't the best idea. I can count on one hand how many times I've spanked my daughters that are now age 15 and 16. You should have seen the look on my 13 year old daughters face when I put her across my knee! I think it'd been 3 or 4 years since I swatted her on the butt.
2006-06-18 02:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by SonoranAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child, not in anger but as part of an overall discipline strategy. I knew in advance what I could get spanked for, so there were no surprises. I'm not saying that it's best for every child or parent but for many, it is.
2006-06-18 05:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Denny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as long as these go along with it:
When other attempts at discipline have been tried first and failed.
A discussion as to why the child received the spanking.
No objects such as a belt are used.
It's not the amount of pain that's important in a spanking but the amount of disappointment you felt in the child's actions that need to be expressed.
2006-06-18 02:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as with previous answer though. Talking about the infraction should follow the swat. And never spank if you as the parent have lost your sense of control. The child always needs to understand why they are being punished. And that there are ramifications for misbehaviour.
2006-06-18 02:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by robin t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. There's a difference between spanking and beating. I had more spankings than I can recall as a child and I don't have a nervous twitch or need counseling. God made hands and God made butts.. they go well together.
2006-06-18 05:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To spank as punishment shouldn't ever happened. I do spank though, but just to startle them, or hurry them along. If i catch them in the act doing something wrong, I 'll come up behind them and say "What do you think your doing?", and tap'm real fast. And When I send them upstairs for a time out, and they're moving really slow, just to pout a little more, I'll tap'm again and say "hurry up, go!"
2006-06-18 01:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. There's nothing wrong with showing kids whos's boss.
On a personal note, when I was a kid and I got in trouble, or misbehaved in public, I got a leather belt to the ***, and I turned out just fine. I work, I have a business, I served in the military, I educated myself ... spanking won't ruin your kids.
2006-06-18 01:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by dylanwalker1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, I got it when I was a kid and so do my own children occasionally. However, if it is used as the only form of punishment, the children seem to become "immune" to it, As I have seen in my oldest and a few other children. I have also begun using self inflicting physical punishments with my son; push-ups. It works wonders, they remember what they had done wrong and the consequences for their actions.
2006-06-18 02:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i belive that there are other ways to show a kid who is boss. i have never spanked my kids and ther are turning out fine. Time outs are fine, take away there toys but spanking seems a little to harsh.
2006-06-18 01:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by bruce a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋